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VERBAL ABUSE 
AND 
THE NARCISSIST 
Communication Tactics 
Designed to Make You Crazy!!! 
Compiled by Jeni Mawter 
www.jeni...
The Extreme Narcissist 
People with Narcissistic Personality 
Disorders have an inflated sense of 
their own importance, a...
What is Verbal Abuse? 
Verbal abuse occurs 
when someone uses 
language, either spoken 
or written, to cause 
harm to an i...
http://littlekidsgrow.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/09/WORDS-Hurt-rant.jpg
Verbal Abuse Definition 
by Dr Marie Hartwell-Walker 
Verbal abuse takes many forms: from 
loud rants to quiet comments; f...
Verbal Abuse has long-term effects 
http://cdnpix.com/show/imgs/800df83a9b3f266a56f85bf88dc8f6cb.jpg
http://images.slideplayer.us/2/693763/slides/slide_20.jpg
Verbal Abusers Target their Victim 
http://www.hoagames.com/thumbs/creative-kill-chamber- 
2.jpg 
http://lightshouse.org/l...
“How do I 
verbally abuse 
you?” 
Let me count the ways …
Shut Down 
http://drjeffreyrubin.files.wordpress.com/2012/03/blog2realpicture-e1331230255475.jpg?w=339&h=246&h=246
Talk down or Patronize 
http://lowres.jantoo.com/relationships-marriage-wife-care-therapy-therapists-wives-12230861_low.jp...
Put Downs 
http://api.ning.com/files/YWMj-J29SNznbB5rtJnRX*ShzIBZtfPnTVABKQymDLsSErP85*x4bX0Ll6suMQeH-t3PDpZtfsmYdAqUQPXTK...
Wear down by going on and on … 
http://operationmeditation.com/discover/ 
wp-content/uploads/2012/11/626-300x336.jpg
Pretend not to hear 
http://i.ytimg.com/vi/d09nf3LPM6U/hqdefault.jpg
Pretend to Not Understand 
http://followpics.me/truthfully-im-not-listening-just-uh-huh-ing-and-uh-huh-ing-until-u-get-the...
Name- 
Calling 
http://temp_thoughts_resize.s3.amazonaws. 
com/f1/3fb781abbf23f13b31bc7d0cd7ddc6/ 
The-words-that-hurt.jpg
Labels 
• Neurotic 
• Hysterical 
• Highly strung 
• Dysfunctional 
• Hypersensitive 
• Hypochondriac 
• Crazy 
• Psycho 
...
Keep changing the topic 
http://images6.fanpop.com/image/answers/3282000/3282273_1372370934686.89res_483_300.jpg
Gaslighting 
http://media-cache-ec0. 
pinimg.com/originals/db/a3/e7/dba3e7b4b2d9c5df940ce35f72 
a8412e.jpg
Projection 
http://media-cache-ec0.pinimg.com/originals/af/68/37/af68379dac15367810059a3da5880c7f.jpg
Accusing 
http://harvestofpearls.files.wordpress.com/2012/09/pointing-fingers-copy.jpg
Constant Blaming 
http://perseka.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/07/Blame-copyright-Perseka-2010.jpg
Blocking 
http://i.myniceprofile.com/680/68038.gif
Not Paying Attention 
http://media-cache-ec0.pinimg.com/236x/9b/2d/97/9b2d97330f822279b20ad0cf320cbac7.jpg
Irrational Thinking 
http://www.lolriot.com/32-signs-which-makes-no-sense/32-signs-which-makes-no-sense-011/
Constant Criticizing 
http://fortunedotcom.files.wordpress.com/2013/05/130221101054-bossy-boss-614xa1.jpg?w=614
Exaggerating 
http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/7/77/Everyone-else. 
jpg
Twisting what I say … 
http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-iZFv4rMmtsE/TVVRhu0A1pI/AAAAAAAAAqQ/SeM-8Z4Q8FM/s1600/Illogical%2BTshirt....
Unjust Criticism 
http://fc07.deviantart.net/fs71/i/2011/147/9/8/unjust_criticism_by_deltik-d3hdn9c.png
Abuse 
Disguised 
as a Joke 
http://www.dailybleh.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/joking.jpg
Denial 
http://www.quickmeme.com/img/5c/5c29fe97571fb65de96d61b6f5c7df162476f4f1ee5b2c8b43e08268238d61f8.jpg
Silent Treatment 
http://media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/originals/c7/b0/b5/c7b0b5eee8a9bf4bf4deff150685a6e4.jpg
Non-existence 
http://1.bp.blogspot.com/- 
83b2iXY8Bb8/VFF88YBZ8YI/AAAAAAAANn0/2c39tc7PVoE/s1600/10%2BHours%2Bof%2BWalking...
