St. George Parish School Bullying Workshop for Parents


Published on

2 Hour Session delivered to the parent community at St George Parish School in Seattle. The bullying conversation is everywhere in the national media - what's happened since we were school children? Do you and your children know the difference between conflict and bullying? How is bullying different for boys and girls? Come to an interactive presentation to discover bullying's root causes, how it manifests, and how we can support our youth.

Published in: Education, Career, Technology
  • The problem of children bullying each other is not new. Most of us have encountered a bully at some point in our lives. Usually parents worry about their child becoming the victim to a bully in school. It is often quite a surprise for parents to find out that their child is the one doing the bullying. As upsetting as it is to discover this behavior, you must stay calm. To successfully help your child, you must go about resolving the problem the appropriate way.Luckily, after reading articles online, I found a perfect solution that has been working perfectly for your son and the rest of the family.#SafekidZone, Check out here:
    Are you sure you want to  Yes  No
    Your message goes here

St. George Parish School Bullying Workshop for Parents

  1. 1. St. George Parish School Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee Seattle Girls ’ School Beyond Sticks and Stones: Understanding, Preventing, and Addressing Bullying Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (
  2. 2. About Seattle Girls ’ School Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (
  3. 3. Agenda <ul><li>Cycles of Bullying and Bias </li></ul><ul><li>Gender, Bias, and Bullying </li></ul><ul><li>Conflict versus Bullying </li></ul><ul><li>Shared Language, Shared Goals </li></ul><ul><li>Empowering the Bystander </li></ul><ul><li>Advice for Schools </li></ul><ul><li>Questions </li></ul><ul><li>Resources </li></ul>Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (
  4. 4. Bullying and Bias Repeating Cycles Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (
  5. 5. Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (
  6. 6. Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (
  7. 7. Gender and Gender Bias Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (
  8. 8. Gender Differences Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (
  9. 9. <ul><li>Brash </li></ul><ul><li>Troublemaker </li></ul><ul><li>Strong </li></ul><ul><li>Competitive </li></ul><ul><li>Physical </li></ul><ul><li>Silent </li></ul><ul><li>Clever </li></ul><ul><li>Mistake-Prone </li></ul><ul><li>Belligerent </li></ul><ul><li>Intuitive </li></ul><ul><li>Well-Behaved </li></ul><ul><li>Delicate </li></ul><ul><li>Cooperative </li></ul><ul><li>Emotional </li></ul><ul><li>Verbal </li></ul><ul><li>Pretty </li></ul><ul><li>Perfect </li></ul><ul><li>Nice </li></ul>Gender Bias Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (
  10. 10. Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (
  11. 11. Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (
  12. 12. Gender, Bias, and Bullying <ul><li>• Source of Power </li></ul><ul><li>• Worst Labels </li></ul><ul><li>• Who Bullies? </li></ul><ul><li>• Who is Bullied? </li></ul><ul><li>• Social Collective </li></ul><ul><li>• Abuse and Aggression </li></ul><ul><li>• Outliers of Victims </li></ul><ul><li>• Signs of Cry </li></ul>Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (
  13. 13. Definition of Conflict <ul><li>A clash between two individuals or groups </li></ul><ul><li>A disagreement or argument about something important </li></ul><ul><li>Etc. </li></ul>Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (
  14. 14. When It ’s Bullying <ul><li>Power is uneven </li></ul><ul><li>Intent to harm </li></ul><ul><li>Repeated and sustained </li></ul><ul><li>Efforts to hide from adults </li></ul><ul><li>Advocacy not changing behaviors </li></ul>Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (
  15. 15. <ul><li>Health and Safety </li></ul><ul><li>Psychological Pain </li></ul><ul><li>Academic Risk </li></ul><ul><li>Explosive Release </li></ul><ul><li>Long-Term Scars </li></ul>It ’s Too Big… Why Even Try? Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (
  16. 16. So What? Now What? Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (
  17. 17. Shared Language, Shared Goals <ul><li>Target of Bullying </li></ul><ul><li>Agent of Bullying </li></ul><ul><li>Bystander </li></ul><ul><li>Ally </li></ul><ul><li>Path of Least Resistance </li></ul>Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (
  18. 18. Bullying Intervention <ul><li>Know when it is bullying </li></ul><ul><li>Stand up for yourself </li></ul><ul><li>Ask them to stop the behavior </li></ul><ul><li>Seek healthy support </li></ul><ul><li>Tell an adult </li></ul>Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (
  19. 19. Empowering the Bystander <ul><li>Many bullying and anti-bias curriculum centers around agents and targets. Why not address the 60-70% who are bystanders? </li></ul><ul><li>Empowering bystanders keeps the focus away from blaming the targets or agents. </li></ul><ul><li>Empowering bystanders gives you a chance at creating a new path of least resistance. </li></ul><ul><li>Create a mass of empowered allies and shift the balance of power </li></ul>Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (
  20. 20. Ally Skills <ul><li>Don ’t bully </li></ul><ul><li>Speak up when someone else is being bullied </li></ul><ul><li>Assume positive intentions, but don ’t let that assumption make you silent </li></ul><ul><li>Ask questions to clarify and to educate </li></ul><ul><li>Don ’t make the person who is bullying into someone who is getting targeted </li></ul><ul><li>Actively include those who are easily left out </li></ul><ul><li>If you know someone is getting bullied, tell an adult at school or at home </li></ul><ul><li>Keep the climate healthy </li></ul>Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (
  21. 21. Undoing Gender Bias <ul><li>Gender specific programs and activities to dismantle gender stereotypes </li></ul><ul><li>Co-ed programs to understand how gender bias affects us all </li></ul><ul><li>Educator training to offset gender bias in the classroom, halls, and disciplinary systems </li></ul>Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (
  22. 22. Advice for Schools <ul><li>The Four Ps </li></ul><ul><li>• Policy - A comprehensive anti-bullying policy that enumerates sources of bias and that includes alternative aggression. </li></ul><ul><li>• Programming - Training for teachers and staff on bullying and bias. Support for teachers and staff in acting to combat bullying and bias. Self-esteem and conflict management programs for students. </li></ul><ul><li>• Practice - Consistent and meaningful follow-through in dealing with acts of bullying and bias. Coverage of unsupervised spaces where bullying occurs most. </li></ul><ul><li>• PEOPLE - Critical mass of people who are supportive AND active on all levels. </li></ul><ul><li>EMPOWER THE BYSTANDERS! </li></ul>Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (
  23. 23. Questions and Answers Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (
  24. 24. Resources <ul><li>Joshua M. Aronson, Ph.D., “Improving Achievement & Narrowing the Gap,” Learning and the Brain Conference, Cambridge, MA, November 2003 </li></ul><ul><li>Roy Baumeister, Case Western Reserve University, Various Social Psychology Experiments on the Effects of Social Exclusion </li></ul><ul><li>“ Cycle of Bullying,” North Central Educational Service District, </li></ul><ul><li>Joe Feagin, “The Two Faced Racism.” White Privilege Conference . Springfield, MA. April 2008. </li></ul><ul><li>Kevin Jennings, GLSEN (Gay Lesbian and Straight Education Network) </li></ul><ul><li>Allan G. Johnson, Privilege, Power, and Difference . </li></ul><ul><li>Tara Kuther, “Understanding Bullying,”, </li></ul><ul><li>Michael Thompson & Kathy Schultz, “The Psychological Experiences of Students of Color,” Independent School Magazine, </li></ul>Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (
  25. 25. More Resources <ul><li>“ 101 Ways to Combat Prejudice.” Anti-Defamation League </li></ul><ul><li>Beatbullying Toolkit for Teachers, </li></ul><ul><li>Hafner, Lauren. “Bullying Report: How are Washington State Schools Doing?” Safe Schools Coalition . December 2003 </li></ul><ul><li>“ House Bill Report - SHB 1444, Washington State” Bully Police USA </li></ul><ul><li>“ Ten Ways to Fight Hate.” Teaching Tolerance </li></ul><ul><li>“ Washington State School Safety Center.” Office of Superintendant of Public Education </li></ul>Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (
  26. 26. Gender Specific Resources <ul><li>JoAnn Deak, Ph.D., Girls Will Be Girls: Raising Confident and Courageous Daughters </li></ul><ul><li>Pooja Makhijani, Under Her Skin: How Girls Experience Race in America . </li></ul><ul><li>John Medina, Talaris Research Institute, various studies on early gender differences in competition and play and “Love Lab.” </li></ul><ul><li>Mary Pipher, Ph.D., Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls </li></ul><ul><li>Rachel Simmons, Odd Girl Out . </li></ul><ul><li>Rachel Simmons, Odd Girl Speaks Out . </li></ul><ul><li>Harriet R. Tenenbaum, “Gender Achievement Motivation,” Learning and the Brain Conference, Cambridge, MA, November 2003. </li></ul><ul><li>Rosalind Wiseman, Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends & Other Realities of Adolescence </li></ul><ul><li>Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth. </li></ul><ul><li>Naomi Wolf, Promiscuities . </li></ul>Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (
  27. 27. Presenter Information <ul><li>Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee </li></ul><ul><li>6th Faculty and </li></ul><ul><li>Professional Outreach </li></ul><ul><li>Seattle Girls ’ School </li></ul><ul><li>2706 S Jackson Street </li></ul><ul><li>Seattle WA 98144 </li></ul><ul><li>(206) 805-6562 </li></ul><ul><li>[email_address] </li></ul><ul><li> </li></ul>Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (