Sex, Love, Social Media


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  • A little about me and why my path has gone the way it has….96 - Email 98 - ICQ – ASL, cyber, sticky keyboards, and chat roulette style penis surprises99 – my gay summer of gay.com00 – my first face to face 01 – my first online dating experience05 – living in Oz, lonely, myspace was for connecting and making connections06 – facebook became the thing to do but not for dating...just for looking at ex BFs who had lost their hair, had bad jobs, and fat wives08 – joined twitter to find a job, i found a community09 – moved to london, got an iphone – felt super connected (PS iPhone users have more sex!) also means constant sharing/real time11 – my single friend.... Reputation vouching – lies! Ha!12 – okcupid – it’s like window shopping. Fascinated by reading profiles.Al’s story that he’s so contactable online that he forgot to give his phone number to the girl he was dating, much to her concern!
  • Search… is it good or bad?Some times I don’t want to know! Do you? Where’s the mystery? Has technology made us feel like we need-to-know-now? Search is at our finger tips!
  • So you come across blogs, tweets, some public fb photos/updates, playlists, foursquare check ins, and an amazonwishlist! Story of problogger Darren Rowse meeting a super fan after a talk at a conference. She spazzes out and then she blurts “I feel like I know you”… looking at the list – if you can answer Yes/I do to some or all of these, chances are people feel a connection to you.When you add in a 2-way dialogue via Twitter, for ex, then a familiarity can really develop. Networks are defined by relationships, and relationships are sustained by transactions. Those transactions may be simple communication -- an exchange of knowledge or even affection -- or they may be an exchange of money, goods, services, and other currency. We break these down into three categories of transactions: social, knowledge, and business. These rarely, if ever, exist in isolation. People develop business relationships in online multiplayer games and romantic relationships on business networking sites.
  • Fortunately the MySpace photo still works for girls acc to OK Trends. Men, you should keep your shirts on.
  •!“Do you want to date my avatar, she’s a star; do you want to date my avatar? she’s hotter than reality by far.”A lot of peopleSo…
  • Lewis Webb for Someone Once Told MeWhat’s even worse in the world of online dating – and MySpace – is to be told you don’t look like your photo. You hope that it’s followed up with “you’re cuter in person” and not the “you must be really photogenic”. My pet peeve is that people have this fave photo from 5 years ago and that’s just their photo. You were cute. Then. You’re bald now. Get over it. Be you now. Even image can impact trust.
  • So if you want people to be scoping your photos online, OK Trends suggests that you Use a decent camera. Go easy on the flash. Own the foreground. Take your picture in the afternoon.
  • couples online… the ones who tweet each other all day and we watch it all unfold like a train wreck.ongs people listen to when entering into a relationship:1. “Don’t Wanna Go Home” by Jason Derulo2. “Love On Top” by Beyoncé3. “How to Love” by Lil Wayne4. “Just The Way You Are” by Bruno Mars5. “Good Feeling” by Flo Rida6. “It Girl” by Jason Derulo7. “Stereo Hearts” by Gym Class Heroes featuring Adam Levine8. “Criminal” by Britney Spears9. “No Sleep” by Wiz Khalifa10. “Free Fallin’” by John MayerSongs listened by people after ending a relationship:1. “The Cave” by Mumford and Sons2. “Crew Love” by Drake3. “All of the Lights” by Kanye West4. “Rolling in the Deep” by Adele5. “Take Care” by Drake6. “It Will Rain” by Bruno Mars7. “We Found Love” by Rihanna and Calvin Harris8. “Call It What You Want” by Foster the People9. “Love You Like a Love Song” by Selena Gomez and the Scene10. “Without You” by David Guetta featuring Usher
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  • Cheating – finding out via FB or MS that your partner is cheating… duh
  • Go home and Google yourself.Consider how much personal information you really want the public at large to know.Think about your profile photos and how they best show off you.Think before you post, tweet, photo, or blog your relationship.Don’t be crazy.
  • Sex, Love, Social Media

    1. 1. Meet your case studyGoogling aka Cyber StalkingPictures of YouPDA / ODA and Breaking upTrusty StatsDos and Donts
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    3. 3.  Goo·gle (ggl) A trademark used for an Internet search engine. This trademark often occurs in print as a verb, sometimes in lowercase:  google [ˈ guˈgl]vb (tr) ɒ  1. (Electronics & Computer Science / Computer Science) to search for (something on the Internet) using a search engine  2. (Electronics & Computer Science / Computer Science) to check (the credentials of someone) by searching for websites containing his or name  ogle [ˈ əl] vb əʊg  1. to look at (someone) amorously or lustfully  2. (tr) to stare or gape at
    4. 4.  I use my real name  I share images of myself from time to time in posts and on key pages  I share videos where people can see my face and hear my voice  I include details of what’s happening in my life and family (usually in passing and by way of illustrating something)  I try to use personal language (I blog in the first person most of the time)  I write in a style that is similar to the way I would speak to a person face to face  I tell stories about my experiences as they relate to my topic  I use personal examples where I can to illustrate what I’m saying  I’ve done live streaming question and answer sessions via video
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    7. 7.  65% of young people on Facebook use it to look at the profiles of people they don’t know… -Forrester research, 2009  Only 30% considered it wrong to use a social networking site to test a spouse’s faithfulness, but only 5% have actually admitted to do the same. - BT 21st Century Life Index, 2008  By 2005, among single adults Americans who were Internet users and currently seeking a romantic partner, 37 percent had dated online.  According to research by Michael Rosenfeld, a professor of sociology at Stanford University, in 2007-2009, 22 percent of heterosexual couples and 61 percent of same-sex couples had found their partners through the Web. Those percentages are likely even larger today.
    8. 8.  Pre-social media, the internet delivered fantasy; post-social media, it delivers reality…  More than a quarter of men and 14 percent of women have experienced strong feelings for somebody online, while 22 percent of men and 12 percent of women have said they’ve had romantic, sexual or erotic relationships online.  34 percent of men and 37 percent of women believe that online relationships can be too much of a distraction from face-to-face relationships.  More women than men see the negative effects of online relationships with face-to-face relationships, while more men than women see the positive effects.  More than half of Americans of all conditions think the Internet has made it easier for people to cheat on their partners.  A strikingly high proportion of the overall sample (31 percent) knows somebody whose relationship ended because of their actions online. This is a huge impact for technologies that have been truly mainstream for barely a decade.
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    12. 12.  Do not immediately follow/friend me on Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram and Facebook. Do not feel the need to comment on one of my posts on any/all of those sites either.  Yes, we all know we stalk each other, but the less obvious you make it, the more chance of success for future contact. Don’tthrust your happy-loved-up- coupleyness on the rest of us. 64% of you leave <3 messages on your significant other’s Facebook wall. But if you give yourselves a hash tag, so help me...
    13. 13.  Meet someone offline. Try a tweet-up or a meet-up if you want to go the social networking route. (It’s how Shoreditch Twit got started!) Think twice about how much private information you want out there and whether everyone needs to know your relationship status. Give that guy or girl that you’ve been flirting with over Twitter a chance!
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