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Multiple Selves?! Growing leaders applied. (OOP conference 2019, Munich)

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Mindfulness is well-known for reducing stress - but how does it contribute to our modern disruptive business world?
It does very well as it supports developing authentic human beings - the people who know when it is time to lead and when time to follow.
It helps to grow responsible, resilient and courageous individuals - the key contributors to business agility.
It supports us in delivering value in a sustainable manner.
It is about taking care for the future by being "in the here and now".
You're invited to be curious!

In this session we will first focus on language, identity and awareness and how these rather basic “human things” are highly relevant for modern leaders. I will guide you with the help of psychological concepts how to identify and strengthen your leadership abilities.
We will make connections to where you are right now ... and from there I will offer several techniques you can take right away to integrate mindfulness directly in your (business) life to actually take the next step towards your best possible selv(es).

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Multiple Selves?! Growing leaders applied. (OOP conference 2019, Munich)

  1. 1. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 1 Multiple Selves?! Growing leaders applied. Cosima Laube OOP Munich, 2019 #OOPmuc Why are YOU here? 1 2
  2. 2. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 2 cosima@laube:~$ whoami Why am I here? 3 4
  3. 3. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 3 Computer Work it is! Well, that escalated happened quickly... 5 6
  4. 4. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 4 „no people work“ ?? „the easier choice“ ?? Product Development is People Work 7 8
  5. 5. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 5 Fight Flight Feed Freeze Fear … back to university! 9 10
  6. 6. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 6 What colleagues thought I do... Bridge Builder & Travel Guide 11 12
  7. 7. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 7 Leadership starts with YOURSELF 13 14
  8. 8. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 8 “[…] the first person I need to lead is me. The first person that I should try to change is me.” [John C. Maxwell] What is a good first step? Leadership starts with YOURSELF 15 16
  9. 9. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 9 Leader-ship Leadership 17 18
  10. 10. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 10 Leadership starts with YOUR SELF Why are YOU here? 19 20
  11. 11. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 11 Quick Outline Some science… „Multiple Selves“ Model Even more science… How does the model work in detail? 21 22
  12. 12. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 12 How to grow (with) others? Where to start YOUR journey… How to grow yourself? „Multiple Selves“ Model [Atkins & Styles, 2015] 23 24
  13. 13. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 13 process story perspec tive 1. Self as story story 25 26
  14. 14. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 14 Self as story Pro: • predictability • coherence Con: - too past-oriented - often too rigid - limiting yourself Self as story 27 28
  15. 15. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 15 2. Self as process process Self as process 29 30
  16. 16. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 16 Self as process • socially useful ( predictability) • basis of self-regulation 3. Self as perspective perspec tive 31 32
  17. 17. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 17 Self as perspective pro- cess story pers pecti ve 33 34
  18. 18. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 18 pro- cess story pers pecti ve process story perspec tive 35 36
  19. 19. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 19 process story perspec tive 37 38
  20. 20. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 20 Psychological Flexibility ++ 39 40
  21. 21. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 21 Seeing the „whole“ picture 41 42
  22. 22. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 22 More options per situation YOU being the driver Psychological Flexibility Flexible, authentic, responsive Self [Atkins & Parker, 2012] 44 45
  23. 23. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 23 Psych. Flexibility Leadership skills increases Leadership Motivation Self-Management Self-Awareness 46 47
