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Ethics of Conjugal Love and Sexuality

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Ethics of Conjugal Love and Sexuality

  1. 1. Ethics of Conjugal Love and Sexuality Absolute Sex: The Most Profound Expression of CONJUGAL LOVE
  2. 2. What is the Origin of Love and Family?  Who determined and planned that we had to exist as a man (male) and a woman (female) to be able to form a home and have children?  Could it be that there was a man or woman who planned such a thing?  Who is the designer and creator of love?
  3. 3. GOD GRAND PARENTS’ LOVE FATHER’S LOVE BROTHER’s LOVE SIBLING’s LOVE FOUR SPHERES OF LOVE Child’s sphere Sibling’s sphere Spouse’s sphere Parent’s sphere CHILD’s LOVE HUSBAND LOVE WIFE LOVE SISTER’s LOVE SIBLING’s LOVE MOTHER’S LOVE
  4. 4. The sphere of the spouses includes other spheres Husband Friend Father Son Elder brother Younger brother Wife Friend Daughter Mother Younger sister Elder sister
  5. 5. Men and Women Need One Another Masculinity Femininity For wholeness and healing Complementarity
  6. 6. The sex that we are given is an absolute and is not a matter of choice. Born (created) for woman Born (created) for man In this world there are two kinds of human beings: men and women Can they decide to exchange positions? the sex that we are given is an absolute and is not a matter of choice. Man is man absolutely and woman is woman absolutely.
  7. 7. Created for (ontological reciprocity) Made for (needed, disposable) Created for (necessary) A man is not made for a woman just to be useful as a temporary tool. Likewise a woman Man and woman are necessary for each other’s wellbeing. They exist as persons with a project and an intention. Both are the Alter Ego of each other ‘‘In love, an it (das) is not pushed toward a you (du). In love a self commits to another self’’ (Viktor Frankl) The Sexual attraction cannot be reduced to a simple need, drive, or instinct. It is controlled by a spiritual intention in order to express personal love
  8. 8. 1994 - YEAR OF THE FAMILY LETTER TO FAMILIES FROM POPE JOHN PAUL II The divine "We" is the eternal pattern of the human "we", especially of that "we" formed by the man and the woman created in the divine image and likeness. The words of the Book of Genesis contain that truth about man which is confirmed by the very experience of humanity. Man is created "from the very beginning" as male and female: the life of all humanity —whether of small communities or of society as a whole—is marked by this primordial duality. From it there derive the "masculinity" and the "femininity" of individuals, just as from it every community draws its own unique richness in the mutual fulfilment of persons. This is what seems to be meant by the words of the Book of Genesis: "Male and female he created them" (Gen 1:27). "Male and female he created them" (Gen 1:27).
  9. 9. Matter Plants Animals Man Body Spirit Instint Body Plant Mind LAWS E = M C² Woman Female + - Stamen Pistil Male Body Humans In the mineral kingdom, molecules are composed of anion and cation. Plants reproduce through stamen and pistil. Animals live as male and female, and human beings as man and woman. The human couple, on top of the universal duality
  10. 10. Manifestation of God Consummation of the creation of the universe Unity of humanity Perfection of the family Husband Wife God Divine and cosmic dimension of conjugal love
  11. 11. 1. Being an expression of God's love. 2. Total (From the whole person to whole person – embrace the totality of the person spirit and body) 3. Faithful (“I will be your man or your woman in exclusivity and forever”) 4. Exclusive (only for the spouse) 5. Sexual (different from other forms of love, paternal, filial, fraternal, it is unique, designed and destined to unite “two in one flesh”) 6. Close and Intimate (being sexual and exclusive it becomes close and intimate) 7. Fecund (open to paternity and maternity, the transmission of life and LINEAGE) 8. Committed (generates unavoidable rights and duties) CARACTERISTICS of CONJUGAL LOVE:
  12. 12. Once the husband and wife marry under the absolute power of true love, their love should become unchanging and eternal, just as eternal is the life they create through their children who are the fruits of their love. Ideally,
  13. 13. Conjugal love is a commitment to: 1. Respect man and woman as complementary representatives of masculinity and femininity (from God or nature), incomplete one without the other, who experience love and supreme happiness through their harmonious relationship. 2. To exalt the sacred dimension of human sexuality, because of its power to celebrate eternal love, to create eternal life and to perpetuate the eternal lineage. 3. Honor the sexual organs, which represent our spiritual and physical center of love, maintaining sexual purity before marriage and absolute sexual fidelity within marriage.
  14. 14. Freedom and sexuality inherent to human nature According to the ideal of love, all love relationships in the animal and plant kingdom are for reproduction only. Human beings are the sole exception. Only they enjoy freedom in the conjugal relationship of love. This is humanity's special privilege as the Lord of all Creation. The human exception. There is freedom in sexual relationship
  15. 15. Conjugal Freedom of the human being: a triple responsibility
  16. 16. 1. to master love, self-control. 2. Responsibility for an absolute connection with one’s spouse. 3. Parents are responsible to guide their children toward maturity. mind mind body body Conjugal Freedom of the human being: a triple responsibility
  17. 17. The union in the act of love should have a mystical and sacred dimension. It is the intimate union between husband and wife with God to enjoy the love that He originally designed. TRUE LOVE AND FORBIDDEN LOVE - AN INVESTIGATION INTO THE CAUSE OF IMMORALITY AND SUFFERING, ITS HISTORICAL ORIGIN AND ITS SOLUTION - Jesús González Losada - New York 1992
  18. 18. Fusion... Nail and flesh ... Image of God ... Inseparable... Unbreakable... Indissoluble... Mystic... Sacred ... Eternal ...
