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40 Learnings at 40


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Some key things I've learnt from people in my life.

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40 Learnings at 40

  2. 2. DON’T BE AFRAID JESUS IS IN YOUR HEART As a kid I was afraid to go to the kitchen at night in the dark and my Mom’s advise made me fearless in many ways. Mom 1
  3. 3. YOUR EYES IS BIG BUT YOUR STOMACH IS SMALL We should never over order food. But this simple philosophy have been applied to all aspects of my life including greed and contentment. Dad 2
  4. 4. DON’T EXPLODE My tutor Mrs Pandian is wise. She knew I don’t get angry easily kept things in my heart. She caringly advised me not to explode like a volcano when I eventually can’t keep it in anymore if not many people will get hurt. MRS PANDIAN 3
  5. 5. FILL THE PAPER AND DON’T STOP DRAWING I could never draw better then Greg and my friends in school and felt discouraged and kept crushing the doodles I did. He advised me to keep drawing and complete it. It was not only logical, it thought me perseverance. COUSIN GREG 4
  6. 6. TURN THE OTHER CHEEK It is ok to be wronged. Like the bible said, turn the other cheek. Dad 5
  7. 7. JUST PASS CAN ALREADY Dad never insisted on academic performance and was stingy with toys, but generous with anything that have got to do with learning. Dad 6
  8. 8. KNOW THE VICES Our beloved late Uncle Kai was like my older brother, he helped me overcome my curiosities when growing up and offered me my first drink and ciggy in the safe family environment. UNCLE KAI 7
  9. 9. BETTER TO GIVE THAN TO RECEIVE My Dad got me a super cool digital calculator watch at the airport when we were going to Australia when I was 10, but then later gave it away to his friend’s child. I was confused, but that changed my perception of giving and receiving. Dad 8
  10. 10. SOMETIMES PEOPLE JUST WANT TO USE YOU I’m idealistic, but my wise sister told me about realities. SISTER MAG 9
  11. 11. GRADUATES WITH HIGH SCORES CAN TAKE INSTRUCTIONS SO CAN WORK FOR THE AH BENGS Street smarts are equally or even more important then book smarts. Dad 10
  12. 12. KNOW THE NICE RESTAURANTS BECAUSE YOU NEED TO BRING PEOPLE THERE Although now we have apps to find good restaurants, there is no app that can make you be more hospitable and be a good host. Dad 11
  13. 13. PEOPLE JUDGE YOU FOR HOW YOU LOOK I had my first undercut in my teens in the mid 90s and tied a pony tail, my Dad promptly told me about the realities of how people are judged by their looks. Dad 12
  14. 14. CHOOSE WHAT YOU WANT TO DO IF NOT PEOPLE WILL TELL YOU WHAT TO DO Dad is an inquisitive and passionate adventurer and hoped I get to do what I liked to do. I’ve hardly asked people what I should do. With this perspective, there are simply too many things I want to do. Dad 13
  15. 15. BETTER TO GIVE SALARY THAN TO TAKE SALARY With this non-employee mentality, I learnt ownership and applied it to all that I do. Dad 14
  16. 16. YOU DON'T JUST TAKE CARE OF YOUR STAFF BUT THEIR FAMILIES TOO It’s not only about dollars and cents. People are people and people have families and things they care about. Dad 15
  17. 17. DO THE DIFFICULT THINGS BECAUSE OTHERS PREFER TO DO THE SIMPLE THINGS Don’t be intimidated or scared to the take the road less travelled. Dad 16
  18. 18. LEARN THE BAD THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW THEM Dad had a book called ”The Black Heart Way” which showed the schemes people have to gain an advantage for themselves. So don’t be stupid and be taken for a ride. Dad 17
  19. 19. DO WHAT YOU ARE GOOD AT OR DO WHAT YOU LIKE Do what you are good at because it will be easy or do what you like because you will enjoy it even if it is tough. If you are doing something which is both, you are lucky. But first, you need to know yourself. Mom 18
  20. 20. WORK HARD THE MONEY WILL COME Don’t focus on the money when working, focus on the things you can learn, that is where the real value is and no one can take it away from you. Work hard and the money will eventually come. Mom 19
  21. 21. IT’S BLESSED TO BE LOVED The opposite is true. It is quite an ordeal to love someone. But this is something my Mom also told my very independent girlfriend. Mom 20
