What Do You Think?• Are we born with the ability to bounce back or can we develop resiliency skills?
People bounce back in two ways:Draw on own internal resources Protective Factors Encounterpeople/groups & activitiesthat help theirresiliency skills emerge
What Can We Do To Help?Four Basic Characteristics of Resiliency Building That Add the Power of “Protective Factors” to People’s Lives
Communicate “The Resiliency Attitude”Adopt a “Strengths Perspective”Surround a Person/Family with Elementsfrom the Resiliency WheelGive It Time.
Communicate “The Resiliency Attitude” “You have what it takes to get through this!” “What is right with you is more powerful than anything that is wrong.” Must be aware and deal with the problems while also drawing upon the strengths of the person to help him/her solve the problem. * Eliminate Negative Self-Talk
Communicating the Positive How do you communicate the resiliency attitude?“Being Self-Aware”Positive Thinking: Reduce Stress by Eliminating Negative Self Talk Mayo Clinic
Adopt a “Strengths Perspective” “Exercise your strengths rather than focusing on your weaknesses When a person can’t identify her strengths, ask her to think about a problem or challenge in her life she had recently overcome.Then ask her to: “List what within yourself or outside yourself helped you overcome this problem or challenge.” Ask her to compare her list to the “Personal Resiliency Builders” list. Find some that you have used. Ask: “How can you use these same strengths to successfully deal with current problems in your life?
Personal Resiliency BuildersIndividual Protective Factors that Facilitate Resiliency Sociability/ability to be a friend/ability to form Relationships positive relationships Service Gives of self in service to others and/or a cause Uses life skills, including good decision-making, Life Skills assertiveness, and impulse control Humor Has a good sense of humor Bases choices/decisions on internal evaluation Inner Direction (internal locus of control) Perceptiveness Insightful understanding of people and situations “Adaptive” distancing from unhealthy people and situations/ Independence autonomy Positive View of Optimism / expects a positive future Personal Future
Personal Resiliency BuildersIndividual Protective Factors that Facilitate Resiliency Can adjust to change; can bend as necessary to positively Flexibility cope with situations Love of Learning Capacity for and connection to learning Self-Motivation Internal initiative and positive motivation from within Competence Is “good at something” / personal competence Self-Worth Feelings of self-worth and self-confidence Spirituality Personal faith in something greater Perseverance Keeps on despite difficulty; doesn’t give up Expresses self through artistic endeavor, or uses creative Creativity imagination, thinking, or other processes