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Healing the Heart
and
Freedom From Addictions
Pastor Susan Fochler
Week 2
Healing the Brokenhearted:
Heartsync, Presenting Jesus
and Releasing Trauma
Helping the hurting to connect with
their true...
Jesus’ Mission
•18 "The Spirit of the Lord is upon Me, Because
He has anointed Me To preach the gospel to the
poor; He has...
Broken-heartedness has not
been Recogized in the Church
When parts of our heart are “cut off”, the “Good
News” cannot full...
A Child’s Response to Emotional
pain:
• They create a belief or perception about
the incident to explain “why” a bad thing...
Trauma creates Broken-
Heartedness
• Children are naturally ego-centric and
assume that whatever happens is their
fault. S...
Coping Strategies Work for a
While…
• The child feels the need to self-protect by
making internal decisions:
• Inner vows,...
God honors our Choices
• “In the most loving and compassionate
tone that you can imagine, He (Jesus) said,
‘Andy, you can ...
A Child’s Response to
Emotional pain:
• A Guardian or “Protector” is created:
the intensity of the memory, and the
associa...
Range of Emotional Walls
Memory
Lapse
Detachment
Walls
Complete
Dissociation
Dissociation
If the trauma is sufficiently
overwhelming, we will “dissociate” our
functioning minds from that experience
a...
Dissociation
Dissociation is a process whereby the
mind separates one or more aspects of its
function (knowing, feeling, ...
Text
Heart Sync: Andy Miller
We are learning to Love the Lord your God with
all your Heart, Mind and Strength. Matt. 22:37...
Heartsync:
We do this through a process of
reconciliation of the core parts of
person’s identity
Early Childhood experiences help
mold our decisions to allow our
heart to be known.
Is it safe to ask for help?
Are they g...
• Shame and insecurity develop:
• I must not be enough
• It must be my fault...
• I need to stay out of the way, stop
caus...
Functional:
Strong, Competent,
“Left brain” Low Risk,
Independent: in denial
of internal pain
Practical
Accomplishment
Per...
Functional
Practical
Accomplishment
Performance
“Busy-bee”
Productive
Emotional:
Weak, Vulnerable,
High Risk; “Right
Brain...
Has many different forms
Goal: To protect “emotion” from
feeling/hurting
Defensive: I’m right
Numb: I don’t care
Opinionat...
Scene from Night at the Museum
Functional Emotional
Guardian
Original Self
• Goal is to communicate value and
honor to each “part” of that
person, including dysfunctional
qualities. Recognize the
d...
We can leave behind parts of our hearts
holding feelings that are overwhelmingly
painful. We were a child trying hard to
fi...
• It may take some time to slowly
allow understanding and
acceptance of a new self-concept.
There is a gradual opening of ...
How to reconcile?
We seek to recognize why the “wall” is
there, and synchronize, i.e. empathize (not
sympathize) by valida...
Its All About Jesus!
We look for opportunities to
introduce Jesus to the “inner being
child” that have been walled-off and...
We Reconcile these
different “parts” through
synchronization
Now all things are of God, who has reconciled
us to Himself t...
• First Step: As the minister, ask
permission to connect to the presenting
part. We have no agenda, no
pressure. This “par...
• Next, Synchronize: empathize and
help that “part” know they are
valued, have purpose, are needed.
Very often they need t...
• Third, engage a dialogue by finding
out how the “part” feels about Jesus,
feels about the rest of the person.
Utilize ope...
• We have walled off internally and
unconsciously when we were in
conflicting and uncomfortable
situations that evoked very...
Freedom through Jesus
Shocking as it might be, parts of our
heart don’t yet “know” Jesus, and
need a safe environment to ...
Presenting
Jesus
Presenting Jesus: You shall
know the truth, and the truth
shall set you free
 A powerful approach
pioneered by Dr. Ed Smi...
35
Presenting Jesus
A traumatic event happens... Type A or B
We believe lies about ourselves and
others, such as God, be...
36
Presenting Jesus
We believe a lie, or make a
vow to help protect ourselves
at a vulnerable time.
