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Multiple Selves?! Growing leaders applied. (Agile Austria, Graz, 2018)

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In this interactive talk we will first focus on language, identity and awareness and how these rather basic 'human things' are relevant for modern leaders. I will guide you with the help of a validated psychological model how to identify and strengthen your personal leadership abilities. Together we will make connections to where you are right now and which techniques you can take right away to integrate (business) mindfulness directly in your life to actually take the next step towards your best possible selv(es).

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Multiple Selves?! Growing leaders applied. (Agile Austria, Graz, 2018)

  1. 1. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 1 Multiple Selves?! Growing leaders applied. Cosima Laube @gazebo_c
  2. 2. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 2 Why are YOU here?
  3. 3. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 3 cosima@laube:~$ whoami
  4. 4. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 4
  5. 5. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 5 Why am I here?
  6. 6. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 6 Computer Work it is!
  7. 7. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 7 Well, that escalated happened quickly...
  8. 8. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 8 „no people work“ ?? „the easier choice“ ??
  9. 9. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 9
  10. 10. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 10
  11. 11. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 11 Software Development is People Work
  12. 12. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 12 … back to university!
  13. 13. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 13 What colleagues thought I do...
  14. 14. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 14 Building Bridges during the day
  15. 15. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 15 … what I actually did (mostly)
  16. 16. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 16
  17. 17. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 17 Leadership starts with YOURSELF
  18. 18. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 18 “[…] the first person I need to lead is me. The first person that I should try to change is me.” [John C. Maxwell]
  19. 19. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 19 LEADERSHIP starts with yourself
  20. 20. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 20 Leadership
  21. 21. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 21 Leadership starts with YOUR SELF
  22. 22. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 22 Why are YOU here?
  23. 23. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 23 Quick Outline
  24. 24. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 24 Some science… „Multiple Selves“ Model More science… How does the model work in detail?
  25. 25. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 25 How to grow (with) others? Where to start YOUR journey… How to grow yourself?
  26. 26. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 26 „Multiple Selves“ Model [Atkins & Styles, 2015]
  27. 27. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 27 Self as story or Conceptualised Self
  28. 28. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 28 Self as story Verbal description of yourself  public | private  labels, memories, plans, experiences, ...  abstraction of your past („Remembering Self“)  quite stable
  29. 29. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 29 Pro: • predictability • coherence Self as story
  30. 30. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 30 Pro: • predictability • coherence Con: - often too rigid - too past-oriented - limiting yourself Self as story
  31. 31. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 31 Self as process or Experiencing Self
  32. 32. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 32 Self as process Description of experiencing yourself…  in the present moment  in a particular context
  33. 33. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 33 Self as process  socially useful ( predictability)  basis of self-regulation
  34. 34. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 34 Self as perspective or Transcendental Self
  35. 35. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 35 Self as perspective  can not be observed (Transcendental Self)  content-free  only accessible through metaphors
  36. 36. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 36 pro- cess story pers pecti ve
  37. 37. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 37 pro- cess story pers pecti ve
  38. 38. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 38 process story perspec tive
  39. 39. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 39 process story perspec tive
  40. 40. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 40
  41. 41. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 41 Psychological Flexibility ++
  42. 42. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 42
  43. 43. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 43
  44. 44. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 44 Seeing the „whole“ picture
  45. 45. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 45 More options per situation YOU being the driver
  46. 46. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 46 Honoring your values and goals
  47. 47. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 47 Psychological Flexibility  Flexible, authentic, responsive Self [Atkins & Parker, 2012]
  48. 48. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 48 Psych. Flexibility Leadership skills increases
  49. 49. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 49 Leadership Motivation Self-Management Self-Awareness
  50. 50. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 50 How does it work ?
  51. 51. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 51 Identity = { 3 senses of self, social experiences, human ability to refer to past / future } [Atkins & Styles, 2015]
  52. 52. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 52 Psych. Flexibility Leadership skills Identity increases
  53. 53. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 53 „[how] a person talks about the self is the act of creating an identity“ [Atkins & Styles, 2015] Identity
  54. 54. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 54 „[how] a person talks about the self is the act of creating an identity“ „… [identity] is not a reflection of some underlying true self.“ [Atkins & Styles, 2015] Identity
  55. 55. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 55 Main driver for Identity: Language [Relational Frame Theory (RFT), Hayes et al. (2001)]
  56. 56. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 56 Psych. Flexibility Leadership skills Identity Language creates increases
  57. 57. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 57 Where to start ?
  58. 58. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 58 Talking & learning about the 3 Selves is a (self-)coaching intervention [Berger & Atkins, 2009]
  59. 59. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 59 Psych. Flexibility Leadership skills Identity Language creates increases
  60. 60. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 60 Self-talk
  61. 61. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 61 proce ss story pers pecti ve
  62. 62. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 62
  63. 63. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 63 Which examples of self-talk come to your mind?