  19. 19. The organ of love belongs to the spouse Actually the owner of a husband's sexual organ is his wife, and the owner of a wife's sexual organ is her husband. This simple truth will never change: The woman is born to love the man. The man is born to love the woman. It is the law of nature, the truth.
  20. 20. Division Origin loved object Union loving subject This is the body, a witness to creation as a fundamental gift, and so a witnessto Love as the source from which this same giving springs Masculinity and femininity— namely, sex—is the original sign of a creative donation and an awareness on the part of man, male-female, of a gift lived in an original way. Such is the meaning with which sex enters the theology of the body. Action of giving and receiving creative donation The body which expresses femininity manifests the reciprocity and communion of persons. It expresses it by means of the gift as the fundamental characteristic of personal existence. John Paul II on the nuptial meaning of the body
  21. 21. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones, And flesh of my flesh;... For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. Gen 2: 23-24
  22. 22. The human body is made up of billions of cells. Each of the two bodies merge together in a total ecstasy of joy and radiant happiness. Physical and spiritual senses of each one of the spouses are focused and united in that moment of intimacy.
  23. 23. “Unlike the relationship between parent and child or between brothers and sisters, the conjugal relationship is not an absolute one from the beginning, as it is not bonded through the blood relation. It involves truly revolutionary determination and resolution, where a man and a woman, who have lived under different environments and circumstances of growing up, meet with each other and create a new life together. Conjugal love becomes more absolute than blood relations Nonetheless, the conjugal relationship will change into a stronger, more absolute one than the blood relations, if a couple unites into one heart and one body through true love. Everlasting and inexhaustible treasures are hidden in the conjugal relationship. If the bond of marriage is once made centering on Heaven, it will grow into an absolute relationship that is eternally inseparable.” (December 2, 2004) (Sun Myung Moon, Kouten Jidai-no Seikatsu Shinkou (Faith in life in the Age after the Coming of Heaven) (Tokyo: Kogensha, 2005), 85. – From the book - True Love, Sex, and Health by Dr. Masuda - ISBN 978-89-93083-05-7 13230
  24. 24. Love Life Lineage Husband Wife Children Descendents Male and female unite as husband and wife = Image of God The family is the cornerstone for the ideal world. Male and female, masculinity and femininity, were created for one purpose: Consummating true love. (Rev. SM Moon - Personal Notes by Dr. Shirley Stadelhofer's, Unification Theological Seminary, 1986)
  25. 25. Sex - Unite the deepest aspects of our being SexConscience Lineage Life Love
  26. 26. The consciousness of a separate self disappears, and all distinction between the lovers is annulled. The mortal element, the body, has lost the character of separability, and a living child, a seed of immortality, of the eternally self-developing and self-generating [race], has come into existence. What has been united [in the child] is not divided again; [in love and through love] God has acted and created. Each stage of its development is a separation, and its aim in each is to regain for itself the full riches of life [enjoyed by the parents]. Thus the process is: unity, separated opposites, reunion. After their union the lovers separate again, but in the child their union has become unseparated. (GW Hegel, born in Stuttgart - He wrote this at the age of 26) Hegel dialetics on love: unity, separated opposites, reunion
  27. 27. Division Origin Love Conscience Woman life Union Child Conscience Man life In love the separate does still remain, but as something united and no longer as something separate; life (in the subject) senses life (in the object) Hegel contrasts leben (life) which separates the subject and the object, and lieben (love) which enables two selves to transcend ego boundaries. Life divides us into sexual beings, separated and mortal. Love brings the two beings together, making them partners of the Absolute "Love is the absolute, the infinite; life is relative and limited. “ (Victor Hugo) Hegel dialetics on love: unity, separated opposites, reunion
  28. 28. The power of sex Pleasurable Bonding Creates a powerful unity Transmits life and creates a new person Continues lineage
  29. 29. Power can be constructive or destructive Future = Nuclear fusion Nuclear holocaust
  30. 30. The Power of Love Man Woman Union child Love An emotional force that drives a loving subject and a loved object to unite for joy Sexual love unites a man and a woman and can create life, enabling humans to live on through their children
  31. 31. The most powerful force - (Love stronger than life) • Three crucial moments in life: birth, marriage and death (marriage = new birth, victory over death) • sexual love, the source of our life. “I” was born through the loving union of a man and a woman • What drives us to give life We can sacrifice our life for loved ones One can prefer death to the loss of love The joy of bonding in love = paramount joy
  32. 32. Power of Love: stronger than life & hate Driven by his passion for his mistress Wallis Simpson, Edward VIII abdicated. The force of love could be more powerful than the desire for life. Men and women now and in the past have sacrificed their lives for their love ones. A great number of duels and deaths occurred in disputes involving a woman's or a man's love. Romeo & Juliet: Life without love is not worth living – Reconciliation of both families
  33. 33. Recognizing all dimensions of sexuality Children Marriage Pleasure Love Sex
  34. 34. Children Pleasure SexConscience Lineage Life Love Unity Commitment Mutual owners of our sexuality as a couple Recognizing all dimensions of sexuality
  35. 35. Sacred experience that allows the construction of a family and the gift of being parents. Sublime expression and stability of conjugal love. - Marriage - Channels the Power of Sexuality ‘Sexual fidelity' is beneficial for: Oneself Our spouse Our children ABSOLUTE SEX Union that generates life, continue and honors the lineage.
