Bruce Wilkinson, 7 Laws of the Learner: law 2b maximisers

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Bruce Wilkinson, 7 Laws of the Learner: law 2b maximisers

  1. 1. Law 2: The Law of Expectation Method & Maximisers Saturday 23 October 2010
  2. 2. 5 steps to help you blossom the people around you. They can be used at any time, on any day. Expectation Method Saturday 23 October 2010
  3. 3. “Examine” and “pay careful attention” to the person you want to blossom. Look for opportunities to share your positive expectations with them 1. EXAMINE the person you want to blossom Saturday 23 October 2010
  4. 4. You don’t create these opportunities but you recognise them when they arise. The more skilled you become at this the more you see them. Examine Attention Expose “You just did _______” Description Past Saturday 23 October 2010
  5. 5. Once you have seen someone act in a way you can use for good - expose it, show that you saw it, and describe it to them 2. EXPOSE what the person did Saturday 23 October 2010
  6. 6. “You just did...” They need to know you saw - then pause before going onto the next step The pause lets it get into their heart that you saw it Saturday 23 October 2010
  7. 7. Emotion “That makes me feel _______” Reaction Expose “You just did _______” Description Past Present Pause Saturday 23 October 2010
  8. 8. Now describe your emotion and reaction- how you felt about what they did, “That makes me feel...” Make your comment age appropriate - then pause again, whilst making eye contact 3. Describe your EMOTION about what the person did Saturday 23 October 2010
  9. 9. Emotion “That makes me feel _______” Reaction Past Present Pause Expect “I believe you are becoming _______” Expectation Saturday 23 October 2010
  10. 10. Up to this stage all you have done is complimented them - now you have to blossom them through the power of expectation - you now share your expectation, “I believe you are becoming...” This moves the emphasis from what they did towards what they can become 4. Tell the person what you EXPECT of him in the future Saturday 23 October 2010
  11. 11. Now you are drawing out dreams in their mind - Wilkinson says this is part of visionary leadership, seeing what others don’t yet see and pointing people there. We should be visionary in parenting, teaching, leading... Saturday 23 October 2010
  12. 12. Exposing dealt with the past, emotion was in the present, but expectations are in the future - telling people what they can become Effective expectations have some common characteristics Saturday 23 October 2010
  13. 13. Effective expectations have some common characteristics 1. Expressing belief in a persons potential 2. Using the future perspective- becoming, growing into, developing, expanding... 3. A positive not negative vision 4. Their noblest aspirations - not your own 5. Inspiring - let them put in their own details 6. Possible - don’t lie to make them feel good Saturday 23 October 2010
  14. 14. Past Present Pause Expect “I believe you are becoming _______” Expectation Endear Affection Saturday 23 October 2010
  15. 15. Endear by becoming close and personal - you have said something precious which is cemented by the right, appropriate affection 5. ENDEAR yourself to the person through appropriate touch Saturday 23 October 2010
  16. 16. Imagine you are a parent and it is father / mother’s day. Your child arrives with breakfast specially served for you in bed. Outline the conversation / comments you would make to them using the five point outline shown here. Saturday 23 October 2010
  17. 17. It is teachers day. A student who is not usually well behaved or helpful arrives late for class bringing you a present. Outline the conversation / comments you would make to them using the five point outline shown here. Saturday 23 October 2010
  18. 18. “Both he who expects great things of others, and he who expects little, will receive what he expects” Saturday 23 October 2010
  19. 19. Wilkinson cites a pastor who prays for his deacons and then phones them and tells them he has been praying and how much he values them and how he thinks the hand of God is upon their life Maximiser 1: Employ opportunities purposefully Saturday 23 October 2010
  20. 20. Wilkinson also cites his daughter coming home with 3 F’s in a subject. He then told her how disappointed he was but went on to say that he was glad about it - why? - because now she had gotten those behind her she was ready to turn the corner, apply herself and live up to all the potential the Lord had given her. She could now conquer the subject. Saturday 23 October 2010
  21. 21. Wilkinson also cites his daughter coming home with 3 F’s in a subject. He then told her how disappointed he was but went on to say that he was glad about it - why? - because now she had gotten those behind her she was ready to turn the corner, apply herself and live up to all the potential the Lord had given her. She could now conquer the subject. Saturday 23 October 2010
  22. 22. As many ways as you can imagine, here are 5; Pray it - Paul for Ephesians 3:14-21 Say it indirectly - compliment a piece of work in front of someone then reveal who did it. Maximiser 2: Express expectations creatively Saturday 23 October 2010
  23. 23. Write it - notes are very powerful and are usually kept for longer. Telephone - need I say anything? Send something unusual - you can be creative here... Saturday 23 October 2010
  24. 24. People don’t listen well - so choose words carefully if you want to make an impact Remember it is hard to undo the power of harmful words Maximiser 3: Pick words precisely Saturday 23 October 2010
  25. 25. Eyes are our primary receptors - direct eye contact validates sincerity Maximiser 4: Make eye contact Saturday 23 October 2010
  26. 26. >100 nonverbal signals are used in communication - therefore, body and lips should be synchronised Lean forward, relaxed, palms up, sit on edge of desk, at eye level of other person Maximiser 5: Communicate body language carefully Saturday 23 October 2010
  27. 27. Social and cultural norms are different between countries - be careful here Maximiser 6: Touch others appropriately Saturday 23 October 2010
  28. 28. Set them before the class begins - make sure they are positive - be bold and brave and expect the best from the students. Maximiser 7: Set expectations confidently Saturday 23 October 2010
  29. 29. Saturday 23 October 2010
  30. 30. “I touch the future: I teach” Saturday 23 October 2010
  31. 31. “I touch the future: I teach” Saturday 23 October 2010
  32. 32. “I touch the future: I teach” Christa McAuliffe Saturday 23 October 2010
  33. 33. “I touch the future: I teach” Christa McAuliffe [Teacher who lost her life on space shuttle challenger] Saturday 23 October 2010
  34. 34. 1. Why do we find it easier to believe the worst about someone rather than the best? 2. What words could you use rather than, “I’m proud of you” - think of 5 alternatives. 3. Who could you help to blossom today, through this semester - are you doing it? Questions Saturday 23 October 2010

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