We can invite Jesus ...
37
We want to go back to the
Root Lie/Misperception
The person asks Jesus to take them back
to a memory, an event where t...
38
Presenting Jesus
Children work really hard to figure out
their world, but without adult perspective
or life experience ...
39
Presenting Jesus
We have them ask Jesus to show them
where He was in that situation.
Using Listening Prayer, help the...
40
Presenting
Jesus
 He will show you the
truth about your part/
reaction - and that sets
you free from the false
belief ...
Disney’s “The Kid”
42
Presenting Jesus: Our view of
history is changed forever!
The initial event occurred before we knew
Jesus, or knew tha...
Replacing Old protection
(lies) with New Truth!
Recognizing that Jesus
was there, and knowing
His presence in a new
way a...
44
Presenting Jesus: Let there be
Light!
 You number my
wanderings; Put my tears
into Your bottle; Are they
not in Your bo...
45
Do you have to remember the
event?
You do not have to
remember the
detailed, specific
memory.
You do have to
connect w...
Releasing Trauma
Releasing Trauma
• Jesus as portrayed in Isaiah 53:3-4
• 3 He is despised and rejected by men,
A Man of sorrows and acquai...
Jesus on the Cross
• Jesus not only bore our sins once
and for all on the cross; He also bore
our griefs and sorrows. We h...
Releasing to Jesus
• We can simply connect with our heart and
look to Jesus – say something like:
• “Jesus I release the p...
The Nature of Inner Wounds
Our wounding comes from 2 kinds of
traumas we experience in life.
There is the trauma that co...
Examples of Type A
Trauma*
•Not receiving as an infant - the
unconditional love and joy connections
that we needed from so...
Examples of Type A
Trauma*
•Not being taught how to do hard things
– to problem solve and develop
persistence
•Not receivi...
Effects of Type A Trauma
 The primary effect is to cripple one’s ability
to feel positive emotions. It is therefore a
for...
Type B Trauma
Type B trauma is the more familiar kind.
It comes from physical, emotional, and
sexual abuse, from abandon...
Renouncing Lies and
Replacing the Truth
A Traumatic event (type A or B) is a
container for lies. Studies in
neurological s...
Renouncing Lies and
Replacing the Truth
For Godly grief and the pain God is
permitted to direct, produce a repentance
that...
“Triggering”
•Traumatic memories from the past that
become triggered by events in the present.
Panic attacks, PTSD.
•Heali...
Jesus!
Jesus wants to heal our broken-into-parts
heart. His work on the cross – once for all
time made a place for all th...
Freedom!
So, both the trauma caused by our sins and
also the effects of the sins of others – the
trauma done to us - both...
Exercise
Releasing Pain and Trauma
From our hearts to Jesus, who
takes ALL our sin, our griefs, our
sorrow, our punishme...
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Healing the Heart Week 2

  1. 1. Healing the Heart and Freedom From Addictions Pastor Susan Fochler Week 2
  2. 2. Healing the Brokenhearted: Heartsync, Presenting Jesus and Releasing Trauma Helping the hurting to connect with their true hearts
  3. 3. Jesus’ Mission •18 "The Spirit of the Lord is upon Me, Because He has anointed Me To preach the gospel to the poor; He has sent Me to heal the brokenhearted, To proclaim liberty to the captives And recovery of sight to the blind, To set at liberty those who are oppressed... Luke 4:18-19 NKJV
  4. 4. Broken-heartedness has not been Recogized in the Church When parts of our heart are “cut off”, the “Good News” cannot fully transform our “inner man”. We become “double-souled” and “unstable” in all our ways. James 1:8. But we are invited to come close to God, for He will come close to (us). As we do, we recognize our sin: being double-souled (mind, will and emotions). James 4:8
  5. 5. A Child’s Response to Emotional pain: • They create a belief or perception about the incident to explain “why” a bad thing could happen, and to help protect themselves from it happening again. • The belief is skewed and egocentric because the child doesn’t have the ability to comprehend the truth.
