Intimate Relationships                      and Communication                                   Chapter Four© 2010 McGraw-...
Developing Intimate Relationships   • Be willing to give of themselves        – Share their ideas, feelings, time, and nee...
Friendship   • Characteristics        – Companionship        – Respect        – Acceptance        – Help        – Trust   ...
Love, Sex, and Intimacy   • Love is one of the most basic and profound     human emotions   • Love does not give us perfec...
Relationships   • Strong relationships comprise of:         – Trust         – Caring         – Respect         – Loyalty  ...
The Pleasure and Pain of Love   •      Intense love has confused and          tormented lovers throughout history   •     ...
The Transformation of Love   • All relationships change over time   • At first, there are high levels of passion     and i...
Challenges in Relationships    • Honesty and Openness    • Unequal or Premature Commitment    • Unrealistic Expectations  ...
Unhealthy Relationships   • Reasons why?   • Ending a Relationship        – Guidelines of a breakup              • Give th...
Communication    • Nonverbal          – Ability to interpret nonverbal messages    • Communication skills          – Self-...
Conflict and Conflict Resolution    •      Conflict resolution skills are vital for           maintaining intimate relatio...
Pairing and Singlehood   • Choosing a Partner        – Similarities (to your own)              • Ethnic and socioeconomic ...
Dating   • Different cultures have different rituals for     finding a mate   • American culture        – Focuses on getti...
Living Together   • Cohabitation   • By the age of 30, half of all men and     women will have cohabited   • Rarely contin...
Same-Sex Partnerships   • Gay, Lesbian, and Bisexual        – Sexual orientation        – Homosexual relationships have ma...
Singlehood   • Diverse group   • 110 million single individuals   • Average age of marriage is 27.1 years     for men and ...
Marriage   • Benefits of marriage   • Issues in marriage        –   Realistic expectations        –   Feels good about the...
Separation and Divorce   • High rates…Why?        – 50-55% chance of divorcing        – Process of divorce              • ...
Family Life     • Becoming a Parent     • Preparation for parenthood     • Women usually make greater changes in their lif...
Parenting   • Parenting styles        – Authoritarian        – Authoritative        – Permissive (or indulgent)        – U...
Parenting and the Family Life Cycle     • Provide a balance of firm limits and       clear structure     • High levels of:...
Figure 4.3 The growth of single-parentfamilies in the United State    © 2010 McGraw-Hill Companies. All Rights Reserved.  ...
Single-Parent Families    • U.S. Census Bureau         – 28% of all children under 18 live with only           one parent ...
Stepfamilies   • 3 out of 4 women and 4 out of 5 men will     remarry   • Should not be expected to duplicate the     emot...
Successful Families   •   Commitment   •   Appreciation   •   Communication   •   Time together   •   Spiritual wellness  ...
Intimate Relationships                     and Communication                                   Chapter Four© 2010 McGraw-H...
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  • Sexual attraction to individuals of the same sex, opposite sex or both Most same sexes develop these traditional roles. Societal hostility often means that gay and lesbian partners look to the homosexual community for support
  • Preparation for parenthood: Teenagers and women over 35 have special health concerns for themselves and the baby Physical conditions such as overweight and diabetes, requires extra medical attention Nutritional habits and smoking are important considerations, Women should give up cigarettes as well as alcohol and drugs prior to becoming pregnant.
  • Insert Figure 4.3 The growth of single-parent families in the United State
  • Chapter 4 - Relationships

    1. 1. Intimate Relationships and Communication Chapter Four© 2010 McGraw-Hill Companies. All Rights Reserved.
    2. 2. Developing Intimate Relationships • Be willing to give of themselves – Share their ideas, feelings, time, and needs • Self-Concept and Self-Esteem – Feel good about ourselves • Roots of our identity and self – Developed during childhood – Relationships with parents and other family members • Gender roles • Style of attachment © 2010 McGraw-Hill Companies. All Rights Reserved. 2
    3. 3. Friendship • Characteristics – Companionship – Respect – Acceptance – Help – Trust – Loyalty – Mutuality – Reciprocity © 2010 McGraw-Hill Companies. All Rights Reserved. 3
    4. 4. Love, Sex, and Intimacy • Love is one of the most basic and profound human emotions • Love does not give us perfect happiness, but it does give our lives meaning • Men and women tend to have different views of the relationship between love (or intimacy) and sex (or passion) © 2010 McGraw-Hill Companies. All Rights Reserved. 4
    5. 5. Relationships • Strong relationships comprise of: – Trust – Caring – Respect – Loyalty – Interest in the other – Concern of other’s wellbeing © 2010 McGraw-Hill Companies. All Rights Reserved. 5
    6. 6. The Pleasure and Pain of Love • Intense love has confused and tormented lovers throughout history • Passionate love – Recognize that human emotions have two components: 1. Physiological arousal 2. Emotional explanation for the arousal © 2010 McGraw-Hill Companies. All Rights Reserved. 6
    7. 7. The Transformation of Love • All relationships change over time • At first, there are high levels of passion and increased intimacy • Reduction of romance and/or passion leads to the transformation of deep love © 2010 McGraw-Hill Companies. All Rights Reserved. 7