  36. 36. • Stability for the sharing of love • Security for children • Honors the lineage Marriage - Channels the Power of Sexuality
  37. 37. Uniqueness of Marriage Joins two lives Sex — Exclusive to the spouse • Families • Possessions • Destiny • Bodies
  38. 38. LOVE is all that exists, has always existed, and will always exist ... "God is the original owner of the sexual organs”. Let us go forward … and affirm with your spouses that your sexual organs are absolute, unique, unchanging and eternal. Proclaim that yours is truly your spouse's and what your spouse has protected so well until now is truly yours. And please pledge that you will live your life with gratitude and in eternal service to your spouse. In such families, God will dwell eternally and, centering upon them, the world- level family will begin to multiply… (Remarks by Rev. Moon at the inauguration of the Federation of Families for World Peace, August 1, 1996)
  39. 39. “I wish that you would center on the absolute sexual organ, unique sexual organ, unchanging sexual organ and eternal sexual organ, and use this as your foundation to pursue God. You should realize that this foundation should become the foundation of love, life, lineage and conscience. We also have to realize that the Kingdom of God on Earth and in Heaven will begin on this foundation…” LOVE is all that exists, has always existed, and will always exist ... (Remarks by Rev. Moon at the inauguration of the Federation of Families for World Peace, August 1, 1996)
  40. 40. With whom will we finally experience and share the intimacy of our being day by day in an eternal forever?
  41. 41. Obviously that person will be our husband or wife and of course that union includes the spirit of God that will fuse with each couple in the enjoyment of that marriage and blessed sexual love. In spite of our love, gratitude and admiration for Jesus Christ or other extraordinary men and women, they are not the people with whom, according to the original purpose of creation, we are destined to merge and become two in one flesh. Because God does not have a body and arms to embrace and just as our mind is invisible and intangible, both, here and in the Spiritual World, it will be our husband or wife who will finally become the face of God and his embraces and his Love will be the tangible and substantial expression of God's embrace and love. With whom will we finally experience and share the intimacy of our being day by day in an eternal forever?
  42. 42. APPENDIX - 1
  43. 43. As the school of love and seedbed of peace, the family is indispensable to the functioning of any society. Religious teachings encourage love in our homes, which is the basis for peaceful and thriving societies, nations, and the world. “The family is the natural and fundamental group unit of society and is entitled to protection by society and the state.” Paragraph 3, Article 16 - Universal Declaration of Human Rights - 1948
  44. 44. "The natural family is a man and woman bound in a lifelong covenant of marriage for the purposes of: the continuation of the human species, the rearing of children, the regulation of sexuality, the provision of mutual support and protection, the creation of an altruistic domestic economy, and the maintenance of bonds between the generations." FAMILY – DEFINITIONS – NATURAL FAMILY
  45. 45. First, the term signifies a natural order to family structures that is common across cultures, historical, and overwhelmingly self-evident. Second, the term signifies a wholly defensible expression. "Natural" is not "nuclear," which would limit its scope, nor is it "traditional," which would burden its utility in public discourse. It is what it is, a totally self-evident expression. Third, the term "natural" precludes incompatible constructs of the family as well as incompatible behaviors among its members. Fourth, the "natural family" is a positive expression. It does not require a discussion of negative incompatibilities to define itself. Our use of the term "natural family" is significant in many respects FAMILY – DEFINITIONS – NATURAL FAMILY
  46. 46. VILADRICH: "Marriage and family are formulas that are found in all cultures of all times and places, and not only coexisting with other formulas - which is an indisputable historical fact - but constituting the final result of the critical distillation of other formulas and sexual experiments. Marriage and family - and this is another historical fact - have not only endured all crises, but have always ended up being the synthesis of any serious sexual crisis. And it is highly probable that this old novelty will be again in the future the oldest sexual novelty. This destiny is not a chance, but a result of the persistence of certain essential constants in humanity" Marriage and Family exist universally Dr. Pedro Juan Viladrich “Agonía del matrimonio legal” – Pag. 32
  47. 47. The family is sovereign. In the history of the elaboration of the concept of sovereignty, all the classical authors (Bodin, Spinoza, Hobbes, Sieyes, Burke, Rousseau, Kant ...) soon agreed to conceive it as an absolute and indivisible power. A sovereign - said Bodin as early as 1576 - ceases to be so if he admits to another sovereign, for sovereignty is an absolute power and, therefore, its diversification is not viable. Since this is the conception that the State has of its sovereignty, - is it not foreseeable the brutality and cunning of its reaction to this other, in addition, previous sovereign power hold by man and woman, that appear before the State with the pretension to generate sovereignly, under their noses, nothing more and nothing less than the first legal bond, the first social institution: the family founded on marriage? (P J Viladrich)
  48. 48. The family is sovereign. The original and eternal love designed and blessed by God between husband and wife is a sacred and absolute birthright. The family holds fundamental and intrinsic rights, which originate from a sovereign inner authority (which are not determined by the State, neither by any other authority or institution), in fact, the sovereign family is preceding any State or institution and constitutes the foundation for all authority. This sovereign authority is the only capable to originate the first of all social institutions: The family founded on marriage as primordial society and common patrimony of humanity.
