Photo by: Jim Bumgardner (flickr)In the silence of connection,people are comforted bybeing in touch with a lot ofpeople — carefully kept atbay.
We are tempted to think that our little “sips” ofonline connection add up to a big gulp of realconversation. But they don’t.
Photo by: Victor De la Rocha (flickr)Connecting in sipsmay work forgathering discretebits of information...
But connecting in sips doesn’t work as wellwhen it comes to understanding and knowingone another.Photo by: Raissa Ruschel (flickr)
We think constant connection will make us feelless lonely. The opposite is true.
If we are unable to be alone, we are far morelikely to be lonely.
Photo by: ores2k (flickr)People can’t properlyexpress emotion orcomplete thoughts in ashort text message
As we get used to being shortchanged onconversation and to getting by with less, weseem almost willing to dispense with peoplealtogether.Photo by: Lance Robotson (flickr)
“Someday,someday, butcertainly not now,I’d like to learnhow to have aconversation.”–Sixteen Year OldPhoto by: Nomadic Lass (flickr)
Human relationships are rich; they’re messyand demanding.Photo by: Gail (flickr)
Often, I will be somewhere, and see people my age whoare supposed to be a “couple” who are barely able tosay hi to each other.Photo Brandon Warren (flickr)
Photo by: Mauricio Balvanera (flickr)I’m sure as soon as they go home, their iPhones willlight up with little hearts and endearing expressionsof their undying love.
We don’t know how to actually deal with oneanother anymore, because real life doesn’tcome with a delete button and little smileyfaces.Photo by: Mixy Lorenzo (flickr)
Photo by: Collin Key (flickr)We need to remember — in between texts and e-mailsand Facebook posts — to listen to one another
Photo by: Jakub HlavatyPeople want most of all to beheard; to have others listen tothem — really listen — andunderstand their needs andconcerns.
Photo by: _nickd (flickr)So I say, look up, look at one another, and let’sstart the conversation.
References• The Flight From Conversation. Sherry Turkle.The New York Times. April 2012.(Slides: 2-10, 12, 14, 18-20)• Texting teens don’t know how to have realconversations, http://www.voxxi.com/texting-teens-conversations/#ixzz2TcBxe5Je(Slides: 11, 15, 16, 17)