Four choices when hearing a difficult message

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Four choices when hearing a difficult message

  1. 1. FOUR CHOICES WHEN HEARING A DIFFICULT MESSAGE Judgmental (Jackal) Ears Out Blame or criticize the other person "Its your fault." "You are _________." "You should ______." Voice of Anger Judgmental (Jackal) Ears In Blame or criticize yourself "Its my fault." "I am __________." "I should ______." Voice of Guilt, Shame and Depression Generative (Giraffe) Ears InConnect to your internal experience of feelings and needs "Im feeling_______ because I need/value______." Voice of Self-Empathy Generative (Giraffe) Ears Out Connect to the feelings and needs of the other person "Are you feeling _______ because youre valuing/needing______?" Voice of Empathy Based on the work of Marshall B. Rosenberg, author of Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life© 2006 peaceworks Jim and Jori Manske, CNVC Certified Trainers 505-344-1305 nvctrainer@gmail.com radicalcompassion.squarespace.com and cnvc.org

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