Disinterest 
http://www.fugly.com/media/IMAGES/Random/cat-boring-face.jpg
The ‘non’ answer 
‘Who?’ 
‘I’m talking to you. 
‘Hi, how are you?’ 
‘You.’ 
‘What are you doing?’ 
http://www.twitsnaps.co...
Unavailability 
http://yourdailycap.ca/wp-content/uploads/2013/10/NOT_NOW_BECOMES_NEVER_620.jpg
Excuses 
http://images-cdn.9gag.com/photo/16656_700b.jpg
Slander 
https://lh6.googleusercontent.com/-oi6GAdcgpPM/VGjG8C2hQiI/AAAAAAAARf8/n1rHZXkIBxc/w550- 
h503/narcissistic%2Bmot...
Pathological Lying 
http://wellingtonretreat.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/07/iStock_000018263526XSmall-300x199.jpg
Lies of Omission 
http://img.sparknotes.com/content/sparklife/sparktalk/auntielieofomission_Large.jpg
Withhold – expressions of … 
• Love 
• Admiration 
• Gratitude 
• Forgiveness 
• Empathy 
• Endearment 
• Respect 
• Valid...
Angry Outbursts / Rage 
http://th04.deviantart.net/fs71/PRE/f/2011/126/e/3/ 
e3564981bfc3352d1dc928fdc3e07b27-d3fr192.jpg
Provocation 
https://i.imgflip.com/857lq.jpg
Continual humiliation, 
criticism and negative 
comments eventually play 
with your head.
Long-term Verbal Abuse can 
break people emotionally and 
mentally, make them unsure of 
themselves, unable to recognize 
...
You feel like 
you’re going 
crazy!!! 
http://s3.amazonaws.com/rapgenius/1372832146_straight_jacket.jpg
You lose your sense of ‘Self’ 
Sticks and stones can 
break my bones and 
verbal abuse can 
steal my soul
http://www.paulmcmillan.com/Resources/216_Empty_Chair_2wn.jpg
About Jeni Mawter 
Jeni Mawter is an 
Australian writer who first 
encountered Narcissistic 
Personality Disorder 
whilst ...
Please share these other links on Narcissistic 
Personality Disorder… 
• http://www.slideshare.net/jenimawter/red-flags-to...
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People with Narcissistic Personality Disorders have an inflated sense of their own importance, a strong sense of entitlement, a deep need for admiration, yet a lack of empathy for others.

They use verbal abuse for power and control. Verbal Abuse is often dismissed as insignificant when compared to physical abuse. BUT, the long-term effect of verbal abuse is that you can lose your sense of 'self'. You no longer know who you are. It feels like you've lost your soul.

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  • So very true!!!!
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  • Reading these slides makes me feel sad and better at the same time...validation at the very least. I've finally free'd myself from an emotionally abusive person, and feel almost like myself again. However, he has painted himself as this victim and I've lost friendships over it. I was feeling like I was going crazy, why doesn't anyone believe me? He is so narcissistic, tries to get everyone to like him, so "my friends" think he's such a great guy, it must be me. So, thank you for this information, I at least feel less crazy!
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  • @Keegan Surface Hi Keegan. You can Download them, then Save them, then Print them. This should work. Let me know if you have troubles. Jeni
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  • Hey Jeni. It's been very enlightening. I do relate to pretty much ever slide in this slide show in a deep and heavy way. My parent is very odd. He mostly distances himself from interpersonal relationships totally, but when he is around, if he's not timid and hardly saying anything at all, then he typically displays this type of behavior. It's sad. I always knew something was a miss with him, but now I fully know that he is abusing his entire family on a daily basis. I will look at all the slide shows. I think they are really good. It's not overbearing with lots of information per slide, but hits the nail on the head and gets to the point. I will take your suggestions to heart and try to have my family look over the slides. Thank you for all of your help. On a different note, can explain to me how I can print these slides off?
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Verbal Abuse and the Narcissist: Communication Tactics Designed to Make you Crazy! Compiled by Jeni Mawter

  1. 1. VERBAL ABUSE AND THE NARCISSIST Communication Tactics Designed to Make You Crazy!!! Compiled by Jeni Mawter www.jenimawter.com
  2. 2. The Extreme Narcissist People with Narcissistic Personality Disorders have an inflated sense of their own importance, a strong sense of entitlement, a deep need for admiration, yet a lack of empathy for others. They use verbal abuse for power and control.