  6. 6. Trauma creates Broken- Heartedness • Children are naturally ego-centric and assume that whatever happens is their fault. So they blame themselves, and work hard to explain why things happen: • “I am bad, dirty, shameful” • “I am stupid, ignorant, incompetent” • “I am worthless, I have no value” • “I am alone – not wanted; no one cares”
  7. 7. Coping Strategies Work for a While… • The child feels the need to self-protect by making internal decisions: • Inner vows, bitter root judgments, denial, avoidance, perfectionism, and vows of unforgiveness… • “I will never…” • “I will always…”
  8. 8. God honors our Choices • “In the most loving and compassionate tone that you can imagine, He (Jesus) said, ‘Andy, you can continue to scream ‘why’ or you can enter into the healing provision that I’ve made for you. The choice is yours.’” • (“Open My Heart, Lord” Appendix A pg 130)
  9. 9. A Child’s Response to Emotional pain: • A Guardian or “Protector” is created: the intensity of the memory, and the associated painful emotions are separated from the child’s daily reality so they can continue to cope with life. • God honors our decision to disconnect.
  10. 10. Range of Emotional Walls Memory Lapse Detachment Walls Complete Dissociation
  11. 11. Dissociation If the trauma is sufficiently overwhelming, we will “dissociate” our functioning minds from that experience and its memory. This is why we sometimes don’t easily remember very painful experiences. The memory is still there, but to function – our mind shuts it away.
  12. 12. Dissociation Dissociation is a process whereby the mind separates one or more aspects of its function (knowing, feeling, tasting, hearing, seeing, etc.) away from the normal stream of consciousness. Tom Hawkins, PhD. http://www.rcm-usa.org/What-is-DID.htm
  13. 13. Text Heart Sync: Andy Miller We are learning to Love the Lord your God with all your Heart, Mind and Strength. Matt. 22:37 God loves all of you; we are learning to allow Him to love all of us, first.
  14. 14. Heartsync: We do this through a process of reconciliation of the core parts of person’s identity
  15. 15. Early Childhood experiences help mold our decisions to allow our heart to be known. Is it safe to ask for help? Are they going to hate me if I make a mistake? Is anyone interested in what I have to say? Will they love me more if I do better? Am I loved for who I am or just how good I can perform?
  16. 16. • Shame and insecurity develop: • I must not be enough • It must be my fault... • I need to stay out of the way, stop causing problems, be perfect, stop trying, etc., etc. Is it safe to be me? Or do I have to pretend to be someone else?
  17. 17. Functional: Strong, Competent, “Left brain” Low Risk, Independent: in denial of internal pain Practical Accomplishment Performance “Busy-bee” Productive Competent Denial
  18. 18. Functional Practical Accomplishment Performance “Busy-bee” Productive Emotional: Weak, Vulnerable, High Risk; “Right Brain” Pain Vulnerable Depression Joy Shame Competent Denial Creativity
  19. 19. Has many different forms Goal: To protect “emotion” from feeling/hurting Defensive: I’m right Numb: I don’t care Opinionated: I have all the answers Dominating: I’m in control Distracted:ADD? Confusion Guardian: Anger: Back off! Self-Punishing Functional Emotional Addiction: I don’t want to feel
  20. 20. Scene from Night at the Museum
  21. 21. Functional Emotional Guardian Original Self
  22. 22. • Goal is to communicate value and honor to each “part” of that person, including dysfunctional qualities. Recognize the dysfunction (anger, hatred, denial, confusion, etc.) is there for a reason. We Reconcile these different “parts” through synchronization
  23. 23. We can leave behind parts of our hearts holding feelings that are overwhelmingly painful. We were a child trying hard to figure out difficult situations. These parts were needed to help process and handle things as best as we could. Internal Reconciliation:
  24. 24. • It may take some time to slowly allow understanding and acceptance of a new self-concept. There is a gradual opening of a new “space” within. We Reconcile these different “parts” through synchronization
  25. 25. How to reconcile? We seek to recognize why the “wall” is there, and synchronize, i.e. empathize (not sympathize) by validating the “child’s” pain. Give permission to feel and name their pain, and stay present with them as the Holy Spirit replaces the false beliefs with the truth that sets us free. Gently, with patience and acceptance.
