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Parenting approaches for Working Parents and Leaders who seek balanced lives.

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Parenting and work

  1. 1. Women Leaders and Early Years Education Meeta Sengupta September 26, 2013 Saturday, 28 September 13
  2. 2. Meet Anne Marie Slaughter.. • President and CEO, New America Foundation • Former Director of Public Policy at the State Department • Professor Emerita, Princeton • Mother of 2 teenage boys • “Having it All” to “Movement for Men” • From Competition to Care Saturday, 28 September 13
  3. 3. Meet Sheryl Sandberg.. Saturday, 28 September 13
  4. 4. Meet KC... • Global Leader • MNC career • Three children • Hectic Travelling schedule • Parental Support • Routines • Holidays • Is there any which way to win? Saturday, 28 September 13
  5. 5. I wonder how she does it? Saturday, 28 September 13
  6. 6. What do we have in Common? • The desire to do the best by our education, for our children’s education • The ability to be organised • But also, the inspirat...pressure to be... Multi tasker! Problem Solver! Multiple Roles! Perfectly Turned out! Have perfect Relationships! Calm and in Control! Always Victorious! Have perfect high achieving children! Saturday, 28 September 13
  7. 7. It really is about.. •Quality Childcare •Reliable Support Service •Enabled Men and Women •Good Advice Organisation Saturday, 28 September 13
  8. 8. Leadership, Parenting and ECCE • “Parental Engagement enhances student performance”/(More senior time makes a better project) • “The mother is the first teacher”/ (The project manager has to show the way) • “I don’t want my children to learn from them”/ (Let us not outsource, even if we don’t have resources) • “See how clever X’s child is! Reciting English poetry and only three years old!!”/ (Look at that other project! Their excel sheet is better than ours!) • “What do you do at home all day?”/ (Oh, you are on the probono project and still work so many hours?) • If you heard statements like this in your team, what would you do? Saturday, 28 September 13
  9. 9. Role of Parents in Early Years • To not be ‘guilt-tripped’ • To base decisions on evidence, aptitude and resources • To trust yourself • To share resources, not ‘comparisons’ • To invest in happiness Saturday, 28 September 13
  10. 10. Harried Parent Do’s and Don’ts • Do smile and Hug a lot • Do Tell stories • Do Lead by example • Do Set structures and boundary conditions • Do Listen. Listen. Listen. • Don’t get stressed • Don’t reward what you dislike e.g. tantrums • Don’t micro-compare • Don’t limit education to schoolroom demands • Don’t take over (e.g.privacy, achievements, looks) • Don’t Give up Saturday, 28 September 13
  11. 11. Remember.. And a woman who held a babe against her bosom said, “Speak to us of Children.” And he said: Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts. For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday. You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth. The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far. Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness; For even as he loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable. - Khalil Gibran Saturday, 28 September 13
  12. 12. So ... Don’t Worry, Be Happy? Nyaah.. never that easy. Put the Child at the Centre Weekends are Work Share your work Parent Networks Team Teach Holidays and Learning Be Hyper Organised Saturday, 28 September 13
  13. 13. Which means.. Put the Child at the Centre Weekends are Work Share your work Parent Networks Build Your own Traditions and Rituals Holidays and Learning Be Hyper Organised (i) Plan Themed Holidays in Line with curriculum (ii) Learn a new skill every holiday A Place for Everything, Everything in its Place With your children too! (Let them join in!) “Tell me the story of your Day” “I’ll always come back” It takes a Village to grow a Child... Take all the help you can get Enlist and organise your resource-persons Schedule the weekend Remember to Schedule fun and rest too! (i) Timetables and Lists (ii) Be FlexiFirm (iii) Have a plan, have a back-up A Stitch in time, saves nine Freedom is the freedom to do good Saturday, 28 September 13
  14. 14. Everyday Education Routine Task Embedded Education Enhancements Getting Ready for School Goal Setting, Task focus, Planning Share the work, make it a race, gamify! Have you reached home? Reporting, Safety checks, Emotional safety net, reassurance Set up rituals Have you had your evening milk? Reporting, Food Awareness, Touch base, Communication channel Listen. To the words said or not said Do your homework. I’m coming. Independence. Responsibility. The Daily Homework News Telecast! I have a call. Be quiet. I’m here. Postponement. Awareness. Sharing. Plan a task for a scheduled call time. Or a movie. Shall we play? Edutainment. Scheduling. Flexifirm Have a plan for the quarter. Build a range of skills and attitudes. Let me check your homework Hmmm.. Do we want to??? Randomly or routinely? Play games based on school work standards, not tasks. Time for Bed Routines, structures, Planning for the next days, Priorities Build personal traditions that build values and memories Reading Together (when travelling?) Builds security. Facetime, skype, phone, recording? Play word games. Choose fun books. Let morals be embedded, not explicit Saturday, 28 September 13
  15. 15. Thank You! ( (C) Meeta Sengupta / Saturday, 28 September 13