1 - The Greatest Obligatory ActThe Commander of the Faithful (peace be upon him) has said: “Goodness towards (one’s)parents is the greatest obligatory act.”Mizanul Hikmah, Volume 10, Page 7092 - The Best of DeedsImam as-Sadiq (peace be upon him) has said: “The best deeds are: Salat in its stipulatedhour, goodness towards parents and Jihad in the way of Allah.”Biharul Anwar, Volume 74, Page 85
Allah (Glory and Greatness be to Him) says in Hadith al-Qudsi: I swear by My Gloryand power that if a (child who is) disobedient to his parents comes to me with all thegood deeds of all the prophets, I will not accept them from him.Although our existence is from Allah (Glory and Greatnessbe to Him), it is our parents who are the means of givingus life. We are an offshoot of their existence and a fruit ofthe garden of their unparalleled affection, training, loveand sentiments. When the forgetful human being growsup to become big and strong and comes to acquire acertain credibility (in life), he forgets the period whereinhe was weak and lacking in strength. He disregards theexhaustive efforts of his parents; what ingratitude could beworse than this?
Humanity and ethics demand that we safeguard thesetwo jewels (our mother and father) - by exhibitinggoodness towards them while they are alive, and bymeans of charity and goodly remembrance after theirdeath.Our lives are an extension of our parents lives while ourchildrens lives are a continuation of ours. Our goodbehaviour towards our parents and our exhibition ofkindness towards them shall cause our children to growup as grateful and righteous individuals. They shallbehave with us just as we have behaved with our ownparents.
Just as it is beyond our means to fulfil the rights ofAllah (Glory and Greatness be to Him) and tothank Him for all His bounties in their entirety,similarly we can never thank our parentssufficiently for their efforts. The only thing thatwe can do is to acknowledge our inability andsubmit ourselves, in humility and reverence,before these two angels. However, comprehensionof their status in the eyes of Allah (Glory andGreatness be to Him) paves the way to fulfil someof their numerous rights.
Why so much emphasis on the rights of Parents? (Status of Parents in Islam,Rights of Parents)Here is a point to ponder over: We do not find in Noble Quran and Hadith so muchemphasis on looking after the children as is the case with the rights of the parents. Why?The Sharia (Islamic law) has put a new challenge to those who think. Find out how logicalthis attitude is. The fact is that the parents heart is the fountain-head of the love for thechild; this affection becomes the life-blood of the parents. Noble Quran has alluded to thisinstinctive parental love in several places.On the other hand, children especially when they are no longer in need of parental care, donot feel so much love for the parents. We are not speaking about respect. Here the talk isabout instinctive love; and experience is a reliable witness to confirm this observation.It is a known fact that sign-posts are not needed on straight highways; but at a cross-roadwhere several routes branch out, one cannot expect to get onto the right path without aguide or a sign-post.t is for this reason that Islam does not emphasize in so many words those aspects of lifewhich are taken care of by human nature itself. It is where the hold of natural instinct isloosened that Islam extends its helping hand and leads man on the right path by tellinghim what he is expected to do.It was for this reason that Islam did not explain the rights of children so forcefully; but fullemphasis was given to the rights of the parents.
Allah Ta’ala says in the Holy Quran, “And We have enjoined on man to be good tohis parents, in travail upon travail did his mother bear him, and for two years washis weaning, so show gratitude to Me and to your parents and to me is yourreturn.”(Quran, 31:14)Allah Ta’ala says in the Holy Quran, “And remember when we took a covenantfrom the Children of Israel that you Worship none but Allah and you treat withkindness your parents.”(Quran, 2:83)Abdullah Bin Umar Radiyallahu ‘anhu narrates that, I asked theProphet Sallallohu alaihi wasallam, “Which deed is the dearest toAllah?” He replied, “To offer the prayers at their fixed times.” I asked,“What is next?” He replied, “To be good and dutiful to your parents.”I again asked, “What is the next?” He replied, “To strive in the pathof Allah.”(Bukhari)
Rasulullah Sallallohu alaihi wasallam was asked about themajor sins, Rasulullah Sallallohu alaihi wasallam said,they are:-* To join others in worship with Allah, (to commit shirk)* To be undutiful to one’s parents, (disobedience toparents)* To kill a person un justly (Muslim or Non-Muslim whichAllah has forbidden to kill)* And to give a false witness.”(Bukhari)Rasulullah (pbuh) was asked as to what rights parents candemand from their children.” Rasulullah Sallallohu alaihiwasallam replied that, “They are your Paradise and yourHell.”(Tirmidhi)
Once while the Sahabah Radhiallohu ‘anhum werewith the Prophet Sallallohu alaihi wasallam, a manfrom the Banu Salmah came to Him and said: OhAllahs Messenger Sallallohu alaihi wasallam, isthere any kindness left that I can do to my parentsafter their death? Rasulullah Sallallohu alaihiwasallam replied: Yes, you can invoke blessings onthem, ask forgiveness for them, carry out their finalinstructions after their death, join ties ofrelationship which are dependent on them,and honour their friends.(Abu Dawood)
1- Kindness to Parents and ParadiseImam ar-Ridha (peace be upon him) relates that the Noble Prophet (peace beupon him and his family) has said: “Be good and kind to your parents so thatyour recompense is paradise, and if you have been disowned by them, yourabode shall be the fire (of Hell).”Al-Kafi, Volume 2, pg.3482.Worship in LookingThe Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him and his family) has said: “The look of a childtowards his parents out of love for them is an act of worship.”Biharul Anwar, Volume 74, Page 80
Prophet Muhammad SAW said:One who pleases his parents hasverily pleased Allaah, and one whohas angered his parents have verilyangered AllaahSubmitted byHashmatullah Meyakhel