  22. 22. DON’T SULK AND ENJOY YOURSELF SINCE YOU ARE ALREADY HERE I used to fold my arms and put on a black face when I’m with company I did not quite feel comfortable with, but my wife taught me how to be happy and make the most of things. WIFE PEARL 21
  23. 23. THERE IS NO BONDING WITHOUT FRICTION Men and Women are two different species and its not possible to be aligned on everything. We fight. Couples fight. The outcome should be a stronger bond between the two. WIFE PEARL 22
  24. 24. BE FAIR TO ALL YOUR CHILDREN My Father-In-Law have 3 children and he always makes a point to be fair to all of them and never show favouritism. FATHER IN LAW 23
  25. 25. IS WHAT YOU WANT TO SAY USEFUL? My Dad speaks a lot and too fast sometimes with his passion, but my Mom always gave him feedback. I’m blessed to have worked with them for 3 years to experience this part of them. If there is no purpose in saying something, then it is better to keep quiet. Mom 24
  26. 26. DON’T OVER ESTIMATE YOURSELF KNOW YOUR TRUE VALUE I asked My Dad’s business friend Mr Tan for some general advise and he said go for 3 interviews every year to know your value. You could be thinking too highly of yourself. MR TAN FROM HEMSLEY 25
  27. 27. IT’S OK TO BE AN INTROVERT BUT BETTER IF YOU CAN SOCIALIZE WHEN NEEDED I’m honestly an introvert. It is this advise from my wife that made me able to mingle with people I don’t normally can or naturally want to. A very valuable professional life skill. WIFE PEARL 26
  28. 28. SITUATIONAL LEADERSHIP I always thought there is one best way to work with people, but apparently not so as it really depends on who you are working with. Different follower maturity need different leadership styles. EX-BOSS GERARD 27
  29. 29. SHIT GRAVITATES TOWARDS GOOD PEOPLE If you are good and can solve problems, you will be called upon especially during crisis. It is only logical. This allows you to stretch and also bring real value. EX-BOSS GERARD 28
  30. 30. EVERY NEGATIVE THING CAN BE SAID IN A POSITIVE WAY Everyone like to hear nice things, so its always better to say things positively especially on emails which lack emotions. EX-BOSS GERARD 29
  31. 31. EXPERIENCE AND VALUE COUNTS NOT JUST HARD WORK The hardest working person not necessary gets paid the most. Experience and Value they bring to the organisation is even more important. BOSS TRIPTI 30
  32. 32. KNOW THE PROPER WAY One late evening at a hotel lobby in Shanghai, we had some drinks and chatted about being professionals in what we do. Although intuition and creative thinking is good, there are also recognised time tested proper ways of doing things. COLLEAGUE GARY 31
  33. 33. DON'T LET PEOPLE PUSH YOU AROUND No matter how adaptable and collaborative we are, sometimes we just need to stand our ground for what we believe is the right thing to do and not let people push us around. COLLEAGUE PREETHI 32
  34. 34. HOW CAN WE STILL MAKE THIS FUN? Organisations all face challenges, and what is important is to make sure we still have fun while facing these challenges. BOSS TRIPTI 33
  35. 35. VERTICAL LINES ARE VERTICAL Our dear late Jeremy San takes architectural photos and his simple tip of keeping vertical lines vertical made all the difference in photos I took. FRIEND JEREMY 34
  36. 36. KIDS WON'T STARVE I used to be very anxious about our kids not eating properly, but honestly in Singapore, kids won’t starve. MOTHER IN LAW 35
  37. 37. LIVE LIFE WITH STYLE If we are going to live life, lets do it with style and enjoy the process. FRIEND DESMOND KHOH 36
  38. 38. LOVE PEOPLE REALLY LOVE PEOPLE Words are cheap and to really love people is by doing what needs to be done and going out of your comfort zone for the people you say you love. FRIEND DESMOND KHOH 37
  39. 39. ENJOY LIFE Work and Life can be stressful, so learn to also enjoy life. My wife taught me how to enjoy shopping, massage, beef, wine. Now life is great. WIFE PEARL 38
  40. 40. THE DIFFICULT TIMES KIDS GO THRU IS NO LESS THAN ADULTS Seeing our kids go thru their type of stress makes me realise that it is no less then the stress adults face. DAUGHTER CLIÉ 39
  41. 41. DON'T WASTE TIME FEELING SAD Cleo likes colourful things and being happy, so she don’t understand why people want to spend time being sad. DAUGHTER CLEO 40
  42. 42. THANKS