16. Human Interaction
> Complex web of relationships, defined by our makeup
> Constant negotiation of hierarchy and ideas
> Shifting power structures based on authority
17. Sources of Authority
> Bureaucratic authority (managers, political leaders)
> Traditional (cultural) authority
> Charismatic authority
19. Leadership
> Good leaders have earned charismatic authority.
> Requires a willingness to take others where they need to
be.
> Leaders are not always people with traditional or
bureaucratic authority.
20. –Ken Kesey
“You don’t lead by pointing and telling people some
place to go. You lead by going to that place and
making a case.”
21. Leadership is a means to
authority, not an end of
authority.
22. > Leaders think before they act.
> Leaders take responsibility for their actions.
> Leaders work tirelessly for the success of others.
> Leaders work tirelessly to understand others.
24. Four Attributes of Empathy(According to Theresa Wiseman)
> The ability to take another person’s perspective.
> The ability to understand another person’s feelings.
> The ability to communicate that understanding.
> The ability to do the above without passing judgment.
33. We are taught . . .
> to fear sharing our hardships
> that emotions are inappropriate
> that real men don’t cry
> that women who cry won’t be taken seriously
34. 1 in 5 American adults are
suffering with a mental illness.
NIMH
35. At least 1 in 6 American women
&
At least 1 in 33 American men
have been the victim of sexual assault
Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network
37. Up to 65% of inmates meet
the DSM criteria for
substance abuse & addiction.
CASA
38. Empathy is Vital
> It’s hard to hate someone whose story you know.
> Expressing vulnerability builds trust.
> Personal connections overcome grouping & labels
39. Empathy Emphasizes the Why
> Sarah blew up at Abby. Why?
> Frank work quality is plummeting. Why?
> Samantha is chronically late. Why?
41. Our Brains Love Patterns
> We hear voices in static
> We see faces in cement
42. Instead of Listening. . .
> We speculate about our partner’s agenda
> We try to remember that amazing article that refutes our
partner’s argument
> We think about about our own problems
> We think about that time (times?) that our partner was a
jerk
46. Questions
> Is my understanding correct?
> Would you like my advice?
47. Proceed When. . .
> You understand the topic your partner is trying to
address.
> You understand your partner’s key points.
> You understand what your partner expects from the
interaction.
48. Don’t Split Your Attention
> I’m sorry, I can’t talk right now. Can I call you at 2?
> I can talk, but let me quickly finish this one thing.
49. Listening
> It’s OK to suck.
> Never be afraid of asking questions.
> Reschedule when you don’t have time (but always honor your
commitments)
68. Diversity of Education
> Teams with mixed educational backgrounds have a broader
base of knowledge to rely on.
> Self-taught individuals often have unique perspectives.
69. Diversity of Work History
> Former security engineers understand vulnerabilities.
> Former financial services workers understand audits/PCI/
FISMA
> Former medical IT workers understand privacy/HIPPA
70. Diversity of Language & Culture
> Native fluency in more customers’ native language means
better communication.
> Forces better internationalization and string handling.
71. Diversity of Gender & Sexual Identity
> Different perspectives & acculturation.
> Welcoming environment that attracts more talent.
> Broader understanding of the needs of customers.
74. Empathy lets us . . .
> Understand that our political “enemies” are often
operating in good faith.
> Recognize when people are in crisis.
> See that much of the anger and violence in the world from
from a painful place.
76. Empathy is a choice to . . .
> Accept, not judge
> Share a burden, not comment on it
> Assume the best, not the worst
> See a person, not a problem
79. Important Resources
> Open Sourcing Mental Illness - http://funkatron.com/osmi.html
> Prompt - http://mhprompt.org/
> Mental Health First Aid - http://www.mentalhealthfirstaid.org/
> Brené Brown on Empathy - http://youtu.be/1Evwgu369Jw
> Contact Me - http://www.samanthaquinones.com OR @ieatkillerbees