  49. 49. The family is sovereign because the original and eternal love designed and blessed by God between husband and wife is a sacred and absolute birthright. The family is an unchanging point of origin, a timeless cornerstone that cannot be altered even by the father, by brothers and sisters, or by the system of government of any country. Nothing can alter the sovereignty of the family – not the world, not heaven and earth, not even God Himself. For this reason, the concept of revolution will never be needed in the family. No revolution is necessary since the family is the throne of love. (SMM - 25-85, 1969.9.30)
  50. 50. The family is sovereign.Constitutions and laws should recognize that each person and family cannot delegate or assign any power to their government or other authorities except that which they have lawful right to exercise themselves. Any immoral conduct or social and economic illegal activity which is forbidden to a person cannot be allowed to a group, government or state.
  51. 51. Love, life, freedom of conscience, responsibility, property among many other inalienable rights and duties, do not exist because men had invented them, or because they made laws about them. On the contrary, it was the fact that love, life, freedom of conscience, responsibility and property existed before hand that caused people the need to established laws for their protection in the first place. The unalienable rights of each person and family are most likely to be protected and preserved (now and in the future) if the principles of Justice and natural law are set forth in a written Constitution. The sovereign will of our families expressed in a “Constitution" should be the more effective protection against the abuse of power, and the frailties of governing leaders. We should be governed by law and by our consciences and not by the whims of men. The sovereign authority of each person and family
  52. 52. APPENDIX - 2
  53. 53. Contributions to Marriage from Swedenborg's writings
  54. 54. That marriage is from heaven and the most important project of our life. Sure, it is important to honor our parents, but eventually they will fade away from our life. Sure, it is very important that we take care of our children the best way we can, but... eventually they will fade away from our life. But our marriage, our marital state, is all important. It will stay with us to eternity. Thus, the most important project is to be led to that marital state. That human beings do not need to fear anything in life, except to commit acts that will separate us from the love of God – Specifically: Conjugal or Married Love. Contributions to Marriage from Swedenborg's writings Emanuel Swedenborg Emanuel Swedenborg (1688 - 1772) Emanuel Swedenborg - 18th century Swedish scientist, philosopher and mystic (Seer and Revelator), which explored the spiritual world for nearly 30 years and wrote (in Latin) extensible about his experiences in that realm, made two important contributions in regard to marriage:
  55. 55. The Sensible Joy in Married Love and The Foolish Pleasures of Illicit Love by Emanuel Swedenborg Love in Marriage Translated by David F. Gladish Introduction by George F. Dole Swedenborg Foundation - West Chester, Pennsylvania Originally published as Delitiae Sapientiae de Amore Conjugiali: Post Quas Sequuntur Voluptates Insaniae de Amore Scortatorio, Amsterdam, 1768 Library of Congress Catalog Card Number: 92-060085 ISBN: 978-0-87785-141-7 Contributions to Marriage from Swedenborg's writings
  56. 56. They did this and said, "There are three basic facts about hell, but they are just the opposite of the facts about heaven. The basic facts of hell are three loves -- the love of ruling due to self-love, the love of having what belongs to others due to love of the world, and the love of fornication." "The basic facts of heaven are the three loves opposite to these -- the love of ruling due to a love of being useful, the love of having worldly goods due to a love of putting them to good use, and real married love" Once I was thinking about heaven and hell, and I began to want a basic knowledge of what they are both like, …I went to the head teachers there and asked if they knew the general facts about heaven and hell… Emanuel Swedenborg Chapter 11 - Coldness, Separations, and Divorces - pages 258, 259 – No. 261 - Delitiæ Sapientiæ de Amore Conjugiali; post quas sequuntur Voloptates Insaniæ de Amore Scortatorio ab Emanuele Swedenborg -1768 Contributions to Marriage from Swedenborg's writings
  57. 57. "There are (three universals of heaven and) three universals of hell, but the universals of hell are diametrically opposed to the universals of heaven. The universals of hell are the following three loves: The love of ruling from the love of self, the love of possessing the goods of others from the love of the world, and scortatory love. The universals of heaven are the three opposite loves: The love of ruling from the love of use, the love of possessing the goods of the world from the love of performing uses by their means, and love truly conjugial." Another Translation - “Once, after meditating on heaven and hell, I began to desire a universal knowledge of the state of each, … I asked them if they knew the universals respecting heaven and hell… they said: Emanuel Swedenborg Conjugial Love – 261 - Delitiæ Sapientiæ de Amore Conjugiali; post quas sequuntur Voloptates Insaniæ de Amore Scortatorio ab Emanuele Swedenborg -1768 Contributions to Marriage from Swedenborg's writings
  58. 58. "In the world we came from we have heard that there are no weddings in heaven because the people are angels. Then isn't there sexual love?” "Your sexual love isn't found there," the angelic spirits answered, "but an angelic sexual love that is chaste, without any enticement of lust.” (…) "If you asked them what real married love is, I know what the answer would be: that it isn't a love for the other sex but a love for ONE member of the other sex, “… three newcomers asked the two angelic spirits about heaven, and because two of the three newcomers were adolescents and a spark of sexual eagerness glittered from their eyes, … the newcomers spoke. Contributions to Marriage from Swedenborg's writings
