What Makes BulletProof Coaching Work? Paul W. Anderson, Ph.D., BulletProofCoach.com, 913-901-9110 The benefit of coaching is only as good as the theory your coach uses.
1) The coached person does better if they do not feel alone in confronting and dealing with snags and snarls in their job or whatever situation they struggle with. <ul><li>Company helps, especially the company of a coach who can share your perspective. </li></ul><ul><li>A client of mine, Tom, worked to develop a sound and profitable company. Eventually he sold it for millions of dollars. This new wealth thrust him into a place he had never been. Neither had any of his family or friends. He was suddenly alone with no one around to support or understand him. Coaching helped him get calmer so he could think more clearly about how to manage his money instead of it managing him. </li></ul>
2) Analysis paralysis kills good performance . <ul><li>The human brain gets bogged down with repetitious self talk. It’s like people lost in the forest: they go in circles. Your coach will simplify things for you and help you focus on what matters most. </li></ul><ul><li>Brian, a financial consultant, was successful up to a point. That point was where he let perfection in his work be the enemy of every day good. Trouble was, the more successful he was, the more he had to have things perfect or not at all. As a result, he was stuck. Together, we looked at his dilemma. He learned to “settle” for progress with the good, not only demand the best. </li></ul>
3) Getting attention from a coach sparks the “Pygmalion Effect”, sometimes called “self-fulfilling prophecy.” <ul><li>Your coach not only shows you how to achieve what you want, but believes you can get there. That “belief” from another person is powerful medicine. </li></ul><ul><li>Sue thought she could manage the new department that came with her recent promotion, but she was not sure. On one hand she didn’t want to challenge her boss’s judgment who promoted her, but then again, maybe it was all luck and she was just a hoax. Self doubt set in. As her coach, I encouraged her to trust the facts. She came to see her promotion was not by chance. She had earned it and proven her merit in the corporate trenches. My belief in her was the tipping point and she got on with her successful career. She actually came to believe she was fit for the job and that she could do it well. </li></ul>
4) Your coach understands the meaning of this African proverb : <ul><li>“ When lion chase you, climb the tree.” </li></ul><ul><li>No, you don’t climb the tree to escape the lion. Lions climb trees. Rather, when under duress, climb a tree so you can get as large a perspective on your situation as possible. Maybe, the larger view will reveal something about your situation that can save you from the lion. Good coaches are great at climbing trees, figuratively speaking. A larger perspective can turn mountains into mole hills. </li></ul><ul><li>Bill was bogged down in everyday work and a malpractice suit. He was discouraged. I suggested he do one thing he could afford, money and time wise, that was his heart’s desire. He choose to attend a week long workshop on gardening, a beloved activity he had neglected. When he came back, not only was he rested and renewed, but his entire situation looked smaller, more manageable and hopeful. He had his life back in perspective. </li></ul>
With these principles and theoretical perspectives in mind, your BulletProof Coach knows how to suggest what to do with whom, when, where and how so you can turn your best into sustained success. Paul W. Anderson, Ph.D . [email_address]