  3. 3. What is Verbal Abuse? Verbal abuse occurs when someone uses language, either spoken or written, to cause harm to an individual.
  4. 4. http://littlekidsgrow.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/09/WORDS-Hurt-rant.jpg
  5. 5. Verbal Abuse Definition by Dr Marie Hartwell-Walker Verbal abuse takes many forms: from loud rants to quiet comments; from obvious put-downs to not-so-obvious remarks that undermine the partner. What all the methods have in common is the need to control, to be superior, to avoid taking personal responsibility, and to mask or deny failures. http://psychcentral.com/lib/signs-you-are-verbally-abused-part-i/00015267
  6. 6. Verbal Abuse has long-term effects http://cdnpix.com/show/imgs/800df83a9b3f266a56f85bf88dc8f6cb.jpg
  7. 7. http://images.slideplayer.us/2/693763/slides/slide_20.jpg
  8. 8. Verbal Abusers Target their Victim http://www.hoagames.com/thumbs/creative-kill-chamber- 2.jpg http://lightshouse.org/lights-blog/wp-content/uploads/2011/08/pointing-300x294.jpg
  9. 9. “How do I verbally abuse you?” Let me count the ways …
  10. 10. Shut Down http://drjeffreyrubin.files.wordpress.com/2012/03/blog2realpicture-e1331230255475.jpg?w=339&h=246&h=246
  11. 11. Talk down or Patronize http://lowres.jantoo.com/relationships-marriage-wife-care-therapy-therapists-wives-12230861_low.jpg
  12. 12. Put Downs http://api.ning.com/files/YWMj-J29SNznbB5rtJnRX*ShzIBZtfPnTVABKQymDLsSErP85*x4bX0Ll6suMQeH-t3PDpZtfsmYdAqUQPXTKytu24nbN7Xw/ download1.jpg
  13. 13. Wear down by going on and on … http://operationmeditation.com/discover/ wp-content/uploads/2012/11/626-300x336.jpg
  14. 14. Pretend not to hear http://i.ytimg.com/vi/d09nf3LPM6U/hqdefault.jpg
  15. 15. Pretend to Not Understand http://followpics.me/truthfully-im-not-listening-just-uh-huh-ing-and-uh-huh-ing-until-u-get-the-point-that-im-not-listening-and- you-are-completely-and-totally-wasting-my-time-i-got-shit-to-do-today/
  16. 16. Name- Calling http://temp_thoughts_resize.s3.amazonaws. com/f1/3fb781abbf23f13b31bc7d0cd7ddc6/ The-words-that-hurt.jpg
  17. 17. Labels • Neurotic • Hysterical • Highly strung • Dysfunctional • Hypersensitive • Hypochondriac • Crazy • Psycho http://2.bp.blogspot.com/- XhFt88KDkMo/US1zlh1TPCI/AAAAAAAABSU/F_sE8v- 1N9k/s1600/ocd4.jpg
  18. 18. Keep changing the topic http://images6.fanpop.com/image/answers/3282000/3282273_1372370934686.89res_483_300.jpg
  19. 19. Gaslighting http://media-cache-ec0. pinimg.com/originals/db/a3/e7/dba3e7b4b2d9c5df940ce35f72 a8412e.jpg
  20. 20. Projection http://media-cache-ec0.pinimg.com/originals/af/68/37/af68379dac15367810059a3da5880c7f.jpg
  21. 21. Accusing http://harvestofpearls.files.wordpress.com/2012/09/pointing-fingers-copy.jpg
  22. 22. Constant Blaming http://perseka.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/07/Blame-copyright-Perseka-2010.jpg
  23. 23. Blocking http://i.myniceprofile.com/680/68038.gif
  24. 24. Not Paying Attention http://media-cache-ec0.pinimg.com/236x/9b/2d/97/9b2d97330f822279b20ad0cf320cbac7.jpg
  25. 25. Irrational Thinking http://www.lolriot.com/32-signs-which-makes-no-sense/32-signs-which-makes-no-sense-011/
  26. 26. Constant Criticizing http://fortunedotcom.files.wordpress.com/2013/05/130221101054-bossy-boss-614xa1.jpg?w=614
  27. 27. Exaggerating http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/7/77/Everyone-else. jpg
  28. 28. Twisting what I say … http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-iZFv4rMmtsE/TVVRhu0A1pI/AAAAAAAAAqQ/SeM-8Z4Q8FM/s1600/Illogical%2BTshirt.jpg
