How to heal a broken heart – 5 tips for healing a broken heart


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How to heal a broken heart – 5 tips for healing a broken heart

  1. 1. How to Heal a Broken Heart in 5 Simple StepsFiguring out how to heal a broken heart is a very hard and painful process. Every person dealswith it in their own way, for better or worse. Some people resort to alcohol and drugs to numbout their feelings while others indulge in food and overeat. Some go out and hook up with otherpeople to fill the empty void after a break up while some jump into rebound relationships to getrid of that lonely feeling in the pit of their stomach.Unfortunately, all of these things are just a quick fix and aren’t truly helpful in dealing with abreak up. So in this article, I’m going to share 5 tips for healing a broken heart that will actuallyhelp you in long run instead of just giving you a temporary distraction from your misery.
  2. 2. Step 1: Accept that the Relationship is OverHealing a broken heart is a process and the first step of that process is accepting that therelationship is really over. Until you do this, you are essentially denying the reality of thesituation. And you can’t truly move on with your life if you’re living in denial.The reason it’s so tempting to live in denial is because we don’t want to admit to ourselves thatthe relationship is really over. The thought of losing the person we love and living our liveswithout them is too painful. Instead, we want to cling to the hope of being able to work thingsout and get back together. However, in most cases, this is simply not possible because you guysbroke up for a reason. And if you think those reasons are not going to be there if you guys getback together then you are only fooling yourself.Step 2: Remember Why It EndedPeople will go to any length to avoid pain and yet it’s a well-known fact that losing the personyou love is a very painful experience. So why would someone inflict this pain on bothyou and themselves if it’s human nature to avoid pain at all costs?It’s because the pain of being in the relationship to them was far greater than the pain of losingthe relationship. In other words, the relationship was no longer a source of joy and happiness forthem. It was a source of frustration and disappointment and they felt unfulfilled. They were farmore focused on the pain that being with you was causing them rather than the joy. This is whatgave them the strength and courage to overcome the pain of losing you.Well, if you want to get over your ex and move on with your life then you ought to do the samething. Focus on all the bad things about the relationship. Concentrate on the things that made youunhappy. Recall the reasons why you broke up. This will give you a much more accurate andrealistic picture of your relationship and remind you of why things ended. After a break up, it’stempting to idealize our ex and act like the relationship was much better than it really was. If thatwas truly the case, then it wouldn’t be ending. Take off the rose-colored glasses and see it forwhat it really is.Step 3: Allow Yourself to GrieveYou will certainly feel a variety of emotions after a break up, such as anger, loneliness, sadness,fear, jealousy, shame, humiliation, depression and despair. These feelings can also surfacephysically, like crying or feeling a pain in your chest as if your heart is breaking.Not only are these “negative” emotions considered healthy, but they are also very important foryou to feel in order to remain healthy. I know it may not seem like that right now because they’remaking you miserable but allowing yourself time to grieve is an important part of healing abroken heart. So give yourself the permission to feel all these emotions and work through themas they come up.
  3. 3. Repressing your emotions and burying your feelings may make it easier to cope with a break upday to day, but it will only make the feelings worse when they do eventually come back up. Nowdon’t get me wrong, you don’t have to walk around wearing your heart on your sleeve all thetime. It’s okay to sweep your feelings under the rug for a short period of time in order to getthrough the work day but be sure to revisit them frequently so that you can work through themand eventually let them go.Step 4: Reflect on The PastYou will know when you’re ready to reflect on the situation logically. In the early weeks, eventhe thought of your ex may send you into fits of sobs. But as time moves along, you will findyourself naturally contemplating the entire situation with logic rather than emotion. At this point,you are ready to see things a lot more clearly, especially with the help of hindsight.Now is the time to determine what you learned from the relationship. No matter how good or badthe relationship was, and no matter how it ended, you have surely learned some valuable lifelessons. There are always gifts that come with any relationship. It might be some realization thatyou had about yourself, what you want or what you don’t want in your life. Think about how thisrelationship made you a stronger and better person. Assessing the good and bad and determiningwhat you learned is absolutely essential in order to grow as a person and move on with your life.The goal here is to turn your wounds into wisdom.Remember, your wounds can make you bitter or your wounds can make you better.The choice is yours.Step 5: Learn to Love Yourself FullyAfter a breakup, we often start scrutinizing every aspect of ourselves. Were you not prettyenough? Not funny enough? Not exciting enough? The truth is that you were “enough” in everyaspect, but getting this through your head after a breakup is like fighting an uphill battle. That’sbecause we usually feel like we were somehow responsible for the break up. We like to thinkthat if we had only been more ____, then they wouldn’t have left us.All I can say to that is that nothing your ex ever said or did is entirely about you. It’s simply areflection of who they are, where they’re at in their life and what they value. Even if your exblames you for everything that happened in the relationship, remember that it’s only one side ofthe story. It takes two to tango and your ex is just another human being with their ownimperfections and shortcomings. They have their own set of issues to deal with, as do you. Sokeep that in mind before putting all the blame on yourself.
  4. 4. Let go of your feelings of lack and realize that you are not any less worthy, whole and completeas a person just because things didn’t work out with this particular partner. Remember that theyare just one person. I know they were probably the most important person but they are, after all,just one person. The fact is two may have simply not been a good match for one another. I knowit may have felt like they were “the one” when you guys first met but your true compatibility canonly reveal itself over time. Unfortunately, the beginning of a relationship is often not the bestindicator of what being in a relationship with that person is really like.Remember this the next time you blame yourself for what happened. Realize that there’s no wayyou could have foreseen any of these things in advance because a person’s true character is onlyrevealed over time. Yes, I know it hurts to face the fact that what you had is not what youthought it was but what can you do now? Dust it off and move on. Don’t let one incompatiblepartner get you all down about yourself. There’s plenty of people out there that will love you andappreciate you for who you are. Acknowledge all your positive qualities and go out there andgive people the gift of you! Can’t Stop Thinking about Your Ex? Click Below to Learn a Proven “Step-by-Step” Formula on How to Get Over a Break Up