Romantic Love’s Influence on Media Specific to Western Culture By: Matt Kmiecik
Definitions of Love• Robert A. Johnson: 2 definitions of love- Human Love Romantic Love •Find meaning in ordinary •Exciting drama where a things couple is “high” on one •Lasting and growing another •Content with things that •“fire” romantic love would be •Intensity bored •“more than friends” •Quiet steady love •A couple will expect this ideal love to fulfill their desires, needs and fantasies
Problems With Romantic Love• Jacob J. Weinstein – Romantic love has a couple fall in love with a picture perfect projection of a lover – Romance feeds on the unique, exotic, and sentimental – Romantic love crowds out old family image – Media has shaped romantic love to be ideal love
Problems With Romantic Love• Jacob J. Weinstein – Romantic love’s influence on marriage: • Paradox: romantic love temporary marriage permanent • Couples who don’t feel exotic romantic love= not be with each other? • Increasing divorce rates because of romantic love • Couples expect romantic love to persist through marriage, when it doesn’t the couple is unhappy • Marriage must kill romance to survive
Media• Jacob J. Weinstein: Media has shaped romantic love to be ideal love• Books/novels/poems – Filled with love stories (Fiction/non-fiction) – Encourages fantasy and dreams
Movies• Biggest influence on romantic love• Weinstein: Hollywood has overplayed romantic love
Romantic Love: A Problem?• If romantic love is so bad then why are there countless numbers of books, magazines, and movies about romantic love?• Is romantic love really causing the divorce rate to go up?• Since romantic love was created can it be destroyed?