  64. 64. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 64 Where did it make a difference how you talked to yourself?
  65. 65. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 65
  66. 66. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 66 Best possible Selves [King, 2001; Blickhan, 2015]
  67. 67. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 67 Best possible Selves (take-home exercise) [King, 2001; Blickhan, 2015]
  68. 68. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 68 pro- cess pers pecti ve story
  69. 69. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 69 Mindfulness
  70. 70. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 70 Mindfulness Psych. Flexibility Leadership skills Identity Language creates increases facilitates
  71. 71. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 71 Leadership Motivation Self-Management Self-Awareness Mindfulness
  72. 72. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 72 „A self-regulated attentional stance oriented towards present-moment experience that is characterized by curiosity, openness, and acceptance.“ [Dahl, Lutz, Davidson (2015)]
  73. 73. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 73 Day Parenting [Bonifer & Shternshus, 2015]
  74. 74. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 74 pro- cess pers pecti ve story Mind- ful- ness
  75. 75. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 75
  76. 76. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 76 Three breaths
  77. 77. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 77 pro- cess pers pecti ve story Mind- ful- ness
  78. 78. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 78 pro- cess pers pecti ve story Mind- ful- ness
  79. 79. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 79 pro- cess pers pecti ve story Mind- ful- ness
  80. 80. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 80 process story Mind- ful- ness pers pecti ve
  81. 81. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 81 process story pers pecti ve Mind- ful- ness
  82. 82. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 82 process story pers- pective Mind- ful- ness
  83. 83. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 83 process story pers- pective
  84. 84. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 84 Noticing
  85. 85. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 85 How to grow with others?
  86. 86. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 86 One minute to arrive (individually or as group check-in)
  87. 87. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 87 Day Parenting [Bonifer & Shternshus, 2015]
  88. 88. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 88 Leadership Empathy Motivation Self-Management Self-Awareness Mindfulness
  89. 89. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 89
  90. 90. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 90 Shift to connection (variation of 3 breaths)
  91. 91. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 91
  92. 92. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 92 Do one thing at a time [Hartley, 2017]
  93. 93. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 93 Do one thing at a time (take-home daily exercise) [Hartley, 2017]
  94. 94. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 94 Adding details [Hartley, 2017]
  95. 95. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 95 Three breaths One thing at a time Noticing Adding details
  96. 96. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 96 Leadership starts with your SELF
  97. 97. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 97 Cosima Laube http://cosima-laube.de Twitter: @gazebo_c
  98. 98. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 98 Sources on the „Multiple Selves“ model Atkins, P. W. B., & Styles, R. (2015). Mindfulness, identity and work: mindfulness training creates a more flexible sense of self. In J. Reb & P. W. B. Atkins (Eds.), Mindfulness in Organizations: Foundations, research, and applications (pp. 133–162). https://www.researchgate.net/publication/290490487_Mindfulness_identity_and_work_Mi ndfulness_training_creates_a_more_flexible_sense_of_self Atkins, P. W. B., & Parker, S. K. (2012). Understanding Individual Compassion in Organizations: The Role of Appraisals and Psychological Flexibility. Academy of Management Review, 37(4), 524–546. https://doi.org/10.5465/amr.2010.0490 Hayes, S. C., Barnes-Holmes, D., & Roche, B. (2001). Relational Frame Theory: A Post- Skinnerian Account of Human Language and Cognition. New York: Plenum Press. https://doi.org/10.1016/S0065-2407(02)80063-5 Berger, J. G. and Atkins, P. W. B. (2009). Mapping complexity of mind: using the subject- object interview in coaching. Coaching: An International Journal of Theory, Research and Practice, 2 (1), 23-36. https://www.researchgate.net/publication/233282213_Mapping_complexity_of_mind_Usin g_the_subject-object_interview_in_coaching
  99. 99. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 99 Sources on Mindfulness, Work and Leadership Good, D. J., Lyddy, C. J., Glomb, T. M., Bono, J. E., Brown, K. W., Duffy, M. K., Lazar, S. W. (2016). Contemplating Mindfulness at Work: An Integrative Review. Journal of Management, 42(1), 114–142. https://doi.org/10.1177/0149206315617003 Shapiro, S. L., Carlson, L. E., Astin, J. A., & Freedman, B. (2006). Mechanisms of mindfulness. Journal of Clinical Psychology, 62(3), 373–386. https://doi.org/10.1002/jclp.20237 Dahl, C. J., Lutz, A., & Davidson, R. J. (2015). Reconstructing and deconstructing the self: cognitive mechanisms in meditation practice. Trends in Cognitive Sciences, 19(9), 515–523. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.tics.2015.07.001 van Dierendonck, D. (2011). Servant Leadership: A Review and Synthesis. Journal of Management, 37(4), 1228–1261. https://doi.org/10.1177/0149206310380462 Systematic iterature review on Mindfulness and Leadership (Bachelor thesis, Cosima Laube 2017) – available on demand
  100. 100. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 100 Sources on Listening, Positive Psychology & more Listening and Clean Language • Hartley, Tamsin(2017): The Listening Space – A New Path to Personal Discovery Positive Psychology • Blickhan, D. (2015). Positive Psychologie: ein Handbuch für die Praxis. Paderborn: Junfermann Verlag. Best Possible Selves Exercise • King, L. A. (2001). The health benefits of writing about life goals. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 27(7), 798–807. doi: 10.1177/0146167201 277003, https://www.researchgate.net/publication/247895325_The_Health_Benefits_of_Writing _about_Life_Goals • See pages 152/153 in Blickhan (2015) for a short description in German Karate Kid: Wax on, Wax off • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2ynryUjGFt8
  101. 101. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 101 • 4 days (best) in a row • 20 minutes per day • 1 life domain per day (health, work, partner/family, friends, treating yourself, …) Best Possible Self – in a nutshell 1
  102. 102. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 102 • first minutes: step mentally into your future best possible self in that life domain • ~15 minutes: be your best possible self • Write continuously • How are you? • What do you do? • What is important to you? • Don‘t stop writing! • Don‘t judge. • Be surprised! Best Possible Self – in a nutshell 2
  103. 103. The Future of Agile, Agile Austria 2018 18.05.2018 Created by Cosima Laube (CC BY-NC-SA 4.0) 103 Picture sources & credits slide 8,9,11: https://twitter.com/TheRealSheldonC slide 15, 24, 39-43: Cosima Laube slide 57/59: photos from illustrations taken from the German version of the book „Quiet the self“ by Matthew Johnstone (therefore not included in public versions of these slides!) all others: http://unsplash.com

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