  29. 29. Unjust Criticism http://fc07.deviantart.net/fs71/i/2011/147/9/8/unjust_criticism_by_deltik-d3hdn9c.png
  30. 30. Abuse Disguised as a Joke http://www.dailybleh.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/joking.jpg
  31. 31. Denial http://www.quickmeme.com/img/5c/5c29fe97571fb65de96d61b6f5c7df162476f4f1ee5b2c8b43e08268238d61f8.jpg
  32. 32. Silent Treatment http://media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/originals/c7/b0/b5/c7b0b5eee8a9bf4bf4deff150685a6e4.jpg
  33. 33. Non-existence http://1.bp.blogspot.com/- 83b2iXY8Bb8/VFF88YBZ8YI/AAAAAAAANn0/2c39tc7PVoE/s1600/10%2BHours%2Bof%2BWalking%2Bin%2BNYC%2Bas%2Ba%2BWoman %2BCat%2BCalls%2BThreat%2BAssessment%2BPersonal%2BSafety%2B54%2BRob%2BBliss%2BShoshana%2BRoberts%2BNonverbal%2 BCommunication%2BExpert%2BBody%2BLanguage%2BExpert%2BSpeaker%2BKeynote%2BConsultant%2BLas%2BVegas%2BLos%2BAng eles%2BOrlando%2BNYC.png
  34. 34. Disinterest http://www.fugly.com/media/IMAGES/Random/cat-boring-face.jpg
  35. 35. The ‘non’ answer ‘Who?’ ‘I’m talking to you. ‘Hi, how are you?’ ‘You.’ ‘What are you doing?’ http://www.twitsnaps.com/share/photo/56555_GroupIcon.j pg ’
  36. 36. Unavailability http://yourdailycap.ca/wp-content/uploads/2013/10/NOT_NOW_BECOMES_NEVER_620.jpg
  37. 37. Excuses http://images-cdn.9gag.com/photo/16656_700b.jpg
  38. 38. Slander https://lh6.googleusercontent.com/-oi6GAdcgpPM/VGjG8C2hQiI/AAAAAAAARf8/n1rHZXkIBxc/w550- h503/narcissistic%2Bmothers%2Bsmear%2Bcampaign%2Bgossip%2Bslander%2Blies%2Bvideo%2Bby%2Bgail%2Bm eyers.jpg
  39. 39. Pathological Lying http://wellingtonretreat.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/07/iStock_000018263526XSmall-300x199.jpg
  40. 40. Lies of Omission http://img.sparknotes.com/content/sparklife/sparktalk/auntielieofomission_Large.jpg
  41. 41. Withhold – expressions of … • Love • Admiration • Gratitude • Forgiveness • Empathy • Endearment • Respect • Validation http://dianekress.files.wordpress.com/2014/06/withhold-information. jpg?w=640
  42. 42. Angry Outbursts / Rage http://th04.deviantart.net/fs71/PRE/f/2011/126/e/3/ e3564981bfc3352d1dc928fdc3e07b27-d3fr192.jpg
  43. 43. Provocation https://i.imgflip.com/857lq.jpg
  44. 44. Continual humiliation, criticism and negative comments eventually play with your head.
  45. 45. Long-term Verbal Abuse can break people emotionally and mentally, make them unsure of themselves, unable to recognize their true value and unable to trust anyone or anything.
  46. 46. You feel like you’re going crazy!!! http://s3.amazonaws.com/rapgenius/1372832146_straight_jacket.jpg
  47. 47. You lose your sense of ‘Self’ Sticks and stones can break my bones and verbal abuse can steal my soul
  48. 48. http://www.paulmcmillan.com/Resources/216_Empty_Chair_2wn.jpg
  49. 49. About Jeni Mawter Jeni Mawter is an Australian writer who first encountered Narcissistic Personality Disorder whilst researching for her young adult multi-text novel, Kiss Kill. http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00PIAD CNYKiss+Kill www.jenimawter.com
  50. 50. Please share these other links on Narcissistic Personality Disorder… • http://www.slideshare.net/jenimawter/red-flags-to-narcissistic- personality-disorder-compiled-by-jeni-mawter • http://www.slideshare.net/jenimawter/narcissistic-victim- syndrome-a-powerpoint-by-jeni-mawter • http://www.slideshare.net/jenimawter/moving-on-from- narcissistic-abuse-due-to-narcissistic-personality- disorder-npd-compiled-by-jeni-mawter

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