No definition of bullying is going to be the “end-all” definition. Bullying is such a grey issue that defining it is difficult. What is required are solid ideas about what constitutes a bullying situation, and a skill set that we can provide to children. Why Zero-Tolerance Policies Don’t Work Zero-tolerance policies are used by many schools, and are even supported by many parents. They are ultimately ineffective because they are based on a simplistic model of bullying, rather than the complex truth. Consider: Two students are horse-playing in the hallway, and admit that’s what they’re doing. All physical contact is handled the same way so they are punished for behavior that’s normal and appropriate for their age and maturity level. The two youngsters may not even understand the intent of the discipline. Two friends are in a one-time argument and call each other names. All name-calling is handled the same way so the friends are punished even when the argument is over before the school gets involved. There’s a chance the friends won’t even know why they are being punished. Authority figures may come to be seen as ridiculous. A child in grade 2 hugs another student and gives her a kiss. He is suspended for inappropriate touching. Zero tolerance does not consider a child’s developmental stage or other considerations around the incident. Once punishment is decided on, school administrators have to justify it. If they can’t – which can happen when a zero-tolerance policy is applied – they are forced to choose between backing off from the punishment and widespread disgust with it. Either way, their authority is undermined. They may be seen as irrational, or they may be labeled as bullies themselves. This is disastrous. Children do understand fair punishment. When they are unfairly punished, they lose respect for administration, and conflict can also be created with their parents.
NSTAAB opening assembly
No Such Thing as a Bully Opening Assembly
What Makes You, You?I know you are you, It’s totally true,That there are great things to know about you.The good and the bad, The glad and the sad,Some is your own, some came from Mom and Dad.The more you learn the more you earn,The right to choose, the right to discern,How to treat others with the utmost respect,How to fill your cup and get what you expect.What’s one thing that is important about YOU?
My Clothes, My StoryMy tracksuit! From the 1990’s!My hat! From a 60K walk for cancer!My backpack! Let me tell you about it!My shirt! From Agent Change!Lucky Duck! Who doesn’t love lucky duck?Have you ever laughed at someone for what they were wearing?
Bully ActionsTo step on a friend, to kick his rear endTo leave someone out, to fake a big pout.“Jokes” that aren’t funny, stealing his moneyMaking big fun of a nose that is runny.These are the things that no one likes,Some of the things that make me say “YIKES!” Can we find ten more?
Bullying DefinitionBullying = bully actor perspective +Bully Action + VictimResponder perspective Where Bully actor perspective = Desire to hurt + Superior Power/enjoyment + Desire for control/contempt Bully Action = Hurtful + Repeated Victim responder perspective = Vulnerability + Sense of oppression/ unjust treatment
Using a Bully ActionYou are using a bully action if you1. want to hurt someone.2. do something that hurts them.3. are stronger than them in some way.4. hurt them more than once.5. use your extra power to hurt them.6. enjoy hurting people.7. cause them to feel sad and helpless.
Receiving a Bully ActionYou are experiencing bully actions if:1. someone wants to hurt you.2. someone does something that hurts you.3. the person is stronger than you in someway.4. the person hurts you more than once.5. the person uses her extra power to hurt you.6. the person enjoys hurting you7. you feel sad and helpless.
What To Expect This Week• Messages from me at the beginning and end of your day• Me in your classroom, teaching you one thing I know…and also Chinese Skipping• Bully Prevention Team• Wearing something special• Me in the hallway• Teachers learning more• Things to share with your important adults.
I AM LOOKING FORWARD TO MEETING YOU IN YOUR CLASSROOM AND THE HALLWAYS!