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  • Conflict Management

    1. 1. Conflict Management By: Ohireime Ojeomogha [OJ] and Jessica England
    2. 2. Conflict Exercise <ul><li>Split into groups of five people. </li></ul><ul><li>Spend three minutes trying to resolve the conflict. </li></ul><ul><li>Each group member should choose a personality response/role. </li></ul><ul><ul><li>[person named in scenario, conflict resolution manager, confrontational and opinionated, complainer, non-responder, disagree with everything, etc] </li></ul></ul>
    3. 3. Conflict Exercise <ul><ul><li>Scenario 1: Company AXY – dating relationship. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Scenario 2: Personal coach – hostile environment. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Scenario 3: Diversity training gone wrong. </li></ul></ul>
    4. 4. Conflict <ul><li>Conflict is neither a necessary evil nor a signal of defeat. It is simply a reality. Wherever there are people there is conflict. The real issue is not to avoid it, but learn how to manage it. </li></ul><ul><li>Conflict: When two or more people attempt to occupy the same space at the same time: physically, emotionally, or intellectually. </li></ul>
    5. 5. Initial Reaction <ul><li>Fight Freeze Flight </li></ul>
    6. 6. Understanding Options <ul><li>∙ ∙ ∙ </li></ul><ul><li>∙ ∙ ∙ </li></ul><ul><li>∙ ∙ ∙ </li></ul><ul><li>Connect all the dots without lifting your pen. </li></ul>
    7. 7. <ul><li>∙ ∙ ∙ </li></ul><ul><li>∙ ∙ ∙ </li></ul><ul><li>∙ ∙ ∙ </li></ul><ul><li>One option includes going outside of the box. </li></ul>
    8. 8. What do you see? Two faces or a vase?
    9. 9. Water cannot flow up hill…
    10. 10. Young woman or old lady? Creepy clown face or ladies in an arch way?
    11. 12. <ul><li>workbench </li></ul>person on cliff ready to jump tree Resource & Opportunity Danger
    12. 13. Opportunity & Danger <ul><li>Conflicts arise over facts, methods, values, and goals. </li></ul><ul><li>If you choose resentment: it’s like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies. </li></ul>
    13. 14. How we CHOOSE to Respond to Conflict <ul><li>Avoidance </li></ul><ul><li>Accommodation </li></ul><ul><li>Competition </li></ul><ul><li>Compromise </li></ul><ul><li>Collaboration </li></ul>
    14. 15. Thomas Kilman Conflict Resolution Grid Value of Relationship Importance Placed on Mercy Response to Other’s Interest Value of Issue Need for Justice Achievement of Own Interest Avoid Accommodate Compromise Compete Collaborate
    15. 16. Avoid I don’t care for the issue and honestly I don’t really care about the relationship. Value of Relationship Importance Placed on Mercy Response to Other’s Interest Value of Issue Need for Justice Achievement of Own Interest Avoid
    16. 17. Accommodate Value of Relationship Importance Placed on Mercy Response to Other’s Interest Value of Issue Need for Justice Achievement of Own Interest Preserve the relationship at ALL costs. Accommodate
    17. 18. Compete Value of Relationship Importance Placed on Mercy Response to Other’s Interest Value of Issue Need for Justice Achievement of Own Interest Compete Win / lose situation: How do I get MY way?
    18. 19. Compromise Value of Relationship Importance Placed on Mercy Response to Other’s Interest Value of Issue Need for Justice Achievement of Own Interest Compromise Tolerance is key!
    19. 20. Collaborate Value of Relationship Importance Placed on Mercy Response to Other’s Interest Value of Issue Need for Justice Achievement of Own Interest Collaborate Seek to preserve both the relationship and the value of the issue at hand. *this requires skill in managing conflict. **not all issues are worth going “to the mat.”
