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Wisewoman conference presentation


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Presented by Megan Raphael at the Annual WISEWOMAN Program Meeting May 5, 2010 Traverse City, MI

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Wisewoman conference presentation

  1. 1. Empowering Others… The Coach Approach Megan Raphael Courage Project Certified Professional Coach Author, award-winning book The Courage Code
  2. 2. “ You get the best effort from others not by lighting a fire beneath them, but by building a fire within.” Bob Proctor
  3. 3. Today’s Presentation <ul><li>Your role and goals </li></ul><ul><li>Effective mindsets </li></ul><ul><li>Great skills </li></ul>
  4. 4. Your Role <ul><li>Connect </li></ul><ul><li>Inspire </li></ul><ul><li>Empower </li></ul><ul><li>Inform </li></ul>In essence…you are their coach!
  5. 5. Your Goals <ul><li>1. Build a Partnership : </li></ul><ul><li>Safe, Respectful, Resolved </li></ul>
  6. 6. <ul><li>Help Your Client Connect with Their Inner Guidance </li></ul><ul><li>- What’s important? Why? </li></ul>
  7. 7. Inner Guidance = Personal Power NOT Power Over NOT Power Under But, Power WITH
  8. 8. Behavior (How we Act) Attitude (How We Feel) Thinking (What we believe) Our Core Values “ Alignment is the difference between a happy person and a divided spirit.” John Maxwell
  9. 9. <ul><li>“ How do women find their power? By being true to themselves, by starting to question, and taking control of their lives.” </li></ul><ul><li>Flora B. </li></ul>
  10. 10. <ul><li>“ Coaching is 90% attitude, 10% teaching.” </li></ul><ul><li>Amory </li></ul>
  11. 11. What’s Your Attitude… About Clients, About You? Heavy metal music Word: Hitler Words: Love & Gratitude Words: Thank you Masaru Emoto, Hidden Message in Water
  12. 12. 3 Helpful Mindsets About Your Clients <ul><li>Naturally creative, resourceful and whole </li></ul><ul><li>It’s their life </li></ul><ul><li>Success starts with alignment </li></ul>
  13. 13. 3 Helpful Mindsets About You <ul><li>Naturally creative, resourceful and whole </li></ul><ul><li>You don’t need to be the expert </li></ul><ul><li>It’s about progress, not perfection </li></ul>
  14. 14. “ Be the change you want to see in the world” Gandhi
  15. 15. How Empowered Do YOU Feel?
  16. 16. Your Wheel of Life <ul><li>In what areas of your life are you: </li></ul><ul><li>Most/least satisfied? </li></ul><ul><li>Most/least aligned? </li></ul><ul><li>Most/least empowered? </li></ul>Financial Career Personal Growth Making a Difference Spirituality Recreation Health and Appearance Relationships
  17. 17. How Connected Are You with Your Inner Voice?
  18. 18. 5 Effective Skills Creating Rapport & Momentum <ul><li>3 rd level listening </li></ul><ul><li>- Beneath their words </li></ul><ul><li>- To your intuition </li></ul><ul><li>2. Questioning </li></ul><ul><li>“ Probably my best quality as a coach is that I ask a lot of challenging ?’s and let them come up with their own answers.” Eddie Robinson </li></ul>
  19. 19. Great Coaching Questions <ul><li>What do you want? </li></ul><ul><li>What’s important to you about that goal? </li></ul><ul><li>What brings you joy? </li></ul><ul><li>What fulfills you? </li></ul><ul><li>What drains you? </li></ul><ul><li>How would your life look different if… </li></ul><ul><li>What would you do if you absolutely knew you wouldn’t fail? </li></ul>
  20. 20. <ul><li>Uncovering Ambivalence </li></ul><ul><li>- Reasons I want to change? </li></ul><ul><li>- Reasons I want things to stay the same? </li></ul><ul><li>4. Looking to Past Successes/Strengths </li></ul><ul><li>- What worked? Lessons learned? </li></ul><ul><li>- Done it once…do it again </li></ul>
  21. 21. <ul><li>Focusing on Inspired </li></ul><ul><li>ACTION (plus reflection) </li></ul><ul><li>“ Inspiration…Is remembering the future.” John Cahill </li></ul><ul><li>- Pulls forward, see around obstacles </li></ul><ul><li>- Action steps each time. </li></ul><ul><li>6. Reinforcing their Courage </li></ul>
  22. 22. One Way of Looking at Courage: <ul><li>Courage = Big, Bold Acts of Valor, Bravery </li></ul><ul><li>Outward actions only </li></ul><ul><li>One size fits all </li></ul>
  23. 24. What we think… <ul><li>Why aren’t I THAT courageous? </li></ul><ul><li>I couldn’t ever be that courageous! </li></ul><ul><li>I’m not courageous. </li></ul>
  24. 25. What If… <ul><li>You saw COURAGE </li></ul><ul><li>in a very different way???? </li></ul>
  25. 26.  Acts of Heart and Spirit  Choices…To Live…In Alignment Another Side of the Coin:  It’s unique to YOU!
  26. 28. Looking at Courage This Way: <ul><li>Following your own heart. </li></ul><ul><li>Standing up for yourself. </li></ul><ul><li>Holding true to your own values. </li></ul><ul><li>Being resilient. </li></ul><ul><li>Creating a life you want…helping others create a life they want. </li></ul>
  27. 29. You Are Courageous! “ Big Acts” of Courage” “ Everyday Acts” of Courage Divorce, moving to a new town, coming to this class, etc. Speaking up, resolving conflict, taking quiet time for yourself, etc.
  28. 30. <ul><li>&quot;I never cease to be amazed at the power of the coaching process to draw out the skills or talent that was previously hidden within an individual, and which invariably finds a way to solve a problem previously thought unsolvable.&quot; </li></ul><ul><li>John Russell, Managing Director, Harley-Davidson Europe Ltd . </li></ul>
  29. 31. Megan Raphael <ul><li>For women </li></ul><ul><li>who want to live well! </li></ul><ul><li>Crystal-clear direction </li></ul><ul><li>Mastery of your psychology for getting what you want </li></ul><ul><li>Courage to take action . </li></ul>