  26. 26. Its All About Jesus! We look for opportunities to introduce Jesus to the “inner being child” that have been walled-off and holding the pain. We help the person and their “inner being child” to release the trauma they have been holding – to Jesus
  27. 27. We Reconcile these different “parts” through synchronization Now all things are of God, who has reconciled us to Himself through Jesus Christ, and has given us the ministry of reconciliation, that God was in Christ reconciling the world to Himself, not imputing their trespasses to them, and has committed to us the word of reconciliation. 2 Cor. 5:18-19
  28. 28. • First Step: As the minister, ask permission to connect to the presenting part. We have no agenda, no pressure. This “part” has never known acceptance before. Give language to their purpose, their “job”. We Reconcile these different “parts” through synchronization
  29. 29. • Next, Synchronize: empathize and help that “part” know they are valued, have purpose, are needed. Very often they need to know they aren’t “bad”. Even anger is there for a reason. Honor with patience. We Reconcile these different “parts” through synchronization
  30. 30. • Third, engage a dialogue by finding out how the “part” feels about Jesus, feels about the rest of the person. Utilize open-ended questions and “Listening Prayer”. We Reconcile these different “parts” through synchronization
  31. 31. • We have walled off internally and unconsciously when we were in conflicting and uncomfortable situations that evoked very uncomfortable emotions that we didn’t know how to handle. Internal Reconciliation: Reconciliation within the person via Self- Synchronization
  32. 32. Freedom through Jesus Shocking as it might be, parts of our heart don’t yet “know” Jesus, and need a safe environment to experience Him.
  33. 33. Presenting Jesus
  34. 34. Presenting Jesus: You shall know the truth, and the truth shall set you free  A powerful approach pioneered by Dr. Ed Smith (Theophostic Prayer Ministry)  Romans 8:28 promise: All things work together for our good.
  35. 35. 35 Presenting Jesus A traumatic event happens... Type A or B We believe lies about ourselves and others, such as God, because of it... We move on with our life, grow up; but we continue to be impacted by that internal decision. 80
  36. 36. 36 Presenting Jesus We believe a lie, or make a vow to help protect ourselves at a vulnerable time. We can invite Jesus to go back with us to that event/ decision, and with Him present with us, everything looks different. 80
  37. 37. 37 We want to go back to the Root Lie/Misperception The person asks Jesus to take them back to a memory, an event where they first believed a “lie” about themselves, chose unforgiveness or made a vow Often a picture or a “movie” will appear – where a trauma occurred. 86
  38. 38. 38 Presenting Jesus Children work really hard to figure out their world, but without adult perspective or life experience generally come up with an egocentric, skewed understanding. They tend to assume everything is their fault, or their responsibility, even in cases of blatant abuse or neglect. 80
  39. 39. 39 Presenting Jesus We have them ask Jesus to show them where He was in that situation. Using Listening Prayer, help them ask open-ended questions to uncover the lies/ vows, and discover the truth. Sometimes requires creativity to discover where He was. After, He has never left us, but we have often assumed He did because something bad happened. 80
  40. 40. 40 Presenting Jesus  He will show you the truth about your part/ reaction - and that sets you free from the false belief you’ve held about yourself. 83
  41. 41. Disney’s “The Kid”
  42. 42. 42 Presenting Jesus: Our view of history is changed forever! The initial event occurred before we knew Jesus, or knew that He could protect us. And that traumatized, wounded belief system still lives, locked deep within. Now, we know Who He is, and what He can do, He enters into the circumstances out of time and everything can change. 84
  43. 43. Replacing Old protection (lies) with New Truth! Recognizing that Jesus was there, and knowing His presence in a new way allows perceptions and belief systems to start shifting.