    20. 21. Conflict Engagement Styles <ul><li>Tank : confrontational, pointed, angry, ultimately pushy and aggressive behavior towards others </li></ul><ul><li>Sniper : employs the use of rude comments, biting sarcasm or well timed eye roll, and in the end makes you look foolish </li></ul><ul><li>Grenade : brief calm, explodes into unfocused ranting and raving with things typically unrelated to the present work circumstances </li></ul><ul><li>Know-it-all : seldom in doubt; low tolerance when corrected or contradicted and blames others when things go wrong </li></ul><ul><li>Think-they-know-it-all : primarily seeking the attention of others and unlike the know it all cannot fool people all the time </li></ul>
    21. 22. Conflict Engagement Styles Cont <ul><li>Yes Person : avoids confrontation, typically over commits to work task and can’t accomplish it all because of time constraints </li></ul><ul><li>Maybe Person : procrastinates and waits in the hopes of getting a better choice, but in the end decision makes itself </li></ul><ul><li>Nothing Person : worse than the maybe person he/she gives no feedback </li></ul><ul><li>No Person : mild mannered…fights a never ending battle for futility, hopelessness and despair </li></ul><ul><li>Whiner : complains about everything…seem helpless, overwhelmed and not measuring up to their standards of perfection </li></ul>
    22. 23. Lens of Understanding The Dr.’s Rick <ul><li>Understanding helps you communicate effectively, prevent future conflict, and resolve current conflicts. </li></ul><ul><li>Look for the motive behind the behavior. </li></ul>
    23. 24. Assertiveness & Focus Normal Zone People Focus Task Focus Aggressive Passive
    24. 25. Motives Normal Zone Get It Right Get It Done Get Appreciated Get Along People Focus Task Focus Aggressive Passive
    25. 26. Normal Zone Get It Right Get It Done Get Appreciated Get Along People Focus Task Focus Aggressive Passive Controlling Attention Getting Approval Seeking Perfectionist Gray Zone Behaviors Behaviors
    26. 27. Normal Zone Get It Right Get It Done Get Appreciated Get Along People Focus Task Focus Aggressive Passive Controlling Attention Getting Approval Seeking Perfectionist Gray Zone Behaviors TANK SNIPER KNOW- IT-ALL GRENADE SNIPER THINK-THEY- KNOW-IT-ALL MAYBE Person YES Person NOTHING Person NOTHING Person NO Person WHINER
    27. 28. Position Position Issue Conflict When people differ they usually identify an issue over which they differ and take a position on it.
    28. 29. Choose Your Path
    29. 30. Position-based Conflict Management <ul><li>One or both sides can walk away, perhaps avoiding the conflict. </li></ul><ul><li>One or both sides can accommodate , thereby eliminating the conflict. </li></ul><ul><li>One or both sides can compete , which escalates the conflict. </li></ul><ul><li>One or both sides can compromise their position, perhaps tempering the conflict. </li></ul><ul><li>Both sides can give the dispute to someone else for a decision which will decide the matter but which may not resolve the conflict. </li></ul>
    30. 31. Escalate Escalate Position Position Issue (Conflict) Interests Interests No Solution End of Relationship
    31. 32. Go Below the Line <ul><li>The focus of positional-based conflict management is the issue / my view on it. </li></ul><ul><li>In a collaborative, consensual process, the key is to bring interests into the discussion… to GO BELOW THE LINE ! </li></ul><ul><li>Moving from position to interests gives the freedom to explore solutions . </li></ul>
    32. 33. Escalate Escalate Position Position Issue (Conflict) Interests Interests Maintain Relationship Conflict Resolved No Solution End of Relationship
    33. 34. Interest-based Conflict Management <ul><li>The focus moves from the issue to the solution. </li></ul><ul><li>Allows potential for: </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Developing better, more satisfying agreements. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Creating greater commitment to an agreement. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Strengthening the parties’ relationships. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Creating greater organizational effectiveness. </li></ul></ul>
    34. 35. The Shift ISSUE PROBLEM
    35. 36. Action Plan <ul><li>Listen to understand: blend, backtrack, clarify, summarize, confirm. </li></ul><ul><li>Speak to be understood: tone, intent, tact, truth, ready to listen. </li></ul><ul><li>Reach a deeper understanding by identifying positive intent and highly valued criteria . </li></ul><ul><li>P.E.: Project and expect the best of others. </li></ul>

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