Sure You're Mature_Session 5_Purity part 1


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Sure You're Mature's session regarding Purity

Sure You're Mature was a values formation event for the young professionals of today, and was held at Road Side Bible Baptist Church from December 26-29, 2010. The event was attended by different churches.

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Sure You're Mature_Session 5_Purity part 1

  1. 1. Purity Session 5:
  2. 2. <ul><li>“ Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in Him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.” </li></ul><ul><li>1 JOHN 2:14-15 </li></ul>
  3. 3. <ul><li>Question: Why do need to have a boyfriend/girlfriend? Give answers from the common perspective of a worldly person, to your personal thoughts. </li></ul>
  4. 4. <ul><li>Our generation views relationships as pursued for the sake of: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>romance, </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>good time, </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>sake of experience, </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>peer pressure, </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>and for the wish of figuring out what we’ll one day want after we get around may relationships. </li></ul></ul>
  5. 5. <ul><li>The most dangerous of that is even trying to have sex with everyone you may have met (the edge of everything). Something, becoming common and “ordinary” to our generation. </li></ul>
  6. 6. The Joy of intimacy is the reward of commitment.
  7. 7. <ul><li>In Proverbs 7 :7-27 , particularly in verse 18, it mentions sexual intimacy as to “enjoy ourselves with love” for the instant moment. It offers intimacy without obligation. </li></ul>
  8. 8. <ul><li>Taylor: So how old are you? </li></ul><ul><li>Joshua: Twenty-three </li></ul><ul><li>Taylor: Are you a virgin? </li></ul><ul><li>Joshua: I am a virgin, with a capital V </li></ul><ul><li>Taylor: Are you okay? </li></ul><ul><li>Joshua: I suppose you’re from the school of thought that says if you don’t have sex, you blow up? </li></ul>
  9. 9. <ul><li>Taylor: Yeah, it happened to my brother…all over the kitchen </li></ul><ul><li>Crystal : Oh, that’s disgusting! Ha, ha… </li></ul><ul><li>Taylor: So, what’s going to happen when, let’s say, you get married and you get to the honeymoon suite and she’s lousy in bed? (laughs in pride) </li></ul><ul><li>Josh: Well, I won’t have anything to compare it to. </li></ul><ul><li>(silence in discussion) </li></ul>
  10. 10. <ul><li>Crystal: Now that is a GOOD answer! </li></ul><ul><li>Josh: I think part of our problem today is that we’ve reduced sex to a sort of sport. We need manuals and color-coded charts. Instead of being an expression of intimacy and commitment of a husband and wife, it’s all about performing. I think that’s part of the reason there’s so much sexual dysfunction today-people are terrified that they won’t live up to Hollywood’s definition of a perfect lover. </li></ul>
  11. 11. <ul><li>Taylor: Yeah, but what if she’s lousy in bed, I mean, she does everything wrong? </li></ul><ul><li>Josh: That won’t be why I marry her. Do you see the problem with what you’re saying? What happens if you marry someone because they’re great in bed but then one day they aren’t? </li></ul><ul><li>Taylor: CHEAT! </li></ul><ul><li>Josh: well, sadly that’s what some people do. </li></ul>
  12. 12. <ul><li>Crystal: Today we have Taylor being the typical jerk and Josh representing the kind, sensitive males. </li></ul><ul><li>Josh: But you see, I believe this is not because It is the “nice thing to do,” but because this is what God wants. </li></ul>
  13. 13. Don’t mistake physical relationship with love.
  14. 14. <ul><li>Now we go back to YOUR EXPERIENCE. You don’t need to tell who, speak about it, or even react. Go back to the time when you had a failed relationship, or probably a current one. Let’s see how it all started. </li></ul><ul><li>“ Just friends” remember the line? Whatever :D </li></ul>
  15. 15. <ul><li>You saw him/her for the first time. You liked him/her for the reason of __________ </li></ul><ul><li>You got to cross a few seconds of “eye contact,” you won’t be able to forget that because ________ </li></ul><ul><li>You got the chance to meet his/her friends. You like the idea of connecting with them because ________ </li></ul><ul><li>You got to finally be friends with him/her. In your mind it was the ___________ </li></ul>
  16. 16. <ul><li>You wished that through your acquaintance, you develop ____________ </li></ul><ul><li>As you grow along, you take small chances of good opportunities as ___________ </li></ul><ul><li>When you realized she/he likes you, you reacted by ____________ </li></ul><ul><li>When the time comes that the both of you finally agreed on a relationship, you felt that ________. </li></ul><ul><li>You say you “love him/her” because__________ </li></ul>
  17. 17. <ul><li>There’s no right or wrong answer. But how you answered shows how that certain relationship started. Did it started on good reason, or is related to any of the factors mentioned about the “self-centered mindset of relationships?” </li></ul><ul><li>Unfortunately, most relationships begin with physical want than finding a good companion in life. If you’re wanting sex only, you’re stupid. </li></ul>
  18. 18. <ul><li>Difference between Friendship and intimacy. </li></ul><ul><li>“ We picture lovers face-to-face, but friends side by side; their eyes look ahead.” </li></ul>
  19. 19. <ul><li>Friendship is a common goal or objective which companions focus. It maybe work, endeavor, faith, music, etc. It is something OUTSIDE of them. But once it gets focused on the relationship-about themselves , it crosses the path of friendship and goes towards relationship. </li></ul>
  20. 20. <ul><li>Relationship is something beyond common interests. You establish the commitment for the person , regardless of the differences and difficulties you may live with together. It is now something inside. </li></ul>
  21. 21. <ul><li>Understanding the difference between friendship and intimacy can help us stay within the bounds of friendship until we are ready for the responsibility of an intimate relationship. </li></ul>
  22. 22. <ul><li>True, pure love is also depicted in the Bible. To summarize 1 Corinthians 13 , it states that Love (Charity) is: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Patient: It waits for the right time for the right person. It’s not in a hurry. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Kind: Always cares, unselfish, not easy to anger. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Does not envy: What is yours, I will have. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Not boastful/prideful: it stays humble. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Not easy to anger: </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Thinks no evil: pure </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Rejoices in truth </li></ul></ul>
  23. 23. <ul><ul><li>Takes responsibility </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Believes in each other </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Endures hardships </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>True love never fails </li></ul></ul>
  24. 24. <ul><li>Don’t get into a relationship if you’re not willing to commit. One reason for some Christian churches of today, as well as families limiting their children to have relationships only when they have graduated in college is the fact that we now have an edited version of relationships , as well as marriage. </li></ul><ul><li>Younger ones don’t understand the value of the words “I love you.” If its just a “kilig” word, then you miss the true meaning of giving those words to someone you don’t know. </li></ul>
  25. 25. <ul><li>Christians should stay strong in the idea of relationships, same as the thought that having a sweetheart is not equal to the right of sex . It is about companionship, living together with commitment and loyalty towards each other . </li></ul>
  26. 26. <ul><li>Don’t lower your standards! It’s like a basketball ring lowered to your current height. It makes you feel superior because you can score easily, or even to dunk over. But true skill is measured when it is on the correct height, and on how to score things, the right way. </li></ul>
  27. 27. To be continued…