  44. 44. 44 Presenting Jesus: Let there be Light!  You number my wanderings; Put my tears into Your bottle; Are they not in Your book?  When I cry out to You, Then my enemies will turn back; This I know, because God is for me. Psalms 56:8-9 (NKJV) 85
  45. 45. 45 Do you have to remember the event? You do not have to remember the detailed, specific memory. You do have to connect with the pain/emotion from the memory. 82
  46. 46. Releasing Trauma
  47. 47. Releasing Trauma • Jesus as portrayed in Isaiah 53:3-4 • 3 He is despised and rejected by men, A Man of sorrows and acquainted with grief. And we hid, as it were, our faces from Him; He was despised, and we did not esteem Him. 4 Surely He has borne our griefs And carried our sorrows...
  48. 48. Jesus on the Cross • Jesus not only bore our sins once and for all on the cross; He also bore our griefs and sorrows. We have the great gift of being able to release the trauma and emotional pain that we are carrying to Jesus.
  49. 49. Releasing to Jesus • We can simply connect with our heart and look to Jesus – say something like: • “Jesus I release the pain, trauma, grief, (or even fear) that I’ve been carrying – to You.” And then just let it flow out of you to Jesus. This sometimes can take a while. • When it feels that it is no longer flowing – Thank Jesus for taking this for you – and ask Holy Spirit to fill you with His life, light, peace, and joy.
  50. 50. The Nature of Inner Wounds Our wounding comes from 2 kinds of traumas we experience in life. There is the trauma that comes from not receiving the good, nurturing experiences that God intended for us. This is called “Type A” trauma in the Life Model book*. There is the trauma of bad things: violence, abuse, cursing that are done to us. This is called “Type B” trauma.
  51. 51. Examples of Type A Trauma* •Not receiving as an infant - the unconditional love and joy connections that we needed from someone like our mother. •Not being cherished and celebrated by our parents for just being ourselves. •Not receiving large amounts of non- sexual physical nurturing •* From “The Life Model Book” by Wilder, Friesen, et al, pg 72
  52. 52. Examples of Type A Trauma* •Not being taught how to do hard things – to problem solve and develop persistence •Not receiving adequate food, shelter, etc. •* From “The Life Model Book” by Wilder, Friesen, et al, pg 72
  53. 53. Effects of Type A Trauma  The primary effect is to cripple one’s ability to feel positive emotions. It is therefore a form of broken-heartedness.  Because it is due to an absence instead of an overt trauma, many find it hard to acknowledge the significance of the damage and pain.  Most of the usual inner-healing approaches seem to have little effect on issues caused by Type A trauma.
  54. 54. Type B Trauma Type B trauma is the more familiar kind. It comes from physical, emotional, and sexual abuse, from abandonment, from watching others suffer violence and abuse. It can also come from experiencing traumatic violence from a vehicle accident or crime or act of war.
  55. 55. Renouncing Lies and Replacing the Truth A Traumatic event (type A or B) is a container for lies. Studies in neurological science support that these events are locked in neural pathways in the brain.
  56. 56. Renouncing Lies and Replacing the Truth For Godly grief and the pain God is permitted to direct, produce a repentance that leads and contributes to salvation and deliverance and it never brings regret; but worldly grief is deadly. 2 Cor 7:10
  57. 57. “Triggering” •Traumatic memories from the past that become triggered by events in the present. Panic attacks, PTSD. •Healing: Like Presenting Jesus, to help the person see the trauma of the event with new eyes.
  58. 58. Jesus! Jesus wants to heal our broken-into-parts heart. His work on the cross – once for all time made a place for all the trauma we’ve carried - to go. Jesus also made a way for each of us to release all of our shame, guilt, rejection, trauma, and fear to Him on the cross.
  59. 59. Freedom! So, both the trauma caused by our sins and also the effects of the sins of others – the trauma done to us - both have a place to go. And thus, we can be Free!
  60. 60. Exercise Releasing Pain and Trauma From our hearts to Jesus, who takes ALL our sin, our griefs, our sorrow, our punishment. Knowing He is with us in all that we face, being for us, and taking the hit, changes everything.

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