Q OF THE DAY
of your most memorable
moment with a friend/friends and write
about it. What made it special,
memorable, fun, serious, etc.
are qualities you want in a good
(Ex: caring, trustworthy, someone who
listens, someone with good advice, etc.)
down as many things as you can
6 MOST IMPORTANT DECISIONS
Everyone = 91-93 (top of)
1 = What’s at your center?
2 = It’s all about popular
3 = Queen Bees, Wanna Bees, Gamma Girls
4 = Quirks, Faults, and Foibles
5 = Mean Girls, Gossips, and bullies
6 = Crabs and Competition
7 = How come you don’t kick with us no more?
WHAT’S AT YOUR CENTER?!
Are Friends at your center?
Friends are imperfect, unstable, and human
What SHOULD be at our center?
Principles never fail
Principles are MAGNETIC!
POPULAR: DARK VS LIGHT SIDE
Stuck up, snotty, think
you’re better than
people that are well
liked and respected
because they are
genuine decent people
QUEEN BEE, WANNA BEE AND GAMMA
Queen bee: popularity means everything. Protect
clique at all cost and will boot anyone out who tries
to threaten their reign.
Wanna bee: Those who do whatever it takes to get
in with the Queen Bee.
Gamma Girl/Boy: kids who may not be known as
“popular” but they are comfortable with who they
are, they like their parents, are smart, and are kind!
QUIRKS, FAULTS AND FOIBLES
Just like you, your friends are trying to figure out
who they are and what the purpose of life is….
There is a time to forgive and a time to draw the
MEAN GIRLS, GOSSIP, & BULLIES
Gossip we can do things about…
Confront it….(I-message )
Live above it. Ignore it and move on
TREAT EACH OTHERS REPUTATIONS WITH CARE!
LEAVE PEOPLE BETTER THAN WHEN YOU FIND
CRABS & COMPETITION
Friends pulling you
looks, abilities and
I want to win and you
can win too
HOW COME DON’T YOU KICK WITH US
Friends change…and that’s okay.
Big difference between abandoning your friends
and developing new friends because your interests
Don’t get upset if your naturally start drifting apart
because your interests take you in different
BE the type of friend you WANT in others!
Be PRINCIPLE centered friend MAGNET!!!
We all should want to be POPULAR.
But HOW do we make NEW friends?
Care about them
Be PRINCIPLE centered
FRIEND MAKING SKILLS
You will develop many kinds of friendships
throughout your life.
Some will be more important to you than others
Common attributes of Friends
Similar values, interests, beliefs and attitudes
Share joy/disappointment/dreams and concerns
Respect, care and support
Concern for each others safety
MAKING & BEING A FRIEND
“You can’t make people like you, but you can
always make yourself more likable.” **Covey
Be slow to judge
YOU make the effort
Build the RBA
Treat Unkindness with
6 WAYS TO BE MORE LIKEABLE
Become genuinely interested in other people
Remember that a person’s name is to that person
the sweetest and most important sound in any
Be a good listener
Encourage others to talk about themselves. Talk
in terms of the other person’s interests.
Make the other person feel important
And do it sincerely
It takes a great deal of
COURAGE to stand up
to your ENEMIES, but a
great deal more to stand
up to your FRIENDS.
When you feel pressured by people in your age
group to act a certain way.
Positive PP: when your friends expect good things
Negative PP: when your friends persuade you to
conform or do something you don’t want to do
Remember your life centered on PRINCIPLES…not
NEGATIVE PEER PRESSURE
indirect, dishonest way
to control or influence
ASSERTIVE REFUSAL SKILLS
State Your Position:
NO, firmly and simply
Suggest another activity
Stand Your Ground:
Make it clear you meant what you said
Remove yourself from the situation
Think of a time when you were pressured.
Who pressured you?
What activity/behavior were you being pressured to do?
What arguments did the person/people pressuring you
How did you respond? If you tried to resist, what did you
say or do?
What might you say or do in the future to resist peer
4 RED FLAGS
You may want to suggest a new group of friends
You have to change your clothes, language, friends,
or standards in order to keep your friends.
You’re doing stuff you don’t feel good about, like
stealing, fighting, or doing drugs.
You feel like you’re being used
Your life feels out of control