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  2. 2. Certainly, loss of a loved one is a primary cause of grief and loss reactions. <br />Loss of a spouse through death or divorce <br />Loss of a parent or child through death or divorce <br />Loss of a family member or friend <br />Miscarriage <br />Loss of your beloved.<br />
  3. 3. Some common principles around Loss.,<br /><ul><li>loss is a constant part of life.
  4. 4. more than bereavement.
  5. 5. grief responses are individual.
  6. 6. grief can be communal.
  7. 7. culturally determined.</li></li></ul><li><ul><li>People feel less confidence following a significant loss
  8. 8. It is best to leave grieving people alone
  9. 9. You never laugh if you're really grieving
  10. 10. Mourners feel better after the funeral
  11. 11. Men and women grieve differently
  12. 12. Children and teenagers don't show their grief like adults</li></li></ul><li>Loss<br /> Being parted from someone who or something that a person values.<br />Grief<br /> Complex emotional response to loss: including sadness, anger, helplessness, guilt, despair.<br />Grief and loss can be said to be part of every human life although the meaning of this experience and responses to it are unique.<br />Each of us will grieve in our own unique way for the unique loss that we have suffered. There is no right or wrong way to grieve.<br />
  13. 13. Some of the adolescent losses<br />Chance (more or less)<br /><ul><li>death
  14. 14. separation, divorce
  15. 15. moving house
  16. 16. illness/accident -self/others
  17. 17. natural disaster
  18. 18. victim of crime
  19. 19. financial change
  20. 20. loss of pet
  21. 21. birth of sibling</li></ul>Developmental <br /><ul><li>separation
  22. 22. school changes
  23. 23. friends move
  24. 24. growing older</li></ul>Private<br /><ul><li>trust
  25. 25. missing out on team
  26. 26. victim of bullying
  27. 27. school failure
  28. 28. realizing you’re different
  29. 29. failure to live up to expectations
  30. 30. ‘ugly' teenager
  31. 31. betrayed by friend</li></ul>Deprivation/neglect<br /><ul><li>child abuse, poverty
  32. 32. unresponsive parenting
  33. 33. lack of stability
  34. 34. Homelessness</li></li></ul><li>Mourning<br /><ul><li>Acceptance of reality of the loss,
  35. 35. Work through the pain,
  36. 36. Adjust to the environment when someone or something is no longer there,
  37. 37. Emotionally relocate what is lost and try to move on with life.,</li></ul> Whatever happens LIFE would have to move on.<br />
  38. 38. Responses to grief & loses<br />Physical responses<br /><ul><li>Weakness, loss of appetite/comfort eating, feelings of choking, shortness of breath, tightness in the chest, dry mouth, gastrointestinal disturbances
  39. 39. Increased alcohol intake, smoking excessively
  40. 40. Fatigue, exhaustion and insomnia
  41. 41. Excessive tearfulness/not crying at all
  42. 42. Increased vulnerability to physical & mental illness</li></li></ul><li>Cognitive responses<br /><ul><li>Preoccupation with the deceased
  43. 43. Having conversations with the deceased
  44. 44. Starting to prepare the dinner when deceased would usually come home
  45. 45. Picking up the telephone to tell them something
  46. 46. Difficulty concentrating
  47. 47. complete lapses of focus or orientation to time/person/place
  48. 48. Difficulty remembering (short term memory)
  49. 49. Seeking or longing for the lost person/object</li></li></ul><li>Behavioural responses<br /><ul><li>Inability to perform basic activities of daily living
  50. 50. Washing & dressing
  51. 51. Communication
  52. 52. Eating and drinking
  53. 53. Disorganised behaviour
  54. 54. Inability to cope with children
  55. 55. Neglecting household chores
  56. 56. Not paying bills
  57. 57. Intense sense of isolation</li></li></ul><li>Affective Responses<br /><ul><li>Sadness, loneliness, hopelessness
  58. 58. Intense irritability, little tolerance
  59. 59. Anger</li></ul>Anger at family & friends, at the deceased, God, the world, yourself<br /><ul><li>Guilt: the starring role</li></ul>At what we did/didn’t do<br /><ul><li>Range of emotions are wide, everyone will experience different ones</li></li></ul><li>Some common principles around grieving.,<br /><ul><li>grieving is normal.
  60. 60. dealing with loss is an individual, mostly private, possibly lonely process.
  61. 61. losses rarely exist alone.
  62. 62. young people are limited by experience and options.
  63. 63. it is a privilege to be invited into the experience of loss of an adolescent.
  64. 64. loss threatens our sense of safety and trust.</li></li></ul><li>Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss in what dies inside us while we live. <br />Loss is nothing else but change, and change is Nature&apos;s delight.<br />The greatest danger, that of losing one&apos;s own self, may pass off quietly as if it were nothing; every other Loss, that of an arm, a leg, five dollars, a wife, etc., is sure to be noticed.<br />One should never be sexually involved with anyone one genuinely cares for. A sexual relationship guarantees a Loss.<br />
  65. 65. I finally understand what life is about: <br /> It is about losing everything. Losing the baby who becomes a child, the child who becomes an adult, like the trees loose their leaves. So every morning we must celebrate what we have.<br />