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Sean McDowell, PhD.
@sean_mcdowell
seanmcdowell.org
The top 3 reasons a teenager says
they use porn are:
1. Personal arousal –
2. Boredom –
3....
@sean_mcdowell
seanmcdowell.org
RELATIONAL NEEDS
SM2
@sean_mcdowell
seanmcdowell.org
If we don’t have our relational needs
met by our family and friends,
we tend to look elsew...
@sean_mcdowell
seanmcdowell.org
“An addiction is something that
is used to fill the void that a
relationship is meant to f...
@sean_mcdowell
seanmcdowell.org
“Kids are more and more
connected, but less and less
really connected.”
Sherry Turkle, aut...
@sean_mcdowell
seanmcdowell.org SM6
Instant, Local Friends
@sean_mcdowell
seanmcdowell.org
“In the porn fantasy, a guy is no longer that tech geek that
nobody liked in junior high s...
@sean_mcdowell
seanmcdowell.org
PORN is not just
a male teenage
issue.
SM8
@sean_mcdowell
seanmcdowell.org SM9
Teenage girls and young women are
significantly more likely to actively seek out
porn ...
@sean_mcdowell
seanmcdowell.org SM10
Talk with students
about sex and pornography
@sean_mcdowell
seanmcdowell.org SM11
“Conversations about sex can be
uncomfortable for both parent and
child, but not havi...
@sean_mcdowell
seanmcdowell.org SM12
In one study, of mothers strongly
agreed that they talked with their kids
about sex, ...
@sean_mcdowell
seanmcdowell.org SM13
“Many parents believe that this is their primary
responsibility:
to convey normative ...
@sean_mcdowell
seanmcdowell.org SM14
Define sex and
pornography for students.
@sean_mcdowell
seanmcdowell.org SM15
Use stories to motivate
and influence students.
@sean_mcdowell
seanmcdowell.org SM16
- Revelation 12:11
“And they have conquered him
by the blood of the Lamb and
by the w...
@sean_mcdowell
seanmcdowell.org
SM17
Appeal to common
human values to help students
see why pornography is wrong.
@sean_mcdowell
seanmcdowell.org SM18
 Teens are least comfortable of any age group
with the amount of porn they use .
 M...
@sean_mcdowell
seanmcdowell.org
We need to appeal to deeper moral
values they hold and draw them
out.
SM19
@sean_mcdowell
seanmcdowell.org SM20
Ask questions.
@sean_mcdowell
seanmcdowell.org
 When did you start viewing pornography?
 How often do you view it?
 What kind of porno...
@sean_mcdowell
seanmcdowell.org SM22
Counter the narrative
that we need sex to survive.
@sean_mcdowell
seanmcdowell.org SM23
Christopher Yuan’s Story
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Addressing Pornography with Students

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Presenter: Sean McDowell, PhD

Children in their teens and early twenties live in a culture that has accepted pornography as a normal part of life. How can you have a real conversation about pornography and help these young people turn toward a more wholesome sexuality—even when the odds are good that they are active users of porn themselves?

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Addressing Pornography with Students

  1. 1. @sean_mcdowell seanmcdowell.org Sean McDowell, PhD.
  2. 2. @sean_mcdowell seanmcdowell.org The top 3 reasons a teenager says they use porn are: 1. Personal arousal – 2. Boredom – 3. Curiosity – SM1
  3. 3. @sean_mcdowell seanmcdowell.org RELATIONAL NEEDS SM2
  4. 4. @sean_mcdowell seanmcdowell.org If we don’t have our relational needs met by our family and friends, we tend to look elsewhere to relational counterfeits. SM3
  5. 5. @sean_mcdowell seanmcdowell.org “An addiction is something that is used to fill the void that a relationship is meant to fill.” Dr. Paul Warren The Medical Institute National Conference 2002 SM4
  6. 6. @sean_mcdowell seanmcdowell.org “Kids are more and more connected, but less and less really connected.” Sherry Turkle, author Alone Together SM5
  7. 7. @sean_mcdowell seanmcdowell.org SM6 Instant, Local Friends
  8. 8. @sean_mcdowell seanmcdowell.org “In the porn fantasy, a guy is no longer that tech geek that nobody liked in junior high school or the awkward college student lacking in social skills. In his mind’s eye — despite a paucity of dates and a sexual history confined to the girl from math class — he has always gotten the woman he wants.” - Pamela Paul Pornified SM7
  9. 9. @sean_mcdowell seanmcdowell.org PORN is not just a male teenage issue. SM8
  10. 10. @sean_mcdowell seanmcdowell.org SM9 Teenage girls and young women are significantly more likely to actively seek out porn than women over age 25. (33% of women, ages 13-24 actively seek out porn at least once a month, compared to women over the age of 25).
  11. 11. @sean_mcdowell seanmcdowell.org SM10 Talk with students about sex and pornography
  12. 12. @sean_mcdowell seanmcdowell.org SM11 “Conversations about sex can be uncomfortable for both parent and child, but not having them—or handling them poorly—can cause long-term damage.” - Mark Regnerus, ForbiddenFruit
  13. 13. @sean_mcdowell seanmcdowell.org SM12 In one study, of mothers strongly agreed that they talked with their kids about sex, but only of the youth agreed. - Mark Regnerus, ForbiddenFruit
  14. 14. @sean_mcdowell seanmcdowell.org SM13 “Many parents believe that this is their primary responsibility: to convey normative — rather than informative — messages about sex…when devoutly religious parents say they are talking regularly with their adolescents about sex and birth control, it means they are talking with them about morality rather than sharing information.” - Mark Regnerus, ForbiddenFruit
  15. 15. @sean_mcdowell seanmcdowell.org SM14 Define sex and pornography for students.
  16. 16. @sean_mcdowell seanmcdowell.org SM15 Use stories to motivate and influence students.
  17. 17. @sean_mcdowell seanmcdowell.org SM16 - Revelation 12:11 “And they have conquered him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony…” (ESV)
  18. 18. @sean_mcdowell seanmcdowell.org SM17 Appeal to common human values to help students see why pornography is wrong.
  19. 19. @sean_mcdowell seanmcdowell.org SM18  Teens are least comfortable of any age group with the amount of porn they use .  More than half of teens and young adults talk about porn in a way that is completely accepting . - The Porn Phenomenon
  20. 20. @sean_mcdowell seanmcdowell.org We need to appeal to deeper moral values they hold and draw them out. SM19
  21. 21. @sean_mcdowell seanmcdowell.org SM20 Ask questions.
  22. 22. @sean_mcdowell seanmcdowell.org  When did you start viewing pornography?  How often do you view it?  What kind of pornography do you view?  How does it make you feel about yourself?  How badly do you want to stop?  When do you most commonly view it?  What do you think it will take to stop? The best approach is to listen and ask questions: SM21
  23. 23. @sean_mcdowell seanmcdowell.org SM22 Counter the narrative that we need sex to survive.
  24. 24. @sean_mcdowell seanmcdowell.org SM23 Christopher Yuan’s Story
  25. 25. @sean_mcdowell seanmcdowell.org SeanMCDOWELL sean@seanmcdowell.org

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