Family Collage Jennifer McNallyJennifer McNally Family Collage 4/4/2012 4/4/2012
My brother (top left), Frank (bottom left), my mom, sisterand I (top right), my dad and I (bottom right), and Gracie my daughter is in all of the photos. Family Collage Jennifer McNally 4/3/2012
The previous slide• My family consists of my mother, father, Frank, sister and brother. My parents divorced after twelve years of marriage. My mother has had a long term relationship with Frank. So I consider Frank to be a father figure as well. “The blended family consists of two adults and their children, all of whom are not from the union of their relationship.” (Galvin, et al. p.9)
“The intentional family involves a pair or a group of people,some or all of whom are unrelated biologically or legally, who share a commitment to each other , may live together, and consider themselves to be a family.” (Galvin et al. p.10) Myfamily includes my boyfriend and my daughter. He is not her biological father and we are not married, but we are a committed family.
Cohesion• Our family is very close emotionally. We may live far apart, but we our relationship with each other is most important. We are so close that it can be difficult to have independence. “Enmeshed. Family members experience extreme closeness, loyalty, dependence, and almost no individuality.” (Galvin et al, 2008)
Communication patterns• Frank is certainly the story teller in our family. He is always recalling funny stories that get everyone laughing. “Family stories encourage members to remember together.” (Galvin et al. p. 97)
My brother, sister, and I are very close. We enjoy getting together and all three of us are incredibly silly. We all share similar humor and we connect at family gatherings bylaughing. “Rituals convey a variety of meanings and messages in emotionally powerful patterns; they remind members of who they are, how much they care about each other.” (Galvin, et al. p. 113)
Family RitualsMy fathers side of the family gets together on the 4th of July every year, this has been happening since long before I was born. “”Ceremonial ritualsprovide unique opportunities for family members to bond with each other and significant others in their communities.” (Galvin et al. 2008)
CommitmentMy boyfriend and I are dedicated to our relationship and we takeit very seriously. Energy must be put into a relationship for it to continue to be healthy. We have been together for four years now. “Commitment implies intense singular energy directed toward sustaining a relationship.” (Galvin, et al. p. 129)
Roles My daughter is the most important person to me. We have aspecial bond as she spent the first 18 months of her life with me as a single mom. “Family members need mutual admiration, support, and reassurance.” (Galvin, et al. p. 155)
ThemesNo matter how far away I live from my family or what decisions I make I am continuously supported by my family. “”Some family stories depict strongfamily support, or no family support, when members face stressful times ortheir behavior violates family norms.” (Galvin et al. p. 99) I am so fortunate to have a family that is always there for me.
Family conflict My father avoids conflict while my mother talks about everything. It was astruggle for them to communicate. As I understand it that is one of the many reasons their marriage ended. “Conflicts in families stem from multiple issues and are handled in a variety of ways.” (Galvin et al. p. 208)
Decision makingGrowing up we always went to our mom for an answer to whatwe were allowed to do. My dad was usually the “good guy” ashe didn’t like to say no. “Decision-making processes rely on the repertoire of strategies members have developed to manage conflicting needs and desires.” (Galvin et al. p. 195)
A family to me means being there for each other no matterwhat. The relationships in my life are what make me happy. Thebonds I have with these people are more important to me then anything else. As an adult with a “family” of my own I am enjoying raising my daughter to understand the importance of family.
Works Cited• Galvin, Bylund, and Brommel. Family Communication: 2008