1. Healing the Heart
and
Freedom From Addictions
Pastor Susan Fochler
Week 3

2. Heart Sync
Allowing the Truth of our Being
to become the Way of our Being

3. Functional Emotional
Guardian
Original Self

4. Guardians:
Self-protective strategies we’ve developed
to help feel safe.
Corresponds to the Amygdala:
Fight or Flight Response

5. Addiction
What it is,
Why we do it,
And How to Heal from it

6. Addiction
What it is,
Why we do it,
And How to Heal from it

7. Guardians
+ Apparently Normal: play it safe
+ Religious, self-righteousness
+ Angry: Intimidate
+ Obsessive-Compulsive, perfectionism
+ Co-Dependent: Control others
+ Self-Punishing
+ Confusion: Overwhelmed
+ Numb: Avoid
+ Addiction

8. Addiction
Any pattern of behavior or thought that is used
in an attempt to satisfy deep heart needs to
feel comforted or safe.
Cycles that emerge in our lives when we
cannot relieve our pain and anxiety through
loving and intimate connection with people
(and God). KYLO Danny Silk

9. Belong>Believe>Behave
The true problem is not the addictive
behavior.
Behavior has it’s roots in our Belief system,
and our Belief system has it’s roots in our
sense of how we feel we Belong. (or not)
The pain of not feeling like we belong is so
devastating, that we use more superficial
behaviors or beliefs to numb the
discomfort.

10. Addiction is a form of
Control
We can “control” the alcohol, drugs,
gambling, sex, pornography, shopping,
working; all activities designed to keep us
feeling safe and cared for. We don’t believe
our hearts can feel cared for without
engaging in this activity, and can feel
overwhelming unmet pain without the
guardian Addiction stepping forward.

11. The Solution is to allow God to
establish a Belonging centered in
Him
Ps 63:1,5: O God,You are my God, earnestly
will I seek You; my flesh longs and is faint
for You, in a dry and weary land where no
water is. My whole being shall be satisfied as
with marrow and fatness; and my mouth
shall praise You with joyful lips.

12. Shame Reinforces the Addiction
Is 51:3 For the Lord
will comfort Zion, He
will comfort all her
waste places. And He
will make Her
wilderness like Eden,
and her desert like the
garden of the Lord.
Joy and gladness will
be found in her.

13. God Created us for Enjoyment and
Pleasure
In your Presence is fullness of joy; at your right hand
pleasures forevermore. Ps 16:11
I will continue beholding Your face in righteousness; I
shall be fully satisfied, when I awake beholding Your
form, and having sweet communion with You. Ps. 17:15

14. Why do we Get so Stuck?
- We don’t like this part of our heart:
- Self-hatred
- Lack of self-awareness
- Inability/unwillingness to Face Pain
- We prefer denial to truth

15. The Strategy for Healing
Allowing a part of the Heart long walled
off to experience Honor, Kindness and
Empathy, often for the first time.

16. The Goal is to communicate value and
honor to each “part” of that person,
including dysfunctional qualities.
Recognize the dysfunction (anger,
hatred, denial, confusion, etc.) is there
for a reason.
We Reconcile these different
“parts” through synchronization

17. First Step: As the prayer minister, ask
permission to connect to the
presenting part. We have no agenda,
no pressure. This “part” has never
known acceptance before. Give
language to their purpose, their
“job”.
We Reconcile these different
“parts” through synchronization

18. Next, Synchronize: empathize and
help that “part” know they are
valued, have purpose, are needed.
Very often they need to know they
aren’t “bad”. Even anger is there for
a reason. Honor with patience.
We Reconcile these different
“parts” through synchronization

19. Third, engage a dialogue by finding
out how the “part” feels about
Jesus, feels about the rest of the
person. Utilize open-ended
questions and “Listening Prayer”.
We Reconcile these different
“parts” through synchronization

20. We can leave behind parts of our hearts
holding feelings that are overwhelmingly
painful.We were a child trying hard to
figure out difficult situations.These parts
were needed to help process and handle
things as best as we could.
Internal Reconciliation:

21. Synchronize
Validate how they feel, and why they’ve
done the “job” they’ve done. They
were angry, sad, shut down, etc. for a
very good reason. Recognition of what
they have done to help protect the
heart is a powerful experience.

22. Reconciliation
Engaging in open ended questions, understanding
areas of conflict and misunderstanding.

23. Releasing Trauma
Heaviness, Grief, Responsibility,Violence
Infilling with Holy Spirit

24. We have walled off internally and
unconsciously when we were in
conflicting and uncomfortable
situations that evoked very
excruciating emotions that we didn’t
know how to handle.
Internal Reconciliation:
Reconciliation within the person
via Self-Synchronization

25. Synchronize
They were alone to
figure out how to
protect their heart.
Letting Guardian know
Jesus wants to be in
relationship, helping
and loving.

26. Deliverance from
Cosmic Beings
Jesus has authority over beings such as
“rule, authority, power and dominion”. We
have authority over demons.

27. We ask Jesus to Intervene
The prayer is based on asking Jesus to exert His
authority, instead of taking authority for ourselves.