  59. 59. which happens only one way -- when the Lord arranges for a young man to notice a young woman and the woman the man, and they both feel marriage take fire in their hearts, and they can tell that she is his and he is hers. For love meets love and makes itself known and joins both souls together at once, and then their minds join, and from there it goes into their breasts, and farther after their wedding, and this is how it becomes a complete love. It joins them together more every day, to the point where they are not two any more, but just like one. I also know that they will swear that they know of no other sexual love. In fact, they say, 'How can there be sexual love without its being so responsive and mutual that it aims at an eternal union, which is that two become one flesh?‘” Contributions to Marriage from Swedenborg's writings
  60. 60. The angelic spirits added to this. "In heaven they absolutely do not know what fornication is, nor that it exists, nor that it can exist. An angel's whole body is cold to unchaste or extramarital love, and, vice versa, his whole body gets warm from chaste or married love. Among men, every cord goes slack at the sight of a prostitute, and tunes up at the sight of their wives." Contributions to Marriage from Swedenborg's writings The Sensible Joy in Married Love and The Foolish Pleasures of Illicit Love by Emanuel Swedenborg - Marriages in Heaven - Chapter 2 - pages 49 to 54 – No. 44
  61. 61. I looked closely at the husband and the wife, one at a time, and I noticed in their faces a sort of unity of their souls. I said, "You two are one!" "We are one," the man replied. "Her life is in me and mine is in her. We are two bodies but one soul. The union between us is like the two tents in your chest called heart and lungs. She's my heart, and I'm her lungs. But here we mean love when we say 'heart' and wisdom when we say 'lungs,' so she is love of my wisdom and I'm the wisdom of her love. Because of this her love from outside veils my wisdom, and my wisdom from inside is in her love. This is why you can see the unity of our souls, as you said, in our faces.” Then I asked, "If you have this kind of unity, can you look at a woman other than your own?” Contributions to Marriage from Swedenborg's writings
  62. 62. He said, "I can. But my wife is united with my soul, so we look together, and not a shred of sensuality can enter. For when I look at other wives I look at them through my wife, who is the only one I love. And my wife can tell all my inclinations, so she sets my thinking straight and weeds out everything discordant, and at the same time she puts in a coldness and horror toward anything unchaste. So for us here it is just as impossible to look at a friend's wife lustfully as it is to look at the light of our heaven from the gloom of the underworld. For this reason we have no notion of the attraction of lust, let alone any spoken words for it." He couldn't say "fornication." The chastity of their heaven prevented it. The Sensible Joy in Married Love and The Foolish Pleasures of Illicit Love by Emanuel Swedenborg - Chapter 4 - page 82 – No. 75 Contributions to Marriage from Swedenborg's writings
  63. 63. “Unlike the relationship between parent and child or between brothers and sisters, the conjugal relationship is not an absolute one from the beginning, as it is not bonded through the blood relation. It involves truly revolutionary determination and resolution, where a man and a woman, who have lived under different environments and circumstances of growing up, meet with each other and create a new life together. Conjugal love becomes more absolute than blood relations Nonetheless, the conjugal relationship will change into a stronger, more absolute one than the blood relations, if a couple unites into one heart and one body through true love. Everlasting and inexhaustible treasures are hidden in the conjugal relationship. If the bond of marriage is once made centering on Heaven, it will grow into an absolute relationship that is eternally inseparable.” (December 2, 2004) (Sun Myung Moon, Kouten Jidai-no Seikatsu Shinkou (Faith in life in the Age after the Coming of Heaven) (Tokyo: Kogensha, 2005), 85. – From the book - True Love, Sex, and Health by Dr. Masuda - ISBN 978-89-93083-05-7 13230
  64. 64. The union in the act of love should have a mystical and sacred dimension. It is the intimate union between husband and wife with God to enjoy the love that He originally designed. TRUE LOVE AND FORBIDDEN LOVE - AN INVESTIGATION INTO THE CAUSE OF IMMORALITY AND SUFFERING, ITS HISTORICAL ORIGIN AND ITS SOLUTION - Jesús González Losada - New York 1992
  65. 65. APPENDIX - 3
  66. 66. Masculinity Femininity DIFFERENCES AND COMPLEMENTARITY BETWEEN MEN & WOMEN
  67. 67. On this subject of genetic differences between men and women, I recommend analyzing the research of Dr. David Page, professor of biology at MIT, see this conference at TED: Why Sex Really Matters http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nQcgD5DpVlQ In it, Dr. Page highlights this essential aspect: DIFFERENCES AND COMPLEMENTARITY BETWEEN MEN & WOMEN Dr. David Page
  68. 68. “… it is been said many times, that our genomes are all 99.9% identical, from one person to the next. This idea that we're 99.9% identical has gained great traction and for a number of reasons -It's very appealing to say that we are all 99.9% identical - It's so appealing that this idea was seized upon by President Bill Clinton in his 2000 State of the Union address when he stated that, "This fall, at the White House... we had a distinguished scientist visiting, an expert in this work on the human genome, and he said that we are all, regardless of race, genetically 99.9% the same."Dr. David Page DIFFERENCES AND COMPLEMENTARITY BETWEEN MEN & WOMEN
  69. 69. Wow -- it turns out that this idea is even correct as long as, the two individuals being compared are both men. It's also correct, if the two individuals being compared are both women. However, if you compare the genome of a man with the genome of a woman, you'll find that they are actually only 98.5% identical. In other words, the genetic difference between a man and a woman is 15 times the genetic difference between two men or between two women. Dr. David Page DIFFERENCES AND COMPLEMENTARITY BETWEEN MEN & WOMEN
