Think Pair Share activityFind a partner What does introverted mean to you? Share with a partner and be prepared to add to the large group discussion. Think about both the positive and the negative connotations of the word. Think about it in the context of your personal and your professional life.
As we get started today, let’s hear from author, Susan Cain who wrote Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Cannot Stop Talking. She frames the conversation well. DebProcessing the soft spots and strengths –We might want to think about a few specific points to make? Or, ones that rang true most for us?
Insert the Cain link before this slideOur introduction… here….These are the questions we will use to process the think, pair, share activity. Based on the responses of the pairs we can discuss these questions in the context of the presentation.Debrief is important here… Some important themes that resonate for us as leaders… they are both personal & public constructions Discuss the cultural context of introversion – societal perspectives. Cain’s book
Deb - review the objectives, find out from the group if anyone else has anything they hoped to gain from this sessionRAs – objectives as isStudent Leader – Participants will discuss how they might cultivate the leadership talents of introverted students and other non-traditional leadership styles. (Inclusivity- stereotypes)Administrators – Add the one for student leaders plus the three we had already. 4 objectives
MJGThe focus is on US and empowerment of who we are and how we impact others. Not how others impact us. Must not blame others but see ourselves in the context of others in relationship to one another.Remind that we cannot use introversion as an excuse not to engage….Our growth, development, and FUTURE opportunities depends on knowing and understanding who we are as introverts, what we contribute to the team and how we make an impact in the organizationAnecdotes about Mary Jo’s recent job search as an introvert
We MUST positively re-frame the characteristics of introvertsLaurieNO to introvert being quiet and shy… model being an introverted presentersWe want to share with you how to do this the “right way”, honoring how you are and not creating clones of ourselvesIt is a strength… being comfortable in our skin and honoring the strengths that come with being contemplative, thoughtful, introspective, and a listenerLeveraging our introversion as women, leaders, friends, and colleagues… as introverts we tend to minimize our contributions because the external world validates others perspectives moreFor DSR being an introvert is about how I process information and how I spend time reflecting on issues and decisionsFor MJG being an introvert is about how I can sit back, hear what people are saying, and synthesizing a conversation in moments
DebProcessing the soft spots and strengths –We might want to think about a few specific points to make? Or, ones that rang true most for us?
All of us as a debrief!!We are not the same type of introvertsThere are introverts with more shy tendencies - those who have a fear of engagement and prefer to observe, others who can engage (Performance E) but need significant time after being in performance space.Group settings – those who are most comfortable in small groups and in a large group setting will only talk to small groups, yet still others for whom small groups are uncomfortable and prefer to develop specific 1:1 relationships as sustaining. Recharge the I – most I’s need recharge time. Those who need A LOT of alone time to recharge their batteries and process the activities of the day others who can go for long hauls but will need significant breaks. THIS CAN AND WILL CHANGE OVER THE COURSE OF YOUR CAREER! And will depend a lot on what type of job you select
Laurie coversImages are powerful things. They help us understand complex subjects. When you think of introverts and extroverts, we know there are stark differences. One of the images used in the introvert advantage…. One of the three books we used as underpinnings for this presentation… Dr. Laney talked about the lantern and the lighthouse. Extroverts – are like a lighthouse. They send there light out for all to see. It is bright and can be seen for miles no matter what the weather. When we see the light we are drawn to find out more about it. And it is the type of light that does not diminish over time.Introverts are more like a Lantern – They are a bit softer in approach to lighting a room. The light emanates from within can be just as bright. There is a well for the kerosene and a wick that allows us to turn up the light or keep it closer. When the well runs dry, we introverts have to recharge.Both shine light but are different. They serve a great purpose and as we will see throughout the presentation are needed. We cannot function in a world where there is only one kind of light.
Laurie covers:As an introvert I prepare and process situations such as this in a certain way. Dr. Laney shared in her book how introverts can present ourselves in public situations. I have to own that getting up in front of groups and talking is not something that I am entirely comfortable with. And I also know because of the career I picked and love there are times I need to do this and do this well. As a servant leader I understand that I need to be with the group I am in or presenting to. It is the essence of what servant leaders do.Dr. Laney captures well in her book how introverts prepare to present themselves in public speaking roles: Accept speakers anxietyAnalyze your audienceKnow your topicPractice until you feel comfortableIn the weeks before your presentation, visualize yourself feeling confident. Visualize an attentive audience.Find a few friendly faces, when presenting, look at them.Speak a little louder than normal.Use your natural humorCongratulate yourself when it is over.
MJG coversReally easy to be afraid when you are coming out of your comfort zoneAll about how we learn (and introverts are good at that!)Comfort Zone – things that come naturally, easy, no pressureAwkward Zone – place where you learn and grow, challenges some of our internal realities , and stretches us Fear Zone – paralyzed into flight or fight (Avoid this one as much as possible), you can train your brain to avoid this by taking a few stepsInternal messages – tapes in head (“I am not good at networking” “I am too shy to attend socials by myself”). Know your triggers and replace with positive messages instead MJG –will facilitate an activity 101 dialogue on what is your biggest fear related to introversion
Deb coversIn the context of the introverted leadership skill quiz, think about the categories. The “four P”s Process” is an easy to remember road map to improve your performance. You can think of this as a coaching tool. Thinking about your 1-1 conversation and the fear you articulated here are some possible steps to help you feel more comfortablePreparation – will give you the confidence to handle any spontaneous situationPresence – is how you are positioned in the present. It shows people you are engaged.Push – will remind you to push yourself out of your comfort zone, through your fear after you have prepared and learned ways of being present.Practice – is taking advantage of every new opportunity to practice new behaviors.
Deb/Mary Jo Add in from the notes on google docProcessingGood ideas can get lost because of how we processIntrospective - Internal versus external and how it impacts how others see us, particularly when it comes to sharing our ideas (and when we do it in meetings – usually after everyone else, need to do it in the beginning). Need 1:1, more in-depth relational, lunch meetingsour great ideas get lost in our thinking as introverts (verbalizing what we do … Deb’s example – reserve the right to change my mind and revisit a topic after my introverted self has processed it., transparent with that message)StrengthsRecognizing the strengths and opportunities for growth that introverts bring to leadershipHow to utilize natural introverted strengths to shape how they lead teams, share information, and maximize career choices (MJG – job search)How do we avoid others co-opting of the work we do well? (syntheziing, listening, advising, questioning)What Skills make a good leader – newsprint activity DO NOT ADVANCE SLIDE STOP do not advance until we after the list…..
All presentingAudience generates a list … what skills does a leader need ….
Views of Empowerment (in the banner) …. LeadershipPart of YouIntegrationUncompartmentalizationPointers and tips that we have used in our careers and leadership rolesLaurie … lead off We need to know how we are as a leader …. For me it is about building and using strengths in a team. I like/love working with people different than I am. Being an introvert is who I am. I know I analyze and dig deeply into subjects. I think many times before I speak. I like to know who I am working with. I study and then I leap cautiously. I trust my intuition. Deb … always reserve the right to change my mind, attune to the needs of othersMary Jo … synthesizing other people’s points … listen and reflect back,
Mary JoTake one idea …. Build an accountability partner and make a plan to move forward….
Here we share strengths commit….Laurie… I want to be sure moving forward I make a difference. I will remain connected with people in this room beyond this program. I will help others become comfortable with their introverted leadership style. I have recently come to talk more about my introversion at conferences. It is how Deb, Mary Jo and I came to develop this presentation. We noticed and connected as introverts at several conferences. We could process and recharge while sitting and talking together. I am more reserved about my introversion here on this campus. So today I am committing to own my style and wanting to connect with introverted leaders on this campus. I want to stay connected and continue the conversation on how we can whether an introvert or extrovert best serve our students. Mary Jo… Search process, did not hesitate to share her strengths and who I am, staying true to that. How can I grow with you as we share mutual strengthsDeb – I will continue to take risks and do things I did not think I could do as an introvert – speak up in meetings, NHTI faculty. How do we promote ourselves from an introverted perspective? Still waters run deep. Share our stories of hearing about extroverts talking about their successes...feeling like they are vain, feel jealous that they get opportunities I could get but you don’t know I have the same skills and don’t promote ourselves. Laurie frames that we live in an extroverted world – sometimes we need to do things that feel against type. Sometimes this can make leading a department interesting. Laurie promotes people in the department.
Give book away…. Closest birthday….
The Introverted Leader
Introvert & Extrovert: A Short Take
How do we avoid being relegated to the side? What does it mean to lead a team? How do we (introverts) complement our strengths with others similar/different than us?
Participants will be exposed to the different ways that extroverts and introverts process information and handle leadership roles. Participants will hear from 3 introverted leaders on how they use their strengths in various roles. Participants will discuss how they might cultivate the leadership talents of introverted students and those with other non-traditional leadership styles.
Using all of our strengths today…. It is all about us.
It is time to take back the meaning of the word
Introvert Leadership Skills Quiz(Public Speaking, Managing and Leading, Heading up Projects, Managing Up, The Meeting Game, Building Relationships)