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Marriage & Family2

  1. 1. The images used appear to be in the public domain. If any picture is used inappropriately, please let me know I will correct it immediately.
  2. 2. "The happiest moments of my life have been the few which I have passed at home in the bosom of my family." -- Thomas Jefferson Thomas Jefferson According to many recent studies of well-being one of the most important factor in providing happiness is close social relations particularly in the family. People who are married are happier than those who are not.
  3. 3. Christopher Lasch begins his book with this question: ‘ why has family life become so painful, marriage so fragile, relations between parents and children so full of recrimination?’ (p.xiv)
  4. 5. <ul><li>The community, the lord, the parents decided a good match for their children </li></ul><ul><li>Marriage was not based on love. Husbands and wives were generally strangers until they first met. If love was involved at all it came after the couple had been married. </li></ul><ul><li>The arrangement of the marriage was based on monetary worth </li></ul><ul><li>Girls could be 12 years old and boys 17 when they married </li></ul>Arranged Medieval Marriage: A Matter of Politics and Property
  5. 6. Luther Paves the Way Martin Katharina von Bora
  6. 7. Ordered by Father By attraction Political Reason
  7. 8. Presentation of Marie de Medici’s Portrait to Henri IV Wedding by Proxy of Marie de’ Medici to King Henri IV, 1606
  8. 9. Charlotte de Montmorency Long Distance Marriage for Diplomatic Reasons Flounders She is fifteen and he is 57 Henry IV
  9. 10. William Hogarth, Marriage à la Mode, 1743 Lawyer Silvertongue Lord Squanderfield Son Squanderfield Bride Father of Bride
  10. 11. Scene 2, Shortly after Marriage. Exhausted husband from a night on the town –(brothel?). Lady’s cap in his master’s pocket. It is breakfast time, the woman is already tired. There was card playing in night. The butler is disgusted: The household is in chaos. The butler leaves despairingly, a clutch of bills Religious pictures Behind curtain erotic picture
  11. 12. The Visit to the Quack Doctor Count visiting an avaricious doctor with two women, to determine who gave him a sexual disease
  12. 13. The Countess’s Levee (Toilette) Marriage a la Mode, Scene 4 She is now a countess and mother. The lawyer Silvertongue invites her to a masquerade 'Jupiter and Io‘ 'Lot and his Daughters' Lawyer Silvertongue Countess husband
  13. 14. The Death of the Earl, Count catches his wife with her lover, Lover kills Husband. As she comforts the stricken man, the murderer in his nightshirt makes a hasty exit through her bedroom window.
  14. 15. The Suicide of the Countess, Countess poisons herself in her grief and poverty-stricken widowhood, after her lover is hanged for murdering her husband.
  15. 16. The 18 th Century the small nuclear families emerged. They were a product of a greater freedom in individual choice (young men set up business/farm and get married; They marry women who could help their business; together they take advantage of the economic opportunities made available
  16. 18. <ul><li>Marriage based on Romantic Love: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Idealization of the loved one </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Notion of a one and only </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Love at first sight </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Love winning out over all </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>An indulgence of personal emotion </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Work (Public Sphere) was separated from the Home (Private Sphere), more individualized, more child-centered </li></ul><ul><li>together with this new notion of childhood, the modern wife emerged; woman as the object of adoration and protection (romantic love), and she was then the custodian of family/home as a sanctified sphere </li></ul><ul><li>women’s child-nourishing responsibilities were elevated to supreme virtues, and true womanhood was about piety, submissiveness, gentleness and purity; sex (to be hidden from the innocent children) is to be confined to marriage and family </li></ul><ul><li>Gender bias: Man the Breadwinner and worker in the Public Sphere </li></ul>
  17. 19. In India – People in arranged marriages reported more romantic love after 5 yrs of marriage – than People who married for love (Gupta & Singh, 1982)
  18. 20. The Donna Reed Show, 1958-1966 Leave It to Beaver 1957-1963 Father Knows Best, 1954-1958 The Ozzie & Harriet Show 1952-1966 Toward the End of the Victorian – Traditional Family
  19. 21. <ul><li>Family……………Transformation </li></ul><ul><li>Sexual…………..Revolution </li></ul><ul><li>Feminist Movement </li></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Ecology Movement </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>War Protest Movement </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Drug Revolution </li></ul></ul></ul>Birth years: 1946 – 1964; Formative years: ’50s to early ’80s
  20. 24. The Median Age at Which Americans Marry for the First Time is Rising
  21. 26. Never Married
  22. 28. Playing with fire 10 times more common than 30 years ago About 40% will be at one time or other in a cohabiting family
  23. 29. The divorce rate in the US has risen fivefold since 1910
  24. 30. Divorce Current divorce rates imply that half of all marriage will end in divorce
  25. 31. What Percentage of Americans are Divorced?
  26. 32. <ul><li>ROMANTIC LOVE </li></ul><ul><li>primary bond holding couple together </li></ul><ul><li>INDIVIDUALISM </li></ul><ul><li>personal needs to be met </li></ul><ul><li>GENDER ROLES </li></ul><ul><ul><li>IMPACT OF WOMEN’S GROWING INDEPENDENCE AND CAREER ORIENTATION </li></ul></ul><ul><li>SOCIAL INSTITUTIONS </li></ul><ul><ul><li>CHANGES IN LAWS, RELIGION AND THE FAMILY HAVE AFFECTED DIVORCE. “NO-FAULT DIVORCES” </li></ul></ul><ul><li>VALUES AND NORMS </li></ul><ul><ul><li>DIVORCE DOES NOT HOLD THE STIGMA IT ONCE DID FOR THOSE INVOLVED </li></ul></ul><ul><li>TEENAGE MARRIAGE </li></ul><ul><ul><li>REALITY SETTLES IN VERY QUICKLY </li></ul></ul>
  27. 33. <ul><li>PARENTAL DIVORCE. </li></ul><ul><li>DID ONE OR BOTH PERSONS EXPERIENCE DIVORCE AS </li></ul><ul><li>CHILDREN? </li></ul><ul><li>REMARRIED COUPLES. Remarried have higher divorce rate </li></ul><ul><li>HIGH EXPECTATIONS . High expectations not met lead to divorce </li></ul><ul><li>LIMITED ECONOMIC RESOURCES </li></ul><ul><li>If a WIFE EARNS MORE than her husband the likelihood of divorce increases </li></ul><ul><li>If WIFE IS IN POOR HEALTH divorce is more likely </li></ul><ul><ul><li>The more housework a wife does, the less likely a couple will divorce </li></ul></ul>
  28. 34. <ul><li>Shawn Southwick </li></ul><ul><li>(1997 – present) </li></ul><ul><li>Julie Alexander </li></ul><ul><li>(1989 – 1992; div.) </li></ul><ul><li>Sharon Lepore </li></ul><ul><li>(1976 – 1984; div.) </li></ul><ul><li>Alene Akins </li></ul><ul><li>(1967 – 1972; 2nd div.) </li></ul><ul><li>Mickey Sutphin </li></ul><ul><li>(1963 – 1967; div.) S </li></ul><ul><li>Alene Akins </li></ul><ul><li>(1961 – 1963; div.) </li></ul><ul><li>Frada Miller </li></ul><ul><li>(1952 – 1953; annull.) </li></ul><ul><li>Annette Kaye; </li></ul><ul><li>(Dates Unknown; divorced) </li></ul>King has been married eight times to seven women Larry King Serial Monogamy a form of monogamy characterized by several successive, short-term marriages over the course of a lifetime.
  29. 35. 1960 1995
  30. 38. Giovanni Arnolfini and His Wife (Wedding Portrait) Jan Van Eyck 1434
  31. 39. Green dress -hope white cap – purity red curtains- physical love, carnal union The small medallions are from the Passion of Christ, represent God’s promise of salvation for the figures reflected on the mirror’s convex surface, which in turn, represent the eye of God observing the vows of the wedding. Jan van Eyck’s message (symbolism)
  32. 40. Jan van Eyck’s message (symbolism) cont.                                                                                                              The single burning candle in the chandelier represents &quot; the ever present Jesus Christ in the marriage” The cast off shoes indicate the bride and groom stand on holy ground as they are married.   The dog represents the faithfulness in marriage.  
  33. 41.   Jan van Eyck’s message (symbolism) cont.                                                                                                                     The mirror, like the chandelier and candle, represent God's all-seeing eye. The oranges probably represent fertility and prosperity. The small statue on the bed post is of Saint Margaret, who is the patron saint of childbirth.
  34. 42. In the Beginning, at Creation, before the entrance of sin God established the Monogamous Family Gen. 2:18-25 At the End of Time, and in Revelation 22: 16 there is the image of Monogamy again as the “The Spirit and the Bride say ‘Come (Lamb [Bridegroom]” <ul><li>After the Fall, the families of the Bible are as diverse as those of our era. If we want our families to be biblical, which biblical family do we have in mind? Genesis, chapters 2, 16 and 29, I Kings 11, and the book of Ruth </li></ul><ul><li>Adam and Eve, </li></ul><ul><li>Abraham, Sarah and his concubine Hagar? </li></ul><ul><li>Jacob and his two wives Leah and Rachel? </li></ul><ul><li>King Solomon and his seven hundred wives? </li></ul><ul><li>Or Ruth and her mother-in-law Naomi </li></ul><ul><li>Or shall we emulate the apostle Paul, who advised Christians that it </li></ul><ul><li>is better to remain unmarried? 1 Cor 7:7-9 </li></ul>