WHAT IS SEXUALITY?Sex and sexuality is often thought of in very narrow terms, however it includes things such as how we see ourselves, what itmeans to be male and female and how we relate to others. Sexuality education includes not only the facts about the human body and how it works, but also aboutemotions, feelings, attitudes, values, decisi on-making, relationships and
UNDERSTANDING YOUR GENDERACCEPTING WHO YOU ARE WHAT ARE SOME OF THE CHANGES THAT TAKE PLACE? UNDERSTANDING ONES SEXUALITYWHO ARE YOU? a. MALE- FACIAL HAIR b. MALE- THEIR VOICES CRACK c. YOU GET PIMPLES WHAT MAKES YOU MALE d. FEMALES- BREASTS OR FEMALE
SOCIAL CHANGES•Feeling awkward•Needing to belong and fit in•Needing to establish a separate identity fromparents and family•“Coming of age" rituals or ceremonies celebratedby different cultures•Feeling easily embarrassed•Feeling like everyone else is looking at you•Feeling safe in a group•Wanting to look like peers, sometimes forming acertain look for your group.
EMOTIONAL CHANGES•Sometimes feeling mature and grown-up andother times wanting to be a child again•Feeling more independent•Irritable and short-tempered at times•Heightened emotions, such as crying easily•Feeling over sensitive at times•Heightened imagination, e.g. daydreams•Identifying and following a role model, e.g. acelebrity or sporting hero•A strong need to dress and act like peers or toexpress yourself•Sometimes differing views and interests to family.
PERSONAL FEELING THAT IMPACT ON SEXUALITY•MEN FEEL THAT THEY MAKE BETTER DRIVERS•PEOPLE HAVE THE IMPRESSION THAT MENSHOULD NOT COOK, CLEAN THE HOUSE ORHELP AROUND THE KITCHEN•MEN ARE THE BREADWINNERS•MEN ARE SUPERIOR TO WOMEN•WOMEN CAN ONLY BE NURSES•MEN ARE STRONGER THAN WOMEN
INFLUENCE OF FRIENDS AND PEERS ON ONE’S SEXUALITY
Some things a teen can do to handle peer pressure include:•Decide before you get into situation what your valuesand standards are.•Choose good friends who share your values. Goodfriends use positive peer pressure to help you be yourbest self.•Avoid situations where people are doing things youdont want to do.•Think about your reasons for doing things: Are theygood reasons? Are you being true to yourself and yourvalues?
Think about what the consequences will be of yourdecisions and actions, such as if an activity mightharm your health or get you into trouble.•Practice ways to say no - come up with excuses ifnecessary, such as that you dont want to get introuble, damage your body or mind, or risk blowingyour involvement in sports or academics.•Talk to your parents or a trusted adult about thekinds of peer pressure you face and listen to theiradvice.•With your parents or another trusted adult, come upwith a code word you can use to let the adult knowthat you need help getting out of a bad situation butcant talk about it.
WHAT SOCIALPRESSURES INCLUDING THE MEDIA IMPACTS ON YOUR SEXUALITY?
FAMILY AND COMMUNITY NORMSTHAT IMPACT ON YOUR SEXUALITY Family and community norms that impact on sexuality
CULTURAL ANDRELIGIOUS VALUES THAT IMPACT ON YOUR SEXUALITY
At the time of the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), the Sahabah were not too shy to ask about allaffairs, including sexual matters, so as to know the teachings of Islam inthese matters. As Aisha (ra), the wifeof the Prophet testified, "Blessed arethe women of the Ansar. Shyness did not stand in their way of seeking knowledge about their religion."
The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said, "There is noshyness in matters of religion."
CURRICULUM FOR ISLAMIC SEX EDUCATIONIslamic sex education should be taught at home starting at anearly age. Before giving education about anatomy andphysiology, the belief in the Creator should be wellestablished. As Dostoevsky put it, "Without God, everything ispossible," meaning that the lack of belief or awareness of Godgives an OK for wrongdoing.A father should teach his son and a mother should teach herdaughter. In the absence of a willing parent, the next bestchoice should be a Muslim male teacher (preferably aphysician) for boys and a Muslim female teacher (preferably aphysician) for a girl at an Islamic School or Madressa.
a. Sexual growth and development* Time table for puberty* Physical changes during puberty* Need for family lifeb. Physiology of reproductive system* For girls-* For boys-c. n/ad. Sexually transmitted disease (VD/AIDS)e. Mental, emotional and social aspects of pubertyf. Social, moral and religious ethicsg. How to avoid peer pressure