    8. 8. Challenges in Relationships • Honesty and Openness • Unequal or Premature Commitment • Unrealistic Expectations – Expecting your partner to change – Making assumptions – Unsupported beliefs • Competitiveness – Focus on fun • Balance of Time Together and Apart • Jealousy – Is not an element of love • Supportiveness © 2010 McGraw-Hill Companies. All Rights Reserved. 8
    9. 9. Unhealthy Relationships • Reasons why? • Ending a Relationship – Guidelines of a breakup • Give the relationship a fair chance • Be fair and honest • Be tactful and compassionate • If you are the rejected person, make time for resolving your anger and pain • Recognize the value of the experience © 2010 McGraw-Hill Companies. All Rights Reserved. 9
    10. 10. Communication • Nonverbal – Ability to interpret nonverbal messages • Communication skills – Self-disclosure – Listening – Feedback • Gender and communication – Men • Establishing dominance/competitive • Men talk more/listen less – Women • Affiliative way • Seeking advice • Obtaining cues from listening and eye contact © 2010 McGraw-Hill Companies. All Rights Reserved. 10
    11. 11. Conflict and Conflict Resolution • Conflict resolution skills are vital for maintaining intimate relationships 1. Clarify the issue 2. Find out what each person wants 3. Determine how both can get what they want 4. Decide how to negotiate 5. Solidify the agreements 6. Review and renegotiate © 2010 McGraw-Hill Companies. All Rights Reserved. 11
    12. 12. Pairing and Singlehood • Choosing a Partner – Similarities (to your own) • Ethnic and socioeconomic background, educational level, lifestyle, physical attractiveness, and other traits – First attraction – observable characteristics – Most important question – How much do we have in common? – Communication – Acceptance © 2010 McGraw-Hill Companies. All Rights Reserved. 12
    13. 13. Dating • Different cultures have different rituals for finding a mate • American culture – Focuses on getting to know each other – Traditional male-female dating pattern – Dating of young people “today” © 2010 McGraw-Hill Companies. All Rights Reserved. 13
    14. 14. Living Together • Cohabitation • By the age of 30, half of all men and women will have cohabited • Rarely continues indefinitely • Advantages • Liabilities © 2010 McGraw-Hill Companies. All Rights Reserved. 14
    15. 15. Same-Sex Partnerships • Gay, Lesbian, and Bisexual – Sexual orientation – Homosexual relationships have many similarities to heterosexual relationships – More egalitarian relationships – Societal issues • Same-sex marriage • Civil rights • “Homophobia” © 2010 McGraw-Hill Companies. All Rights Reserved. 15
    16. 16. Singlehood • Diverse group • 110 million single individuals • Average age of marriage is 27.1 years for men and 25.3 for women • Many factors contribute to growing number of singles • Advantages and disadvantages • Enjoyment depends upon many issues © 2010 McGraw-Hill Companies. All Rights Reserved. 16
    17. 17. Marriage • Benefits of marriage • Issues in marriage – Realistic expectations – Feels good about the personality of their mate – Communication – Conflict resolution – Religious and ethical values – Egalitarian role – Good balance of individual and joint interests • Role of commitment © 2010 McGraw-Hill Companies. All Rights Reserved. 17
    18. 18. Separation and Divorce • High rates…Why? – 50-55% chance of divorcing – Process of divorce • Emotional separation • Physical separation – Greatest stress producing event next to the death of a spouse or family member – Recovery from divorce takes 1-3 years – Remarriage © 2010 McGraw-Hill Companies. All Rights Reserved. 18
    19. 19. Family Life • Becoming a Parent • Preparation for parenthood • Women usually make greater changes in their life after the birth of a baby – Marital satisfaction often declines occurs after first child – Not inevitable if… • Couple had strong relationship before baby was born • Baby was planned and wanted • Couple communicates feelings and expectations © 2010 McGraw-Hill Companies. All Rights Reserved. 19
    20. 20. Parenting • Parenting styles – Authoritarian – Authoritative – Permissive (or indulgent) – Uninvolved • Children’s temperaments – Easy children – Difficult children – Slow-to-warm-up children © 2010 McGraw-Hill Companies. All Rights Reserved. 20
    21. 21. Parenting and the Family Life Cycle • Provide a balance of firm limits and clear structure • High levels of: – Warmth – Nurturance – Respect – Growth of independence © 2010 McGraw-Hill Companies. All Rights Reserved. 21
    22. 22. Figure 4.3 The growth of single-parentfamilies in the United State © 2010 McGraw-Hill Companies. All Rights Reserved. 22
    23. 23. Single-Parent Families • U.S. Census Bureau – 28% of all children under 18 live with only one parent • Differences to a traditional family life cycle • Difficulties experienced as a single parent • Single fatherhood • Children from single-parent families © 2010 McGraw-Hill Companies. All Rights Reserved. 23
    24. 24. Stepfamilies • 3 out of 4 women and 4 out of 5 men will remarry • Should not be expected to duplicate the emotions and relationships of an intact family • Healthy stepfamilies are less cohesive and more adaptable than healthy intact families, and they allow for more individual differences • Gain more of a sense of family with shared history © 2010 McGraw-Hill Companies. All Rights Reserved. 24
    25. 25. Successful Families • Commitment • Appreciation • Communication • Time together • Spiritual wellness • Coping with stress and crisis © 2010 McGraw-Hill Companies. All Rights Reserved. 25
    26. 26. Intimate Relationships and Communication Chapter Four© 2010 McGraw-Hill Companies. All Rights Reserved.

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