(18-21 yrs) Before marriage, you are afraid of losing each other. After marriage, you are afraid of losing yourself. Identity bargaining: The process of role adjustments in a relationship • Identify with a role • Having the role validated by others • Negotiating with the partner to make changes in the role Establishing Boundaries: Adjusting the ties with family of origin
Family roles Emotional support to partner Adjust personal habits Negotiate gender roles Establish family & employment priorities Develop communication skills Manage money Establish kin relationship (cohabitating partners usually never accepted as kin) Participate in larger community
Role adjustment in a relationship. Identify & negotiate. Relationships help us discover ourselves. An intimate relationship requires us to define who we are.
Daughters who are close sometimes have a problem letting go. But birth of child helps improve and change this relationship. Need to establish new boundaries with in-laws
(22-28 yrs)(From the birth of the first child until that child is 2 ½ years old)Developmental Tasks: Adjusting to increased family size Caring for an infant Providing a positive developmental environment
29-31 yrs(When the oldest child is between the ages of 2 ½ and 6)Developmental Tasks: Satisfying the needs and interests of preschool children Coping with demands on energy and attention with less privacy at home
32-39 yrs(When the oldest child is between the ages of 6 to 13)Developmental Tasks: Promoting educational achievement Fitting in the community of families with school- age children
40-42 yrs(When the oldest child is between the ages of 13 and 20)Developmental Tasks: Allowing and helping children to become more independent Coping with their independence Developing new interests beyond child care
43-52 yrs May divorce at this time without children present (empty nest which is not always negative). Boomerang generation: Children return home due to high unemployment, housing cost, low wages, divorce and personal problems.
52-65 Higher income Although widows often have financial hardships But happily married widows choose to remarry more often Old age not poverty stricken or neglectedSandwich generation: Must raise dependent children & dependent parents.Intermittent extended family: Take in other relatives in time of need. Does parenting end when children are grown & gone?
65+ From retirement until the death Adjusting to retirement; coping with the death of the marriage partner and life alone.