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4 Tips on Setting
   Boundaries
            By: Kassandra Bibas, ACC
        http://www.kassandrabibas.com

 Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l
IDENTIFY YOUR TOP 3 NON-NEGOTIABLES




 What are the top three priorities of your life and how
  do you fit them into your daily/weekly schedule?
 Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l
For example,
• If your top three priorities are God, family and
  health, the 3 non-negotiables you might choose
  could include:

 Morning prayer
 Eating dinner as a family at least five nights a week
 Exercising daily
 A non-negotiable is something that gets done NO
  MATTER what else you have to do during that day



      Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l
But…
• Suffer not one exception
• A NON-NEGOTIABLE is non-negotiable
• If it’s your priority, you have to make it one…




     Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l
SAY NO AND MEAN IT




Learn to say no clearly, concisely and completely.
      A no that sounds like a yes is not a no.
Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l
Assert without debating
• When you say no, there’s no need to explain, clarify
  or debate the reasoning behind your decision
• Make the decision, communicate it and resist the
  temptation to defend your position




       Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l

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4 tips on setting boundaries

  • 1. 4 Tips on Setting Boundaries By: Kassandra Bibas, ACC http://www.kassandrabibas.com Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l
  • 2. IDENTIFY YOUR TOP 3 NON-NEGOTIABLES What are the top three priorities of your life and how do you fit them into your daily/weekly schedule? Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l
  • 3. For example, • If your top three priorities are God, family and health, the 3 non-negotiables you might choose could include:  Morning prayer  Eating dinner as a family at least five nights a week  Exercising daily  A non-negotiable is something that gets done NO MATTER what else you have to do during that day Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l
  • 4. But… • Suffer not one exception • A NON-NEGOTIABLE is non-negotiable • If it’s your priority, you have to make it one… Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l
  • 5. SAY NO AND MEAN IT Learn to say no clearly, concisely and completely. A no that sounds like a yes is not a no. Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l
  • 6. Assert without debating • When you say no, there’s no need to explain, clarify or debate the reasoning behind your decision • Make the decision, communicate it and resist the temptation to defend your position Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l
  • 7. Remember… • “Find your voice to ask for what you want. Everybody has the right to tell you no or yes, but you always have the right to ask.” • - Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l
  • 8. GIVE YOURSELF 24 HOURS TO DECIDE… No decision made in a hurry works out… Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l
  • 9. Allow people to make requests… • Not demands… Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l
  • 10. favor, request 24 hours to think about it… • It’ll give you time to evaluate, consider & make the best choice for you… Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l
  • 11. DECIDE WHERE YOUR LIMIT IS Before you get a request, know where you’re drawing the line… Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l
  • 12. For example, • Do you work on Sundays? • Can a friend ask you to babysit with less than 24 hours notice and you say yes? • Are you willing to drop your plans to help out a sibling? • Will you work late and miss your child’s recital? • Will you skip the gym in order to help out a friend? • Will you stay up all night if your spouse needs help with a last-minute project he/she procrastinated on? Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l
  • 13. Know where you stand before you have to take a stand… Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l
  • 14. Learn more about creating AND keeping healthy boundaries: Register for The Healthy Boundaries Master Class Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l