How to Save Your Marriage ALONE He doesn’t seem to care about salvaging your marriage. Can you save your marriage alone? By Lisa Penn Http://How-to-Save-Marriage.org
Marriage is a 2-way street and when a relationship is in crisis, both sides are supposed to do their best to it from slipping away for good.
Sadly, many spouses get their heart broken when they find out that their partner is not doing the same effort or even not trying at all to save the marriage.
Sometimes the spouse is just looking for a way out and doesn’t want to salvage the relationship. But many times, he or she is too depressed, confused or wants to avoid more conflicts.
• A spouse who is reluctant to work on the marriage may be in a place where he or she has lost hope that the relationship can be salvaged. Your spouse may feel the marriage is too far gone for any efforts to actually result in a positive outcome.• The only thing that is within your power is your commitment to the relationship, and the actions you take.
Step #1: Deepen Your Own Commitment • Regardless of the effort your husband or wife is or is not making in working to save your marriage, you can strengthen your own efforts in committing to salvaging the relationship. • You may have already been pulling double-duty in terms of giving your marriage everything you’ve got. Now, if you want to save your marriage, you may need to draw on your inner reserves of strength and give a little bit more.
No one can decide for you what your relationship is worth, and what measures you’ll go to in order to save it. But if you feel strongly about saving your relationship, deciding that you’re committed to do so will help you feel empowered.
Step #2 - Be A Best Friend A lot of couples find that as their relationship has gone on in time, their roles have become more adversarial than supportive. If you have a best friend outside of the marriage, think of times when that friend has been down. What type of support have you offered them?
• It can be easy to forget that your husband or wife may need a friend—in you. Examine your relationship and see if both of you have forgotten how to be a friend to one another.• Again, you can only control your actions, but this is a way to lead by example. Your actions, such as making positive changes in how you talk to and behave with your spouse, may be the catalyst needed to get your husband or wife to want to make changes, as well. Taking a more friendly approach can create a “safe” environment, one where your husband or wife may begin to trust that things really can improve.
Step #3 - Work on Yourself You may wonder how you can give your “all” to the relationship and still have time for you. Part of giving in a relationship is being strong within yourself. You need to nurture yourself as much as your relationship, because a healthy relationship requires healthy partners.
Many couples become adversarial because one or both spouses can become resentful, feeling they’ve given up everything for the relationship and there has been nothing left to give to their self. It’s critical to carve time for yourself, examining your thoughts and emotions and working through your own internal struggles, as well as nurturing your own hopes and dreams.
How to Save Your Marriage When You’re the Only One Trying Your husband has chosen the immature cop out and no longer wants to fight for your marriage. But you haven’t. You want to save your marriage, but how can you do it without him on board?
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