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Do you Have Oneitis? Why “Players” Don’t get Oneitis and Their Secret to Avoiding the Friend Zone


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Here's the deal:

The "Players" are getting all the women without even trying and it makes us "regular" guys feel HORRIBLE.

HOWEVER: After years of studying these players, I've found you can actually COPY their though-process to get the same results they get. It's something they do to AVOID oneitis, and avoid the friend zone. (pua term oneitis is being obsessed with a girl)

If you also have one itis, or you want to escape the friend zone... this slideshare presentation is for you.

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Do you Have Oneitis? Why “Players” Don’t get Oneitis and Their Secret to Avoiding the Friend Zone

  1. 1. Do you Have Oneitis? Why “Players” Don’t get Oneitis and Their Secret to Avoiding the Friend Zone By: Frankie Cola
  2. 2. Are you focused on one girl a little too much? If you are, then you have “oneitis”
  3. 3. Oneitis used to happen to me all the time… I would get a crush on one girl, and the whole world would STOP. Other things stopped mattering as much – I would focus less on school, my friends, and my hobbies.
  4. 4. Even if I had other girls I kinda liked, I’d stop thinking about them… and I would get “tunnel-vision” with just that one girl. My ENTIRE well-being depended on the interaction between me and this specific girl. If she didn’t return a text message, I would worry in deep SUSPENSE, if she replied, I was temporarily RELIEVED for that day!
  5. 5. And then… I would FINALLY build the nerve to ask her out (or to reveal my feelings for her). It would typically end up with a speech that sounded like… “let’s just be friends,” or… “you’re so sweet, but I don’t feel the same way” This felt HORRIBLE
  6. 6. Right now, you probably feel like you’re falling into “oneitis” …if you are, then you want to know… how do you STOP this? How do you avoid the certain disaster of getting rejected and being told that you’re just a FRIEND… …all while she hooks up with some other guy who seems to "get it" ? How Do You AVOID This Situation?
  7. 7. How do you turn yourself into “the man” who triggers attraction in women… instead of the guy who just gets friend zoned again and again? The answer is what you discover when you start studying the few men who are wildly successful with women… How Do You AVOID This Situation?
  8. 8. The Secret Weapon the “Naturals” Have After hanging around and studying men who were successful with women (we’ll call them “players”)... …I started to notice one KEY way they handle themselves with women. This "Secret" Weapon that these “players” have, is all in their MIND… it’s the way that they THINK …and because they think THIS certain way, women find them INCREDIBLY attractive.
  9. 9. Players Have an Abundance Mentality The KEY mindset these players possess, is an ABUNDANCE mentality. They FEEL that they have many women to choose from… and they BEHAVE as if there are many OPTIONS out there.
  10. 10. An Abundance Mentality Avoids “Needy” Problems The Bottom Line: Players create attraction because they project that they have other options, so they never get NEEDY or DESPERATE
  11. 11. For example… • Players are ok taking risks with a girl (because they have other options) • They don’t get oneitis and make desperate needy behavior • They are indifferent to the result and simply move on to the next girl
  12. 12. Oneitis Comes From a Scarcity Mentality See, if you have oneitis, it’s a situation coming from SCARCITY Oneitis is the scarcity problem of feeling like you only have 1 girl to choose from. You feel that, SHE is the only girl in the world for you… and you CANNOT lose your opportunity. Know what I’m saying?
  13. 13. How to Change YOUR Thinking When you feel yourself falling into oneitis, do the following… 1. Realize that oneitis is a situation coming from scarcity 2. Inject abundance into the situation This means, start focusing on other attractive girls in your life.
  14. 14. Think about it this way: Two-itis is better than oneitis, three-itis is better than two-itis… and so on… Make it a point to like more than one girl... and failing with one of them won't hurt you as much. The more options you have, the more unfazed you become with rejection... and that's what a "player mindset” is all about. Make a Mind SHIFT Towards Abundance
  15. 15. Is a girl leaving you confused as to whether or not she likes you? Let’s face it. A girl won’t make it easy for you… She will often send mixed signals leaving you unable to tell if she is being friendly or flirty… Or WAITING for you to kiss her… The Friend Zone Test: Simple Trick Tells You if a Girl Likes You
  16. 16. If you read her signals wrong, you risk rejection and embarrassment. Or WORSE… you blow it with a girl who wanted to kiss you. Here is a simple and innocent move that will instantly tell you if you’re in the friend zone, or if she’s waiting for you to kiss her… Click HERE to Discover the Friend Zone “Test” The Friend Zone Test: Simple Trick Tells You if a Girl Likes You
  17. 17. Read similar “creating attraction” articles on when-you-have-a-crush-on-a-girl-3-steps/