I Am Responsible for My Lifehttp://www.empowernetwork.com/kevinsousa/i- am- responsible- for- my- life December 10, 2012I Am Responsible for My Life!You are above all other forms of creation. Your greatest power isyour ability to choose. In Leland Val VanDeWall‘s classic personaldevelopment program, You Were Born To Choose, he wrote, “Whena person t akes responsibilit y f or t heir lif e and t he result s t heyare obt aining, t hey will cease t o blame ot hers as t he cause oft heir result s. Since you cannot change ot her people, blame isinappropriat e.”Blaming others causes a person to remain bound in a prison of theirown making. When you take responsibility, blame is eliminated andyou are free to grow. Taking responsibility has the potential to impactyour life to an incredible degree…more friends, more money,improved health. Properly utilized, it will definitely improve your self-image and literally compound your self-respect. I Am Responsible f or My“I Am Responsible f or MY Lif e, f or MY Feelings and f or Every Lif eResult I get !”When you speak of responsibility, you’re talking about freedom. Freedom is something manypeople take for granted. Have you ever considered what it would be like to lose your freedom; tohave it taken away from you, literally?You are responsible for how you feel, the results you are getting and the direction in which you aremoving in your life. Many people are prisoners to a false belief. Theirs is a mental prison. Theirmovement, possessions and accomplishments are restricted. They are not able to go where theirheart would lead them. Their frustration is endless and the punishment, severe.Since the cause of their confinement is ignorance, they might never be free. In many ways, amental prison is a much worse place to live than a federal prison. Mental torment can destroy justabout everything that is necessary for a meaningful life. A person living in a mental prison cannotearn anyone’s respect, not even their own. They have no self-respect. It will destroy confidence,self images become shattered and relationships fall apart. It will even cause physical health todeteriorate.If you are confined in such a mental state, understand there is a way out. Escape is encouragedand possible. Freedom is calling YOU. Responsibility will open the door and permit you to walk into
a bright new way of life.You could be thinking: “This certainly does not apply to me.” Permit me to suggest that you doyourself a great favor. Invest a little time in serious introspection. Most people who are mentallyconfined are not aware of it. You might consider what the best-selling author Vernon Howardwrote: “You cannot escape f rom a prison if you do not know you are in one!”The real truth is this…Very f ew people have developed suf f icient awareness t o t akecomplet e and absolut e responsibilit y f or every aspect of t heir lif e!The men and women you probably have the greatest respect for, are the ones who HAVEaccepted responsibility for every aspect of their life. These people decide how much money theywill earn. If they require more money to provide for the things they want, to live the way theychoose, they earn it! They will not permit another person’s comments to upset them, emotionally.THEY decide how they will feel, regardless. They make certain their work has meaning; that it isstimulating.They know that how they spend THEIR days is important. They absolutely refuse to be involved,day after day, in mundane activities. They travel to all parts of the world, expanding their minds byseeing how other cultures experience life. They have exciting, stimulating social lives, byassociating with other like-minded individuals.You rarely hear or see these people attempting to duck responsibility for an unfavorable result byblaming someone else. Whenever a negative circumstance appears on THEIR horizon, they take itsquarely on the chin. They are always aware that they have attracted the negative circumstance.They also know that everything happens for a reason. They learn their lesson and keep reachingout above and beyond, to the new frontier, taking responsibility for what happens every step ofthe way.“I Am Responsible f or MY Lif e, f or MY Feelings and f or Every Result I get !”When responsibility becomes a habit, every new horizon will be bright. God’s gift to you is moretalent and ability than you will ever use in this lifetime. Your gift to God is to develop that talentand ability. That is your responsibility. Inherent within every human lies greatness.In 1903, Wallace D Wattles wrote a wonderful book called, The Science of Being Great. In it, hesaid, ‘ “You become great by doing lit t le t hings in a great way every day!” ‘ It is yourresponsibility to do a great job at whatever you are doing. Winston Churchill said, ‘ “Responsibilit yis t he price of great ness!” ‘Unfortunately, many people do not understand that every time we duck responsibility, what we arevery likely dodging is success! We might easily dodge our responsibility, but we will never dodge theconsequences of dodging our responsibility.Begin right where you are! There is absolutely no way that you can turn back the clock toyesterday or yesteryear. All we ever have is the present and a bright future awaits us. Too oftenwe get caught up in the “should’ve game.” “I should’ve done this or that.” Clearly understand, youcannot “should’ve done” anything!Whatever you did or did not do in the past, stands. It cannot be changed anymore than you areable to change the time you got out of bed yesterday morning, or what you had for breakfast thismorning. You did the only thing you could with the consciousness you had at the time.If you did not behave in the past as responsible as you now think you should have, FORGIVE
YOURSELF and get on with your life! Forgiving yourself and/or others is one of the great secretsof success. It is also an extremely effective healing concept. Do you now what the word forgivemeans? It means to LET GO OF, COMPLETELY; ABANDON.Until we learn HOW to forgive, we will not have sufficient mental competence to live in aresponsible manner.When a person has not learned how to forgive, it necessarily follows that they are harboring twoof the most destructive emotions known: Guilt and Resentment. With those two related demonswandering around our mind, there will be no room for responsibility. You cannot be blaming and beresponsible at the same time. Blame and responsibility are not good bed partners. They areincompatible.“I Am Responsible f or MY Lif e, f or MY Feelings and f or Every Result I get !”The very fact that you have the ability to choose your thoughts makes you unique; YOUR way,special. Thought is the preamble to everything. Every result in life had its origination in thought.What are the odds of two people choosing exactly the same thoughts for any given period oftime? You are unique. Your thoughts are YOUR thoughts. Your life is definitely what your thoughtsmake of it.When a person rejects responsibility, they reject their uniqueness and they turn all of their specialpowers over to other people, situations or circumstance. They are no longer in control of theirfuture. They will be forever wondering what tomorrow, next week, or next year has in store forthem. They will be hoping something good will happen, but because of past experiences, they willvery likely be expecting something they do not want to happen. Many of these misguided souls runoff to fortune tellers, psychics, etc., in an attempt to get a reading on their own future.When you accept responsibility for your life and the results you get, all of that nonsense iseliminated. You are the only person in the entire world who can predict your future with any degreeof accuracy. Responsibility brings with it, assured confidence that your dreams can be realized;your plans can be carried out. Awareness of this magnificent truth is one of the greatest thingsthat can happen in your life. It’s “Aladdin’s Lamp; a Magic Wand’ a Tooth Fairy” all wrapped up inone!Your Responsibility Affirmation:“I Am Responsible f or MY Lif e, f or MY Feelings and f or Every Result I get !”Remember, you have a choice and you want to make sure you make wise choices. Activating yourvocal chords and speaking those words will set up a vibration in your mind and body, There isREAL power in the spoken word. Say them over and over again. Speak up and put real power inyour voice. Speak slowly and deliberately, thinking about what these words MEAN. As you speakthese words, SEE yourself as a truly responsible person.By investing just one minute in this verbal exercise every day, for the next 30 days, you will improveevery aspect of your life! It sounds silly, but it WORKS! You will develop a super-sensitiveawareness. You will get to the point where the thought of blaming anyone or any circumstance forhow you feel or for a particular result, will set off an alarm in your mind. The very thought of blamewill throw a switch in your brain and a mental tape will begin to play. In your mind, you will hearyourself saying:“I Am Responsible f or MY Lif e, f or MY Feelings and f or Every Result I get !”Even though that happens, you could very easily continue feeling badly or blaming others for it.
The old conditioning which controls our behavior has a strong grip on us. It takes time. It takesenergy. If your desire for the good life is not strong enough, the old conditioning will remain incontrol. When a person permits that to happen, they are wasting their life.Take control! A little progress leads to more progress. You climb every mountain, one step at atime and with every step, the view becomes more beautiful.George Bernard Shaw said, ‘”People are always blaming t heir circumst ances f or what t heyare! I don’t believe in circumst ances. The people who get on in t his world, are t he peoplewho get up and LOOK f or t he circumst ances t hey want and if t hey can’t f ind t hem, t heyMAKE t hem!” ‘In other words: Losers blame. They do not know t hat t hey can cont rol or call t heir own shot s;writ e t heir own t icket . Winners are responsible. Blame is not a part of t heir lif e. When t hingsare not going in a manner or direct ion t hey want , t hey originat e new ideas and change t heircircumst ances t o conf orm t o t heir plans.Let’s suppose a person has been cheated our of a sum of money and they really get upset. Youmight hear the person in a rage say: “I will never trust another person as long as I live!” In anattempt to calm the person down and possibly caution them against any foolish decisions, youmight say, “Don’t let it upset you. Everything will turn out alright! Besides, losing your trust over thisone situation is not a wise thing to do!”That advice in a situation like this could trigger a response like this: “What do you mean don’t getupset? Anyone would get upset if they had this happen!” …and of course, that it not true. Thereare people who are cheated out of enormous sums of money who do not get upset. They maynot enjoy it, but they refuse to permit the situation to take control of their life! As for trust, theywould NOT quit trusting!Those who live this way are definitely in the minority. They are the winners in life. They refuse tosurrender control over how they feel, or the direction they are taking in their life. The winnerschoice is to take responsibility for everything that happens – good, bad or otherwise. Everythingthat happens is a lesson. They even see the good in every negative situation. They are thesituations in life that strengthen their mind; their character.“I Am Responsible f or MY Lif e, f or MY Feelings and f or Every Result I get !”Dr. Rollo May, a distinguished psychologist, wrote in his book, Man’s Search for Himself, ”Theopposit e of courage in our societ y is not cowardice. It is conf ormit y.” It requires greatcourage to make the winners choice! When you choose to make the winners choice, you becomepart of the minority. It is not the popular choice.When you refuse to get emotionally upset over a particular negative situation, you are taking aresponsible stance. Your head will be clear and you will be mentally capable of responding TO thesituation in an appropriate manner. However, your calm, cool behavior will confuse the majority ofpeople. They could very easily accuse you of being foolish. They will not understand why you arenot upset.There are so many people on the wrong track, blaming everyone and everything for where theyare, it is very easy for them to believe they are right. Conformity is an enormous problem in society.People acting like everyone else and they don’t know why!Read this article several times. By doing so, you will not only become more aware of the power youdevelop by becoming more responsible, you will develop greater courage. By re-reading this article
over and over again, you are not reading something you have not read before, you will seesomething in yourself that wasn’t there before! You are growing! Responsibility is beginning toplay a more important role in your life.Free Yourself From Unnecessary Responsibilit y!The difference between being ‘responsible for’ and ‘responsible to.’YOU are responsible FOR YOUR feelings; YOUR results…not another person’s. You may beresponsible TO another person, but not FOR another person. The exception of course, is whenyou choose to take on the responsibility of raising children until they reach the age of maturity.You are responsible both TO and FOR them at which time they must become responsible forthemselves if they are going to enjoy a happy, healthy, prosperous, fulfilled life.At first glance, it might be appealing to think of having another person take on our responsibilities.We could even trick ourselves into believing that we would be free to play; to have fun; to do thethings we wanted to do. Without serious thought, it would probably never enter our mind thatexactly the opposite would be happening.When we permit others to take on our responsibilities, we are becoming dependent on THEM.They become the giver and we become the receiver. Our well-being is dependent upon THEIRgenerosity. Can you see where misunderstanding or the lack of understanding of this principle ofresponsibility leads?…How it can cause lack, limitation, resentment and confusion in the life ofboth the giver and the receiver? Nothing positive will ever come from the misuse of responsibility.When you take on the responsibility for another person’s feelings; for their results; you will destroytheir self-reliance and self-respect.Since the vast majority of our population knows little of their true nature, or the laws governingtheir life, and since the majority of the population rush through life as go-getters, they willravenously accept anything and everything and then dislike the giver for all time. They willinstinctively feel that the giver was instrumental in causing them to become less able to take careof themselves. They feel under obligation to the giver, which produces a feeling of inferiority.Dislike becomes the natural effect.The giver, being ignorant of this principle, is naturally confused. You will hear them say: “Why dothey dislike me, after all I did for them?” When you take on another person’s responsibility, doingfor them what they should be doing for themselves, you are guilty of contributing to theirweakening state and because most people quickly shy AWAY from responsibility, they will expectyou to do more and more!“He who lets the goat be layed on his shoulders, is soon after forced to carry the cow!” ~ItalianProverbIt is your DUTY to help another become AWARE of their responsibility. When you permit anotherto take on YOUR responsibility, you are placing yourself in a mental prison where lack, limitation,blame and unhappiness must eventually prevail. Responsibility is something which should belearned at a very early age in life. Unfortunately, with many people, this has not happened. As aresult, they move further and further in the direction of a welfare state of mind.Give this principle of Responsibility the time and consideration it deserves. Remember, it is the KEYto freedom, power and prosperity.The winners choice is to be responsible TO others and FOR themselves! Responsibility is the onlyway to freedom and the life which is your birthright.
“I Am Responsible f or MY Lif e, f or MY Feelings and f or Every Result I get !”~Bob Proct or~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~If you liked this content, please ‘like and share.’Skype: www.kevinsousa.wsClick Here t o Work Wit h Me Personally.p.s. How t o Earn $1200 per Day, t he Easy Way!Click Here t o f ind out how!~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~About The Author: Kevin SousaFor more t han 30 years, I have list ened t o t housands of audio recordings andpersonally counseled wit h some of t he most highly successf ul people in t heworld. I’ve at t ended hundreds of seminars and read count less books onmot ivat ion, skill wit h people, at t it ude and t he psychology of success. The very specialpeople who became my ment ors and best f riends, gave me not hing but help, pat ience,underst anding and love as I mat ured in personal growt h. For t hat I am f orever grat ef ul. Now Ipay it f orward. Decide what you want . Believe you can have it . Believe you deserve it .Believe it ’s possible f or you. Then close your eyes every day f or several minut es t ovisualize already having what you want and t he f eelings of already having it . Come out oft hat and f ocus on what you’re grat ef ul f or already and really enjoy it . Then go int o t he dayand release it t o t he universe. Trust t hat t he universe will f igure out how t o manif est it .Then be aware of t he people, circumst ances and event s t hat surround you, t o help youachieve your goals and dreams. Act on f ait h, f eel t he f eelings and be grat ef ul as t hough youhave already achieved your purpose. Commit To Your Dreams! ~ Kevin Sousa