What dad really means, "No gifts for Father's Day."
by Marina Klima Goldberg
When I asked my men friends what they wanted For Father’s Day, most
of them said that they wanted NOTHING. Umm, this is hard. I sense that
this answer is tied to a much deeper need for genuine love and
appreciation beyond material things.
But it is still a cultural stereotype that Father’s Day goes after Mother’s
Day and not just chronologically. So he does not want to unwrap
whatever it is just because his kids “have to give daddy a gift”. They’d
rather spend some fun time together or be left alone after a good home-
made meal with the family.
What is odd to me is that after all these years of pushing for the equal
parenting, Father’s Day is still way quieter than Mother’s Day.
Not only that.
Guys’ reluctance to receive special attention from the kids (and moms)
in a form of a gift is something that smart marketers picked up right
away. Now they lumped up “Dads and Grads” pitching One Gift Fits All.
Clearly, a Grad cannot afford the tickets for this event. I can
picture a dad who is put on the spot and is expected to swipe
his card for the tickets. Well, it’s a graduation gift. Or not? He
said that he did not want anything for Father's Day, right?
Maybe he really doesn't. Or maybe he is just a giver and
providing for the family is in his DNA.
This definitely fits all. I can imagine father and son at the
restaurant. The only thing I can't imagine is the source of
income for a young grad to pick up the check.
Or this one, ”This handy list of gifts will beautifully work
interchangeably for any dad or grad.”
Then the article promotes mostly Grads' gifts.
So, before overly perky media starts promoting an
interchangeable pair of Nikis for dads and grads, let’s show
our wonderful men that it is perfectly fine to accept all the
gift giving with joy (or at least a sense of humor).
It’s about time to recognize fathers’ role as equally important.
Perhaps, when we have more television shows about
fatherhood, more stories about it, more discussions on the
subject- then dads will be more inspired to be equally
involved with kids.
It is a proven scientific fact
that from birth, children
who have an involved
father are happier, smarter,
more confident and make
connections as they grow
Boys whose fathers are confident and involved with them
become outgoing teenagers, do better in school and make
more connections as they grow up.
Girls develop a positive image of men and more trusting
relationships with male friends.
But for now give your dad what he wants the most-
Or, if you are a mom and kids are too little, just get him
something that both of you will smile about. Young dads
often think that gift-giving is comical because it comes from
their wives. So go with the flow. It will warm his heart as you
But for now praise, love and worship your fathers (I wish I
Did I say that some dads still love things and gadgets?
Hop to SHOP to browse for some.
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