  24. 24. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 24 How does it work ? Multiple Selves Identity = behaviour + mental relations [Atkins & Styles, 2015] 48 49
  25. 25. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 25 Identity = behaviour + mental relations = what we do + what we think about it [Atkins & Styles, 2015] Identity = behaviour + mental relations = { 3 senses of self, social experiences, human ability to refer to past / future } [Atkins & Styles, 2015] 50 51
  26. 26. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 26 Psych. Flexibility Leadership skills Identity increases „… [identity] is NOT a reflection of some underlying true self.“ [Atkins & Styles, 2015] Identity 52 53
  27. 27. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 27 „… [identity] is NOT a reflection of some underlying true self.“ „[how] a person talks about [their] self is the act of creating an identity“ [Atkins & Styles, 2015] Identity Psych. Flexibility Leadership skills Identity Language creates increases 54 55
  28. 28. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 28 Main driver for Identity: Language [Relational Frame Theory: Hayes et al. (2001)] Where to start ? 56 57
  29. 29. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 29 1. Getting aware 2. 3. Talking & learning about the 3 Selves is a (self-)coaching intervention [Berger & Atkins, 2009] 58 59
  30. 30. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 30 1. Getting aware 2. Self-Talk 3. Psych. Flexibility Leadership skills Identity Language creates increases 60 61
  31. 31. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 31 proce ss story pers pecti ve Self-talk 62 64
  32. 32. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 32 I‘m the most important one here…. „I am the king of <FooBar42>…“ „I‘m a hero!“ „I‘m a guru in…“ 65 66
  33. 33. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 33 Which examples of self-talk come to your mind? 68 69
  34. 34. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 34 Where did it make a difference how you talked to yourself? 70 71
  35. 35. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 35 Best possible Selves (take-home exercise) [King, 2001; Blickhan, 2015] pro- cess story pers pecti ve 72 73
  36. 36. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 36 pro- cess pers pecti ve story 1. Getting aware 2. Self-Talk 3. Mindfulness 74 75
  37. 37. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 37 Mindfulness Psych. Flexibility Leadership skills Identity Language creates increases facilitates Leadership Motivation Self-Management Self-Awareness Mindfulness 76 77
  38. 38. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 38 Mindfulness Mindfulness = focussed attention + witnessing awareness 78 79
  39. 39. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 39 „A self-regulated attentional stance oriented towards present-moment experience that is characterized by curiosity, openness, and acceptance.“ [Dahl, Lutz, Davidson (2015)] pro- cess pers pecti ve story Mind- ful- ness 80 82
  40. 40. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 40 What kind of practise is that ‚mindful practise‘? 83 85
  41. 41. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 41 Three breaths pro- cess pers pecti ve story Mind- ful- ness 86 87
  42. 42. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 42 pro- cess pers pecti ve story Mind- ful- ness pro- cess pers pecti ve story Mind- ful- ness 88 89
  43. 43. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 43 process pers pecti ve Mind- ful- ness story process pers- pective Mind- ful- ness story 90 91
  44. 44. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 44 process story pers- pective process story pers- pective 92 93
  45. 45. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 45 Day Parenting (take-home) [Bonifer & Shternshus, 2015] [Cosima Laube L.I.S.T.E.N. Blog] How to grow with others? 94 95
  46. 46. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 46 One minute to arrive (individually or as group check-in) Noticing (a.k.a. „Name it to tame it.“) 96 97
  47. 47. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 47 Leadership Empathy Motivation Self-Management Self-Awareness Mindfulness 98 99
  48. 48. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 48 Shift to connection (variation of 3 breaths) Three breaths Shift to connection Noticing / „Name it to tame it“ a minute to arrive / Check-in Best possible selves Day Parenting game 100 101
  49. 49. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 49 Leadership starts with your SELF That‘s it for today… https://cosima-laube.de 102 103
  50. 50. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 50 Sources on the „Multiple Selves“ model Atkins, P. W. B., & Styles, R. (2015). Mindfulness, identity and work: mindfulness training creates a more flexible sense of self. In J. Reb & P. W. B. Atkins (Eds.), Mindfulness in Organizations: Foundations, research, and applications (pp. 133–162). https://www.researchgate.net/publication/290490487_Mindfulness_identity_and_work_Mi ndfulness_training_creates_a_more_flexible_sense_of_self Atkins, P. W. B., & Parker, S. K. (2012). Understanding Individual Compassion in Organizations: The Role of Appraisals and Psychological Flexibility. Academy of Management Review, 37(4), 524–546. https://doi.org/10.5465/amr.2010.0490 Hayes, S. C., Barnes-Holmes, D., & Roche, B. (2001). Relational Frame Theory: A Post- Skinnerian Account of Human Language and Cognition. New York: Plenum Press. https://doi.org/10.1016/S0065-2407(02)80063-5 Berger, J. G. and Atkins, P. W. B. (2009). Mapping complexity of mind: using the subject- object interview in coaching. Coaching: An International Journal of Theory, Research and Practice, 2 (1), 23-36. https://www.researchgate.net/publication/233282213_Mapping_complexity_of_mind_Usin g_the_subject-object_interview_in_coaching Sources on Mindfulness, Work and Leadership Good, D. J., Lyddy, C. J., Glomb, T. M., Bono, J. E., Brown, K. W., Duffy, M. K., Lazar, S. W. (2016). Contemplating Mindfulness at Work: An Integrative Review. Journal of Management, 42(1), 114–142. https://doi.org/10.1177/0149206315617003 Shapiro, S. L., Carlson, L. E., Astin, J. A., & Freedman, B. (2006). Mechanisms of mindfulness. Journal of Clinical Psychology, 62(3), 373–386. https://doi.org/10.1002/jclp.20237 Dahl, C. J., Lutz, A., & Davidson, R. J. (2015). Reconstructing and deconstructing the self: cognitive mechanisms in meditation practice. Trends in Cognitive Sciences, 19(9), 515–523. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.tics.2015.07.001 van Dierendonck, D. (2011). Servant Leadership: A Review and Synthesis. Journal of Management, 37(4), 1228–1261. https://doi.org/10.1177/0149206310380462 Systematic iterature review on Mindfulness and Leadership (Bachelor thesis, Cosima Laube 2017) – available on demand 107 108
  51. 51. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 51 Sources Books, exercises & more (1) Listening and Clean Language • Hartley, Tamsin (2017): The Listening Space – A New Path to Personal Discovery Positive Psychology • Blickhan, D. (2015). Positive Psychologie: ein Handbuch für die Praxis. Paderborn: Junfermann Verlag. Best Possible Selves Exercise • King, L. A. (2001). The health benefits of writing about life goals. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 27(7), 798–807. doi: 10.1177/0146167201 277003, https://www.researchgate.net/publication/247895325_The_Health_Benefits_of_Writing _about_Life_Goals • See pages 152/153 in Blickhan (2015) for a short description in German Karate Kid: Wax on, Wax off • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2ynryUjGFt8 FITNESS TRAINING. Sources Books, exercises & more (2) Improvisation / gamification of mindfulness for business organisations: • Bonifer, Mike & Shternshus, Jessie (2015): CTRL-Shift Day Parenting Exercise: • Cosima Laube L.I.S.T.E.N. Blog: http://blog.cosima-laube.de/blog/20180419_ctrl- shift_dayParenting The Hanselminutes Tech Podcast with April Wensel on Compassionate Coding • https://hanselminutes.com/641/compassionate-coding-with-april-wensel Listening, MIndfulness & Leading: • Bungay Stanier, Michael (2016): The Coaching Habit – Say less, Ask more & Change the way you lead forever 109 110
  52. 52. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 52 • 4 days (best) in a row • 20 minutes per day • 1 life domain per day (health, work, partner/family, friends, treating yourself, …) Best Possible Self – in a nutshell 1 • first minutes: step mentally into your future best possible self in that life domain • ~15 minutes: be your best possible self • Write continuously • How are you? • What do you do? • What is important to you? • Don‘t stop writing! • Don‘t judge. • Be surprised! Best Possible Self – in a nutshell 2 111 112
  53. 53. OOP 2019, Munich 22nd January 2019 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 53 Picture sources & credits slide 13, 24, 40-44: Cosima Laube slide 63/67 photos from illustrations taken from the German version of the book „Quiet the self“ by Matthew Johnstone (therefore not included in public versions of these slides!) all others: http://unsplash.com 113

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