  70. 70. Let us consider, for example, the case of Bill and Hillary - So, it turns out that Bill is as genetically similar to Hillary, as he is to a male chimpanzee. DIFFERENCES AND COMPLEMENTARITY BETWEEN MEN & WOMEN
  71. 71. By analyzing the human genome one can better understand this enormous differentiation between man and woman. It is because of these wonderful differences in nature and design that we are predisposed to be and to function in complementarity, thus constituting the basis of conjugality, marriage and family Chromosome XY = Male Chromosome XX = Female DIFFERENCES AND COMPLEMENTARITY BETWEEN MEN & WOMEN
  72. 72. DIFFERENCES AND COMPLEMENTARITY BETWEEN MEN & WOMEN To divide the human race into heterosexuals & homosexuals is a false dichotomy - Human sexuality is binary by purpose and design: men and women Chromosome XY = Male -- Chromosome XX = Female “What is real, natural, and biologically and scientifically true, is that there are only two sexes: male and female. They are determined specifically in genetic, chromosomal, chromatin, gonadal, hormonal, anatomical and physiological forms." Statement of the Consortium of Catholic Doctors Buenos Aires – August 28, 2007. Pioneer plaque - 1972
  73. 73. Very few exceptions - "Gender Incongruity" There are few exceptions of a very low percentage, such as the "Harry Benjamin Syndrome" (affecting 1 in 100,000 men and 1 in 30,000 women), which is precisely the case of Charlotte Goiar who was born with that "congenital dysphoria" recognized as “Gender Incongruity"and was the first person in Spain with a sex change operation, pay by the Social Security following the decision of the Supreme Court of Justice. Charlotte Goiar Then there are cases of "monosomy" (only one X chromosome, "Turner Syndrome", affecting 1 in 25000. They are women but with reproductive dysfunctions). There is also the case of three "trisomies": "XXY" - Klinefelter syndrome (they have male traits and 50% spontaneously miscarriages occur in 1 out of 700); "XYY" - (affects 1 in 1000, "supermale" are males and have reproductive difficulties; "XXX" - (affects 1 in 1200, are women and have reproductive difficulties)
  74. 74. God (or nature) designed us this way Cromosoma XY = Hombre Cromosoma XX = Mujer ... man and woman, there is nothing else in the middle ... DIFFERENCES AND COMPLEMENTARITY BETWEEN MEN & WOMEN
  75. 75. The designed of man and woman uniting as husband and wife are so different and complementary that for an endless forever they will be able to continue learning deeper and deeper aspects of each other and continue to grow more intimately in love and happiness DIFFERENCES AND COMPLEMENTARITY BETWEEN MEN & WOMEN
  76. 76. APPENDIX - 4
  77. 77. Historical Research – Important Lessons from History Dr. Carle ZimmermanArnold Toynbee Pitirim Sorokin Family Breakdown and Civilization Decline Dr. Joseph Daniel Unwin
  78. 78. Important Lessons from History Family breakdown leads to social instability Social instability leads to the decline of the civilization Immorality leads to family breakdown Family Breakdown leads to Social Instability Dr. Carle ZimmermanArnold ToynbeeAldous Huxley Pitirim Sorokin
  79. 79. Family Breakdown leads to Social Instability Sexual promiscuity, infidelity, and pornography lead to sexually transmitted disease, divorce, and family breakdown Family breakdown undermines social stability, good citizenship, educational development, and contributes to crime, youth alienation, and suicide. To build a world of lasting peace, we need to restore true love, true parenthood, and true family FAMILY BREAKDOWN SOCIAL INSTABILITY HUSBA ND WIF E Modern statistics support many of these propositions. But are there historical investigations over long periods of time that prove such premises?
  80. 80. Historian Arnold Toynbee observed, “Out of twenty-one notable civilizations, nineteen perished not by conquest from without but by moral decay from within.” Arnold Toynbee Source: Why Character Matters: How to Help Our Children Develop Good Judgment, Integrity and Other Essential Virtues - By Thomas Lickona Family breakdown and Civilization decline
  81. 81. Joseph Daniel Unwin - Main Works: Sex and Culture (London: Oxford University Press, 1934); Sexual Regulations and Cultural Behavior (London: Oxford University Press, 1935) Hopousia: Or the Sexual and Economic Foundations of a New Society (London: George Allen and Unwin, 1940). Sigmund Freud (1856-1939) Dr. Joseph D. Unwin British ethnologist and social anthropologist at Oxford University and Cambridge University, Joseph Daniel Unwin MC (1895 - 1936) conducted a massive study of 6 major civilizations and 80 lesser societies covering 5,000 years of history. He set out his study expecting to find evidence supporting Sigmund Freud’s theory that civilizations are essentially neurotic and destroy themselves by restricting sex too much. But to Unwin’s surprise, all the evidence he discovered pointed exactly to opposite conclusions. In his exhaustive examination of sexual behavior and their affect upon society, Unwin observed that monogamous cultures prosper and those disinclined to restrain sex to monogamous marriage remain primitive or, if once successful, they decline. Family breakdown and Civilization decline
  82. 82. Dr. Joseph Daniel Unwin “Thousands of years and thousands of miles separate the events; and there is no apparent connection between them. In human records, there is no case of an absolutely monogamous society failing to display great [cultural] energy. I do not know of a case on which great energy has been displayed by a society that has not been absolutely monogamous…” “Sexual Regulations and Cultural Behavior” by Joseph Daniel Unwin, Ph.D., Address given March 27, 1935, to the Medical Section of the British Psychological Society Family breakdown and Civilization decline “The whole of human history does not contain a single instance of a group becoming civilized unless it has been absolutely monogamous, nor is there any example of a group retaining its culture after it has adopted less rigorous customs.” (Unwin, J. D. (1927). "Monogamy as a Condition of Social Energy,” The Hibbert Journal, Vol. XXV, p. 662.)
