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4 tips on setting boundaries

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4 tips on creating and keeping healthy boundaries

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4 tips on setting boundaries

  1. 1. 4 Tips on Setting Boundaries By: Kassandra Bibas, ACC http://www.kassandrabibas.com Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l
  2. 2. IDENTIFY YOUR TOP 3 NON-NEGOTIABLES What are the top three priorities of your life and how do you fit them into your daily/weekly schedule? Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l
  3. 3. For example,• If your top three priorities are God, family and health, the 3 non-negotiables you might choose could include: Morning prayer Eating dinner as a family at least five nights a week Exercising daily A non-negotiable is something that gets done NO MATTER what else you have to do during that day Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l
  4. 4. But…• Suffer not one exception• A NON-NEGOTIABLE is non-negotiable• If it’s your priority, you have to make it one… Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l
  5. 5. SAY NO AND MEAN ITLearn to say no clearly, concisely and completely. A no that sounds like a yes is not a no.Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l
  6. 6. Assert without debating• When you say no, there’s no need to explain, clarify or debate the reasoning behind your decision• Make the decision, communicate it and resist the temptation to defend your position Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l
  7. 7. Remember… • “Find your voice to ask for what you want.Everybody has the right to tell you no or yes, but you always have the right to ask.” • - Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l
  8. 8. GIVE YOURSELF 24 HOURS TO DECIDE… No decision made in a hurry works out… Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l
  9. 9. Allow people to make requests…• Not demands… Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l
  10. 10. favor, request 24 hours to think about it…• It’ll give you time to evaluate, consider & make the best choice for you… Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l
  11. 11. DECIDE WHERE YOUR LIMIT ISBefore you get a request, know where you’re drawing the line… Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l
  12. 12. For example,• Do you work on Sundays?• Can a friend ask you to babysit with less than 24 hours notice and you say yes?• Are you willing to drop your plans to help out a sibling?• Will you work late and miss your child’s recital?• Will you skip the gym in order to help out a friend?• Will you stay up all night if your spouse needs help with a last-minute project he/she procrastinated on? Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l
  13. 13. Know where you stand before you have to take a stand…Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l
  14. 14. Learn more about creating AND keeping healthy boundaries: Register for The Healthy Boundaries Master Class Learn to Create & Keep Healthy Boundaries: http://tinyurl.com/6vkj43l

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