Sharing vs. Bonding


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Sharing vs. Bonding

  1. 1. WHAT ISBONDING?The process of attachment.
  2. 2. So, What is an attachment? A connection on someone for something: emotional, mental, or physical. Ex: Parent to child, student to teacher, lover to loverSo, is there any theory behind this?Attachment theoryan emotional bond or tie between an individual and an attachment figure. The biologicalaim is survival, while the psychological aim in security. The emotional equity here is thefeeling of trust.SURVIVAL SECURITY TRUSTA basic human need is Another human need is secu- the willingness of one partysurivial. Humans seek out rity. This is achieved through to be vulnerable to theintimacy with others for shelter and protection from actions of another party.reproduction and food. harm from outside elements.So, What is an emotional bond?Emotional BondBased on the universal tendency for humans to attach, i.e. to seek closeness to anotherperson and to feel secure when that person is present.Criterion for Emotional Bonds1. An emotional bond is persistent, not transitory.2. An emotional bond involves a person who is not interchangeable with anyone else.3. An emotional bond involves a relationship that is emotionally significant.4. The individual wishes to maintain proximity with the person5. The individual feels sadness or distress at involuntary separation from the person.
  3. 3. So, what makes a bond significant versus a casual encounter? When we attach and make an emotional bond with someone we have a shared common denominator with. Ex: shared life experience, same affinity for a sport, shared emotional reactions, living within close proximity to one another What are the conditions for bonding?Physical facial recognition, SITUATIONALclose proximity, human touch EMOTIONAL could be in public or at home.Emotional trust, affection affectionate, trustingPsychological memory createdSituational at home in public?Bonding NarrativeIt was a bad snow storm. Yet, together they PHYSICAL close proximitymade it work. They knew because of the situ- to one anotheration they needed to come together to dig outtheir driveway. Because they had a commongoal to complete, they were more affectionate toone another and this is expressed through thephysical closeness of the couple. They have thememory of the entire process, not only preservedin a photograph, but they have the memoriesfrom that day because of the interminging ofemotional, psyical, and environmental cues to PSYCHOLOGICALremind them. memory of shoveling snow after bad snow storm. THE Emotional Physical BONDING BONDING PROCESS. Bonding is a process that isn’t tied to one Psychological specific moment in time. You can bond with someone in a moment, or it could take you several years to establish a bond to some- shared interest one.Time becomes irrelevant.
  4. 4. Bonding through food In Toward a Psychosociology of Contemporary Food Consumption, Roland Barthes says food is “a system of communication, a body of images, a protocol of usages, situations, and behaviour.” He says that “...activity, work, sports, effort, leisure, celebration—every one of these situations is expressed through food.” (Economic Times) Food is not longer a nutrient, but a situation. “When he buys an item of food, consumes it, or serves it, modern man does not manipu- late a simple object in a purely transitive fashion; this item of food sums up and transmits a situation; it constitutes an information; it signifies […] it is a real sign, perhaps the func- tional unit of a system of communication.” -Roland Barthes This smell reminds me of... We might also say that this “polysemia” of food characterizes modernity; in the past, only festive occasions were signalized by food in any positive and organized manner. But to- day, work also has its own kind of food: energy-giving and light food is experienced as the very sign of, rather than only a help toward, participation in modern life.”- Roland BarthesSMELL MEMORYThe smell of reminds me of the time EMOTIONcoffee at a I went to Portland and which makes mecoffeeshop... went to that little cafe... feel relaxed.FOOD WITH MEMORIES“Food is so intimate. Think about it - we touch it, we smell it, we taste it. It touches us in somany ways. I think it is this intimacy and the feeling that it provides that bonds us with foodand with people. It is precisely because food evokes such strong emotions that it ties backto people.” Monica Bhide, food columnist for The Washington Post
  5. 5. So, what could be a stimulus to connect people?Enter Chocolate.Chocolate raises the same emotional feelings that humans share together because choco-late also has oxytocin. The ‘cuddle hormone’ Oxytocin, is the glue to sustaining a humanbond and relationship. Oxytocin is appreciated for its central role in how the brain encodessocial memories and links these memories to subsequent social stimuli. Chocolate has thepower to heighten those everyday moments because of both of its emotional and pyscho-logical effects.Why does Crispello feel right?As we know, people like to connect to other people. We create social situations like pot-lucks to bring people together to mingle.But, what makes pralines unique is that you are often sharing them with people who youalready trust and anticipate a good interaction with. Already the oxytocin is flowing, butCrispello is different than the convention.Crispello encourages the bonding process because it acknowledges that it’s not a singleaction that causes loved ones to bond, but rather a series of moments. The bag of individu-ally wrapped pralines contain a bag full of little moments, chances, and opportunities tonudge those that you have an affinity towards to become closer. EXTREMES OF BONDING no attachment extreme attachmentFeral Child Helicopter parentsis a human child who has hover closely overhead, rarely out oflived isolated from human reach, whether their children need themcontact from a very young or not. In Scandinavia, this phenom-age, and has no experi- enon is known as curling parenthoodence of human care, and describes parents who attempt toloving or social behavior, sweep all obstacles out of the pathsand, crucially, of human of their children. It is also called "over-language. parenting". Parents try to resolve their childs problems, and try to stop them coming to harm by keeping them out of dangerous situations