  83. 83. “Unwin's conclusions, which are based upon an enormous wealth of carefully sifted evidence, may be summed up as follows. All human societies are in one or another of six cultural conditions: zoistic, manistic, deistic, rationalistic, expansive, productive. Of these societies the zoistic displays the least amount of mental and social energy, the productive the most. Investigation shows that the societies exhibiting the least amount of energy are those where pre-nuptial continence is not imposed and where the opportunities for sexual indulgence after marriage are greatest. The cultural condition of a society rises in exact proportion as it imposes pre- nuptial and post-nuptial restraints upon sexual opportunity.” (Huxley, Aldous (1946). "Ethics." In: Ends and Means. London: Chatto & Windus, pp. 311–12.) Family breakdown and Civilization decline
  84. 84. “Absolute monogamy” generates “social energy” What is surprising and worrying, Unwin says: … I know of no exceptions to these rules!!! Societies with high levels of “social energy” progress in every category of creative growth. This would be expressed in all areas of culture such as economics, science, justice, education, arts, and so on… When the levels of what he called “absolute monogamy” were compromised by the increase pre-nuptial (premarital) and post-nuptial (extramarital) continence, such society decline in the span of three generations Family breakdown and Civilization decline Dr. Joseph Daniel Unwin, discovered: Dr. Joseph Daniel Unwin
  85. 85. http://www.nature.com/nature/journal/v138/n3484/abs/138234b0.htm Nature 138, 234-234 (08 August 1936) doi:10.1038/138234b0 Obituary - Dr. Joseph Daniel Unwin August 8,1936 WE regret to record the death of Dr. J. D. Unwin, anthropologist and head of Cambridge House, the University social settlement in south London, which took place after an operation at the age of forty years. Dr. Unwin's studies were interrupted by his death at age 40 Unwin died before fully developing his theory of ‘the sexual foundations of a new society,’ but the incomplete results were published in another book, 'Hopousia,' with an introduction by Aldous Huxley.” Hopousia: Or the Sexual and Economic Foundations of a New Society (London: George Allen and Unwin, 1940).
  86. 86. “J. D. Unwin, whose untimely death in 1936 deprived the world of a mind at once original and methodical, unorthodox and sound, was one who liked to stress the spiral and undulatory nature of human history.” Dr. Unwin's studies were interrupted by his death at age 40 “…At the time of his death Unwin was at work on a sequel to his Sex and Culture. This book of which the unfinished fragments are now being published under the title Hopousia, treats at length of a single question: What are the conditions which must be fulfilled if a society is to go on displaying maximum energy for an indefinite period? ...” Aldoux Huxley writes in the introduction of HOPOUSIA: Or the Sexual and Economic Foundations of a New Society : Aldous Huxley
  87. 87. The American Sex Revolution (Boston: Porter Sargent Publishers, 1956) Following J. D. Unwin's Sex and Culture, Sorokin asserts that societies tend to blossom, be creative, and grow when the sexual mores favor exclusivity, monogamy, fidelity, responsibility, and family stability. Conversely, when mores encourage permissiveness, sexual exploration, serial monogamy, easy divorce, and brief and changeable family relationships (particularly with children), then societies become unstable and alienating, and they decline. Family breakdown and Civilization decline Dr. Pitirim A. Sorokin - Founder of the Department of Sociology at Harvard University - 55th President of the American Sociological Association.
  88. 88. Sorokin, Pitirim The Article discusses the impact of sexual revolution on American society. Published 1954 “The appearance of this little book is due to a voluminous reaction of the readers to my article, 'The Case Against Sex Freedom," published in This Week Magazine, January 3, 1954.
  89. 89. Dr. Sorokin, Pitirim "During the first stage of the Revolution, its leaders deliberately attempted to destroy marriage and the family. Free love was glorified by the official 'glass of water' theory. If a person is thirsty, so went the Party line, it is immaterial what glass he uses when satisfying his thirst; it is equally unimportant how he satisfies his sex hunger. The legal distinction between marriage and casual sexual intercourse was abolished. Family breakdown and Civilization decline Pitirim Sorokin wrote of his own country's revolution: The Communist law spoke only of contracts between males and females for the satisfaction of their desires either for an indefinite or a definite period, a year, a month, a week, or even for a single night. One could marry and divorce as many times as desired. Husband and wife could obtain a divorce without the other being notified. It was not even necessary that marriage be registered. Bigamy and even polygamy were permissible under the new provisions... Premarital relations were praised and extramarital relations were considered normal.
  90. 90. Dr. Sorokin, Pitirim Within a few years, hordes of wild, homeless children became a menace to the Soviet Union. Millions of lives, especially of young girls, were wrecked; divorces sky-rocketed, as did abortions. The hatreds and conflicts among polygamous and polyandrous mates rapidly mounted--and so did psychoneurosis. The results were so appalling that the government was forced to reverse its policy. The propaganda of the 'glass of water' theory was declared to be counter-revolutionary, and its place was taken by official glorification of premarital chastity and of the sanctity of marriage... Considering that the whole cycle occurred under a single regime, the experiment is highly informative. It clearly shows the destructive consequences of unlimited sexual freedom." Family breakdown and Civilization decline
  91. 91. Sorokin, Pitirim -The American Sex Revolution (Boston: Porter Sargent Publishers, 1956) Family breakdown and Civilization decline Pitirim Sorokin Harvard sociologist Dr. Pitirim Sorokin, analyzing studies of cultures spanning several thousand years on several continents, found that virtually all political revolutions that brought about societal collapse were preceded by a sexual revolution in which marriage and family were devalued
  92. 92. http://cdm15126.contentdm.oclc.org/cdm/ref/collection/p201201coll4/id/4404
  93. 93. Family breakdown and Civilization decline 1. The breakdown of marriage and rise of divorce. 2. The loss of the traditional meaning of the marriage ceremony. 3. The rise of Feminism. 4. Increased public disrespect for parents and authority in general. 5. Acceleration of juvenile delinquency, promiscuity and rebellion. 6. Refusal of people with traditional marriages to accept their family responsibilities. 7. A growing desire for and acceptance of adultery. 8. Increasing interest in and spread of sexual perversions (homosexuality) and sex-related crimes. In 1947, Harvard sociologist Dr. Carle Zimmerman wrote “Family and Civilization.” He studied the decline of several civilizations and empires, discovering eight patterns of domestic behavior that signaled the decline of a civilization: http://www.case-studies.com/nation-in-decline
  94. 94. Family breakdown and Civilization decline 1. No-fault divorce 2. “Birth dearth”; increased disrespect for parenthood and parents 3. Meaningless marriage rites/ceremonies 4. Defamation of past national heroes 5. Acceptance of alternative marriage forms 6. Widespread attitudes of feminism, narcissism, hedonism 7. Propagation of antifamily sentiment 8. Acceptance of most forms of adultery 9. Rebellious children 10. Increased juvenile delinquency 11. Common acceptance of all forms of sexual perversion Dr. Zimmerman identified eleven ‘symptoms of final decay’ observable in the fall of both the Greek and Roman civilizations. See how many characterize our society: Dr. Carle Zimmerman
  95. 95. Patrick Fagan, The Heritage Foundation - “The Breakdown of the Family” Family breakdown and Civilization decline Patrick Fagan “When the number of single parent families reaches about 30%, the community begins to break down, and the rate of crime begins to soar. The community changes from a supportive environment to one that jeopardizes the development of children... whenever there is too high a concentration of broken families in any community, that community will disintegrate.
  96. 96. CONCLUSION “The professional literature of criminology is surprisingly consistent on the real root causes of violent crime: the breakdown of the family and community stability. The sequence has its deepest roots in the absence of stable marriage.” Patrick Fagan, The Heritage Foundation http://www.heritage.org/about/staff/f/patrick-fagan http://www.heritage.org/research/reports/1995/03/bg1026nbsp-the-real-root-causes-of-violent-crime Family breakdown and Civilization decline Patrick Fagan Essay: The real root-causes of violent crime
  97. 97. An example of this social decline - USA from 1970 to 2000: Rate of marriage declined by one third Divorce rate has doubled Married couples with children declined by one third Out-of-wedlock births have tripled Cohabitation (couples living together without marriage) has increased 1000 % Source: U. S. Bureau of the Census Current Population Reports, 1970-2000 Family breakdown and Civilization decline
  98. 98. The USA leads the industrialized world in the: percentage of single-parent homes (23%)  abortion rate (22.9 / 1,000 women aged 15-44),  sexually transmitted diseases  teenage birth rate  use of illegal drugs by students (44.9 % in ‘98)  size of the prison population (327 / 100,000). Source: "Lost in America" by Tom Clegg and Warren Bird Family breakdown and Civilization decline
  99. 99. “If there is righteousness in the heart, there will be beauty in the character. If there is beauty in the character, there will be harmony in the home. If there is harmony in the home, there will be order in the nations. When there is order in the nations, there will peace in the world.” ―Confucian Proverb Family breakdown and Civilization decline Family Stability and Civilization Prosperity
  100. 100. “Righteousness in the heart… beauty in the character… Harmony in the home… order in the nation… peace in the world.” The Great Learning Family breakdown and Civilization decline Family Stability and Civilization Prosperity
  101. 101. The moral man finds the moral law beginning in the relation between man and woman, but ending in the vast reaches of the universe. (Confucianism) Doctrine of the Mean 12
  102. 102. APPENDIX - 5
  103. 103. God - Truth - Beauty – Goodness - Conscience - love - life - lineage Health – sex - resources (money) Three Great Blessings. - 1. Integrity 2. Family 3. Ecology Four Spheres of Love - 1. Filial 2. Brotherly 3. Conjugal 4. Parental Principle of RECIPROCITY - Give and receive The Golden Rule or law of reciprocity is the principle of treating others as one would wish to be treated. It is a maxim of altruism seen in many human religions and human cultures. First principles, principles of common sense, common notions or self- evident truths - Philosophy of common sense - Classical Natural Philosophy
  104. 104. First principles, principles of common sense, common notions or self- evident truths - Philosophy of common sense - Classical Natural Philosophy Thomas Reid (1710–1796) Reid calls these variously “first principles, principles of common sense, common notions, [or] self-evident truths” (Essays on the Intellectual Powers, abbreviated ‘EIP’, 6.4, 452) Common sense principles possess “the consent of ages and nations, of the learned and unlearned, [which] ought to have great authority with regard to first principles, where every man is a competent judge” (EIP 6.4, 464). …Reid's reference to beliefs held in common across time and place, across culture and religion, functions as an empirically justified generalization about species-typical features of human cognition… An Essay on The Nature and Immutability of Truth In Opposition to Sophistry and Scepticism (1770)

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