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The Gift of Self

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Want to know how to help children develop authentic self-concept? This slideshow shares some simple, yet incredibly effective, techniques that can be used by parents, teachers, or friends.

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The Gift of Self

  1. 1. The Gift of Self
  2. 2. Developing self-concept in kids.
  3. 3. Chip er y k gPo lo A na the you’ll you more risk. The have, more
  4. 4. Chip er y k gPo lo A na to need RISKS And grow. to kids take
  5. 5. Don’t worryabout creating a self-absorbed narcissist.
  6. 6. That’s not going to be a problem.
  7. 7. %67 of elementaryschool boysagree with thisstatement:I’m happy theway I am.
  8. 8. %60 ofelementaryschool girlsdo.
  9. 9. By high school, the numbers change.
  10. 10. BOYS %46
  11. 11. GIRLS %29
  12. 12. Self love, my liege,is not so vile a sinas self neglecting.Shakespeare. Henry V.
  13. 13. 9 in 10 girls saythat media andthe fashionindustry wantthem to looklike her.
  14. 14. We canbuildself-conceptin kids.
  15. 15. And it’sactuallynot thattricky.
  16. 16. Here are the keys.
  17. 17. Key No. 1: They must havean unshakeablebelief in theirinherent worth.
  18. 18. Ha“One needssomething tobelieve in, nn Sen ah e shsomething forwhich onecan havewholeheartedenthusiasm.“
  19. 19. Ha“ One needs to feel that one’s life has Se nn ne ah sh meaning, that one is needed in “ this world.
  20. 20. Here are some ways to help with that.
  21. 21. r vese rs th e o
  22. 22. “ I dont know what your destiny will be, but one thing I know:
  23. 23. The only onesamong you whowill be truly happy
  24. 24. are those who willhave sought and “found how to serveothers.albert schweitzer
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  27. 27. HE LP TH EM FI ND TH IS
  28. 28. HB OX LU NC ITEWR S AND ES TE AG ESS L).NO ELLM NA GE T-W OPTIO OT TLE (B
  29. 29. Key No. 2: Help themrecognize thatthey accomplishthings of value.
  30. 30. CREATE TIMELINES OF SKILL DEVELOPMENT LIKED TO LEARNED MULTIPLY BEGIN TO WILL TAKE MASTEREDSORT TOYS AND TO DO & LOVE AP ALGEBRA PLAY GAMES BASIC MATH DIVIDE FRACTIONS CALCULUSLIKED TO GOT A GOT BETTER WILL PLAY GOT STARTED SING KEYBOARD AT “TRAUMEREI” & MY OWN PIANO SILLY & SIGHT- LEARN LEFT HAND IPOD LESSONS SONGS PLAYED READING BETTER READ READ WILL READ PARENTS READ LEARNED BOOKS READ CHAPTER “WAR & TO ME TO READ WITH NO “THE HOBBIT” BOOKS PEACE” PICTURES
  31. 31. CREATE APRIDE LINE
  32. 32. “I WAS PROUDOF MYSELFWHEN I…”
  33. 33. DEVELOPPRIDEIN THINGSTHAT ARESPECIFIC
  34. 34. DEVELOPPRIDEIN ACTIONSNOTQUALITIES
  35. 35. DISPLAYSUCCESSSYMOLS
  36. 36. KEEP IN MIND: ANOTHER ONE = MAN’S MAN’S
  37. 37. Key No. 3: Help themconnect withothers.
  38. 38. PEN PALS*TRY POSTCROSSING.COM
  39. 39. ET S P P E) E V E IK L (A
  40. 40. HELP THEMFIND FRIENDS.
  41. 41. EVEN JUSTONE.
  42. 42. Key No. 4: Help themunderstand therole of practiceand effort.
  43. 43. IT AIN’T EASY,AND DON’T LET ‘EM THINK IT IS.
  44. 44. If they think itshould come easily because they are smart,
  45. 45. they will become discouraged and begin to doubt themselves.
  46. 46. Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win byfearing to attempt. William Shakespeare Measure for Measure
  47. 47. Teach themthe role ofdeliberatepractice.*see work of Anders Ericcson
  48. 48. I can golf every weekendand not get better.
  49. 49. To get better,I have to
  50. 50. be motivatedto improve
  51. 51. getimmediate feedback
  52. 52. perform the sameor similar tasks .
  53. 53. again and again
  54. 54. try the samething different ways
  55. 55. not expect toenjoy thepracticeitself all ofthe time
  56. 56. “That which we persist indoing becomes easier, notthat the task itself hasbecome easier, but that ourability to perform it has “improved. Emerson
  57. 57. Key No. 5: Teach themto trust theirintuition.
  58. 58. Blink…
  59. 59. and youdon’tmiss it.
  60. 60. this
  61. 61. paid$10,000,000
  62. 62. forthis.
  63. 63. now they
  64. 64. thinkitmightbe
  65. 65. fake.
  66. 66. Oops.
  67. 67. Trustyourgut.
  68. 68. Key No. 6: Know the perilsof praise.
  69. 69. DANGER! PRAISE FOR BEING NOTDOING AHEAD!
  70. 70. When you praiseeverything,you’re reallypraising nothing.
  71. 71. If you praise, doit for things theydo, not who theyare.
  72. 72. Praise effort,not perceivedability.
  73. 73. Say, “I’m noticinghow hard you’reworking on that.”
  74. 74. Not, “You’re sosmart.”
  75. 75. Now you have these.
  76. 76. Please feel free to usethem on any kid you meet.
  77. 77. Click hereIf you want to know more.
  78. 78. Credit LoveThis presentation was inspired by 100 Ways to Enhance Self-Concept byJack Canfield. Although I read the very old edition, a newer one isavailable. Several of the ideas contained here are tweaks of ideas in thisbook.The ideas regarding Ericsson’s work and the importance of intuition wereinspired by Malcolm Gladwell’s books Outliers and Blink, respectively.Photo credits:All photos except those noted below are from iStockPhoto & sxc.hu.Slide 15 – TotallyFred (Flickr)Slide 38 – Erik Plomp: www.ervaarmarketing.nlGetty – Jelson25 (Wikipedia user)Kouros – Dorli Burge

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