Youth Icebreakers - Living
Have you ever tried to change someone? To
shape someone into your idea of a perfect
husband, a perfect child, a perfect parent?
Do our expectations of others in the group
help them or hinder them?
Divide the group into pairs. One
person is the “Sculptor” and one
is the “Statue”
What to Do
1. If participants already know
each other, then without
talking, the “Sculptor” must
position the “statue” into a
pose that best illustrates how
he or she sees the other
person or to illustrate that
person’s place or contribution
to the group. If participants
don’t know each other well,
have them pose the “statue”
into a role or characteristic
that is important to the growth
and well being of the group.
2. Have each pair work in front of
the entire group. Take photos of
each “Statue” when the sculptor
3. After the statue has been
positioned and a photo has been
taken, the “statue” must try to
explain to the group, what
quality he or she thinks the
sculptor is trying to illustrate and
explain what they think it means
to the rest of the group. Verify
with the sculptor what was
4. If you have time, ask the pair to
switch roles and do it again.
Taking it to the Next Level
We usually have specific
expectations of other people. We
have an image in our mind of how
they should act, the things they
should do, and the characteristics
they possess. We may even try to
shape them according to our
expectations of what they should
be. But most of the time it simply
doesn’t work. Very soon they go
back to their old self, leaving both
• How did you feel when your
partner was trying to change
• When you were a sculptor,
how did you feel when your
statue changed position from
what you intended?
• Did you understand what the
person was trying to change in
you? Why or why not?
• What were some of your
frustrations – from both sides
of the situation?
• How could you have been
• What are some of the
positions or roles that we
have in our group? Make a list.
• What should a person in each
role or position do? What
characteristics should they
• Do you ever feel like others
are trying to change you?
What are some of the things
you think other people are
trying to change about you?
How does this make you feel?
• Have you ever tried to change
another person? What were the
• Would the results be different if
you modeled for them what you
would like them to become?
What if you tried to inspire them
rather than force them? What is
the most effective means by
which we can bring about change
in another person’s life? Is force
sometimes necessary? If so, how
do you know how much force to
apply? How do you insure that
the change is lasting?
Pick one trait that you would like
to see in others in the group and
choose to model that in YOUR
OWN LIFE! The only person you
can truly change is yourself.
Possible Scripture References
Paul Instructed Timothy to “be an
example to the believers…” – 1
Timothy 4:12. The word for
“example” that Paul used comes
from the Greek word “tupos” and is
used in the sense of being a
pattern, an example, for others to
follow. Its like a mold that you can
press the clay into so that it takes
that same shape. Its like a loom
that guides the threads for the
weaving. Its like the painter’s
masterpiece that his students are
inspired to imitate.
It’s a physical or visual reference so
that you know how something
should look when it is completed
and that can be used to guide
progress. Each of these illustrates,
with varying degrees of pressure,
the importance of a pattern or an
example for others to shape their
lives. Christ is that same example for
all of us. By God’s grace, one day we
might all be able to say as Paul said,
“Imitate me as I imitate Christ.”
“Follow my example as I follow the
example of Christ!” “Follow me to
the extent that I follow Christ”
(1 Corinthians 11:1)
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