La Divina Commedia (2) Creating the life and career you love in the Second Half of Life By Peter de Kuster with Falco Valkenburg Tell the Story about Your Dreams Roberto Benigni’s Tutti Dante What’s the story about your dream? For some that’s an easy question to answer. Maybe you’ve spent years, even decades, nurturing deep within you the spark of an idea for a business or a new career. Or perhaps you’ve always had a fully developed fantasy vision of what you wished your life and work could be. Late at night when you can’t sleep you draw solace from your dream. At times when your real world is frustrating or demoralizing, you look inward to your dream for the strength to go on. “one day I’ll give this all up and write that novel I’ve been thinking about for years”. You may think. Others don’t have a fully developed dream. Instatd of having complete stories of your fantasy life, you may have an abstract sense of what you want. Maybe it’s less a matter of what you want than what you don’t want.
The storytelling process is important Whether you’ve a full blueprint story of your dream or just a vague notion, to launch the Divina Commedia that will make it a reality, you need to define it clearly and simply. We think the best way to do that is to tell a great story about it. The idea here is to go through stages that reveal your story what it is you want to do with your life and then enable you to tell in it a story as specific and powerful as possible. Roberto Benigni, famous for La Vita e Bella will be our guide on this part of the journey. The first stage looks at your dream or dreams from slightly different perspectives in an effort to give you a number of different views of your story. By looking at your passions, your strengths, your interests you may be able to tell a powerful story what it is you truly want. The remaining two stages help frame your dream in a as powerful story as possible. By telling a powerful story of your dream we’ll make it much more easier to achieve.
Telling a powerful story which is authentic, matches your dreams and gives you everyday the energy to work at it will engage you and will move others. Tell about your PASSIONS Tell your story about what the things are you feel passionately about? Write them down. Don’t worry about their practicality or their potential to generate income. We’re not building the whole story here, just pouring a foundation. Don’t start defending yourself to your critics or planning ways to defeat obstacles. Give free rein to your feelings. Get a thrill of travel? Love to watch movies each and every day? Enjoy writing do you? Put it on the list. Next, tell your story about the places you are passionate about. Don’t limit yourself to places you’ve lived or even visited. Don’t feel they need to be specific geographic places. Do you just love to be in a bookstore? A fitness gym? Your sportscar? Write it down. Love the palpable sense of energy and excitement at a movie theater when the curtain is about to go up? List it. Think back at the times when you felt the best about yourself. When the time flew by. Don’t focus on just milestones events. Really tell the stories about activities you loved to do and were completely engaged in. What
were you doing? Where were you? Who were you with? It could be riding a bicycle. Or writing a story. Of telling your story on a stage. Finally. Imagine you have won the lottery and you have all the money in the world. What would you buy for a life with that money. Which material stuff? A home in Italy? A new Jaguar? More hair on your head? Then note all the great things you would do with your money: endow a scholarship for creative kids, buy your mother a new house. Express all your giving stories. Have you had fun? You have still millions of euro’s extra. What would you do for yourself. All this fantasy money gives you the chance to buy you’ve always wanted to lead. Maybe there’s a location where you’ve always wanted to live. A book you wanted to write in the sun. Take a few days to look back at your story. Read it over and over. Look for common threads and motives in your story. Don’t belittle any of your passions, discount nothing. Answer then these two questions: • What do I want? • How will I know when I get it?
Are you ready for your journey? Take a look at your story. What’s your story to seeing this simple, yet powerful tale of your deepest held dream? It could be you’re excited, thrilled at the possibility of the glorious life that lies in store for you. You may feel empowered, ready to climb mountains and battle monsters to reach your long-‐dreamed goal. On the other hand, it could be you’re now convinced you can’t possibly do this. What you’re experiencing is stage fright. It happens to lots of people. You have a choice. You can give in to your stage fright, put this guide of Florence down, and go back to the life you’re currently leading. Nobody will know. You’ll be exactly where you were when you started reading. Your dream life will remain locked deep within you, a path never taken, a chance never seized. It will remain, like all fantasies, perfect. But it will still be a fantasy. Or, you can move to the next phase of your Divina Commedia journey. You can take the leap of faith. You can step up like Dante to confront the hell first. We need to warn you: Your dream life will no longer be perfect. You’ll
be faced with having to make choices in order to reach your goals. But, in the end your dream life will be real. Roberto Benigni once said: “There is the risk you cannot afford to take, and there is the risk you cannot afford not to take”. Creating a life and work you love in the second half of life – your Divina Commedia – is a risk you cannot afford not to take because the payoff is so enormous. “Uno spettacolo memorabile”. Your life story.