Richard Suzman of the National Institute on Aging, which funded this research, said he was &quot;surprised by the magnitude of the relationship between loneliness and hypertension in this well-controlled, cross-sectional study.&quot;
The researchers separated loneliness out from depression, age, race, gender, weight, alcohol consumption, smoking, blood pressure medications, hostility, stress, social support and other factors.
Also, loneliness does eat at you. The morbid health effect of loneliness accumulates gradually and faster as you get older, the study found. Loneliness was worse for blood pressure than any other psychological or social factor the researchers studied.
Weight loss and physical exercise reduce blood pressure by the same amount that loneliness increases it. Hawkley said this finding especially surprised her.
&quot;It&apos;s comparable to the effects you see for the health benefits that are so often advocated such as exercise [to] keep your blood pressure under control,&quot; Hawkley told LiveScience.
Who is lonely
About one in five Americans is lonely, a gnawing emotional state that is a patchwork of feeling unhappy, stressed out, friendless and hostile.
The main psychological difference between lonely and non-lonely people is that the former perceive stressful circumstances as threatening rather than challenging and cope passively and withdraw from stress rather than trying to solve the problem, said study co-author John T. Cacioppo.
Lonely people who are middle-aged and older tend to also have problems with alcoholism, depression, weak immune system responses to illness, impaired sleep and suicide.
Some psychologists think that associations between loneliness and health or physiology are just part of a generic stress response, but this new research suggests loneliness has a unique impact.
We can imaginesome group of Homo erectus sitting around their fire after a hardday of hunting and gathering. Someone announces, “Lake cold.”Another replies, “Fishing good.”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=amuBrjVBuv4 How to Win Friends and influence People
&quot;You have it easily in your power to increase the sum total of this world’s happiness now. How? By giving a few words of sincere appreciation to someone who is lonely or discouraged. Perhaps you will forget tomorrow the kind words you say today, but the recipient may cherish them over a lifetime.
Transactional CCoommmmuunniiccaattiioonn SSyysstteemmss TThheeoorryy
A change in one element affects all of
the other elements.
No single cause explains why you
interpret messages the way you do.
The Communication BBuutttteerrffllyy EEffffeecctt
Small changes can have profound
Communication ooppeerraatteess aass aann eennttiittyy..
Visual, tactile, olfactory (aroma), intonational
Only 20% is communicated by words- Whoa!!
It is irreversible - you cannot hit undo. Crap!
Many human interpersonal pprroobblleemmss
aarree rrooootteedd iinn ccoommmmuunniiccaattiioonn..
BBuutt nnoott aallll……
I don’t like you.
I have an opinion different than you.
Your message is understood…but I reject it.
Conflict of ethics. We don’t always have to tell
people what they want to hear. That is
CCoommmmuunniiccaattiioonn iiss aa pprroocceessss
It is learned and culturally dependent
Sender to receiver - on average we interrupt others
every 12 seconds – learn to listen.
““ II ddiiddnn’’tt mmeeaann wwhhaatt yyoouu tthhoouugghhtt II ssaaiidd””
““BBlliinndd ssppoottss”” aarree tthhee ssoouurrccee ooff mmaannyy ccoommmmuunniiccaattiioonn pprroobblleemmss..
Why text messages can go horribly wrong and hurt relationships.
Emphasis and tonal qualities can change the message:
““II ddiiddnn‘‘tt ssaayy sshhee ssttoollee mmyy mmoonneeyy..””
I didn't say she stole my money - someone else said it
I didn't say she stole my money - I didn't say it
I didn't say she stole my money - I only implied it
I didn't say she stole my money - I said someone did, not necessarily her
I didn't say she stole my money - I considered it borrowed, even though
she didn't ask
I didn't say she stole my money - only that she stole money
I didn't say she stole my money - she stole stuff which cost me money to