Love and Marriage

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  • Because God is a relational being, the two great commandments of loving him and expressing this love for him by loving others are also intensely realational
  • We were created for fellowship and intimacy not only with God but also with each other. The relational implications of Christian doctrine and the Trinity are profound. Since we were created in God’s image and likeness, we too are relational beings. The better we know God, the better we know ourselves.
  • We’re not at peace with others because we’re not at peace with ourselves because we’re not at peace with God.
  • Which is your love language?
  • The end
  • Love and Marriage

    1. 1. LOVE AND MARRIAGE DR. KEN BOA
    2. 2. Relationships
    3. 3. Relationships
    4. 4. Relationships
    5. 5. The Triune, Intensely Relational God Father Son Spirit
    6. 6. We Were Created for Relationships God Us Others
    7. 7. No Peace in Relationships God Us Others
    8. 8. Loving GodLoving God CompletelyCompletely Loving Self CorrectlyLoving Self Correctly Loving OthersLoving Others CompassionatelyCompassionately DoingDoing BeingBeingKnowingKnowing
    9. 9. Relationships
    10. 10. Tip 1 • * Marriage is a lifetime covenant of mutual commitment between a man and a woman • * Should lead to oneness on every level: spirit, soul, and body
    11. 11. • * Marriage is an earthly analogy of a spiritual truth Tip 2
    12. 12. • * Masculinity and femininity each expresses something different about God Tip 3
    13. 13. • * Common Problem: Failure to leave, to cleave, or to become one flesh Tip 4
    14. 14. • * Growing marriages never happen by default; they are cultivated by years of discipline and dependence Tip 5
    15. 15. • * Five Love Languages: Quality Time Words of Affirmation Gifts Acts of Service Physical Touch Tip 6
    16. 16. • * The Greatest Enemy: A selfish attitude concerned with the other person’s character and one’s own needs •* Other-centered love focuses on our character and their needs Tip 7
    17. 17. • * The best gift for my spouse is for me to love Jesus more Tip 8
    18. 18. • * My spouse should be my best friend Tip 9
    19. 19. • * Spiritual and soul oneness provide the basis for physical oneness - not vice versa Tip 10
    20. 20. The Five Loves
    21. 21. Epithumia Legitimate physical desire Lust (negative sense) Should be a part of every marriage
    22. 22. Eros Not used in NT Romantic love Sexual love (“erotic”) Lover is occupied with the beloved With or without epithumia
    23. 23. Storge Not used in NT Love of affection or belonging Shared by family members Security, emotional refuge
    24. 24. Phileo Love of friendship, companionship, openness Product of shared interests, time, insights, vision, experiences Occupied with common interests and activities
    25. 25. Agape Highest of the loves Unselfishness and giving; sacrifice Unconditional A willed choice to put another’s interest before one’s own Motivated by the will, not by emotions
    26. 26. 1 Corinthians 13
    27. 27. “I’m not a smart man. But I know what love is.” - Forrest Gump, 1994
    28. 28. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 “4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,
    29. 29. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never fails...”
    30. 30. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 “4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,
    31. 31. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 “4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,
    32. 32. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 “4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,
    33. 33. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 “4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,
    34. 34. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 “4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,
    35. 35. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 “4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,
    36. 36. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 “4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,
    37. 37. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 “4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,
    38. 38. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 “4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,
    39. 39. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never fails...”
    40. 40. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never fails...”
    41. 41. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never fails...”
    42. 42. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never fails...”
    43. 43. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never fails...”
    44. 44. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never fails...”
    45. 45. The End
    46. 46. Reflections Ministries Resources Reflections - A free monthly teaching letter ReflectionsMinistries.org website - Daily Growth email and free text and audio resources
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