A. Meaning of Sexual Values
1. The system
of stimulation and response that a person
needs for a satisfactory sexual relationship.
2. A person's beliefs about morals, normal
and acceptable sexual behaviour.
B. Here are some questions that can help you
define your sexual values. When reading them,
think about if you agree or if you feel it applies to
you, your life, or your current relationship.
1. Do you value emotional closeness?
2. Do you believe in, respect and love your body?
3. Do you feel open and willing to share intimate
feelings with another person?
4. Are you able to express your love nonverbally as
well as verbally?
5. Are you comfortable openly asking your partner
about their emotional and sexual needs?
6. Are you comfortable openly telling your partner
your emotional and sexual needs?
Many females are able to experience multiple
orgasms, whereas most males experience a rest
period (called the “refractory period”) after they
ejaculate and before they are able to become
Also, males have an easier time determining if
they are sexually aroused, likely because an erect
penis provides a clear cue whereas females do not
have such an obvious indicator.
• Heterosexual men become aroused mostly by
women’s bodies, and homosexual men are
aroused mostly by men’s bodies.
• Heterosexual women, however, are likely to be
aroused by visual depictions of either sex,
especially if sexual activity is taking place,
though lesbians tend to be aroused mostly by
erotic images of women (Chivers, Seto, &
• Many more men than women develop
paraphilia (sexual arousal in response to
atypical situations, partners, or objects, such as
a fetish for women’s feet or women’s
• Women with high sex drives are more likely to
be attracted to both sexes, but that is not
true for men with high sex drives (Lippa,2006).
• On average, males of all ages are more likely than
females to engage in masturbation, especially
during childhood and adolescence.
• As a result, most males experience sexual
pleasure initially through self-stimulation,
whereas for many females, sexual pleasure may
be experienced for the first time with another
• By middle age, many men have developed an
increased appreciation of the relational aspects
of sexuality, and many women have developed a
greater enjoyment of physical pleasure. Indeed,
by middle adulthood, relationship factors may be
more important to men’s enjoyment of sex than
to women’s (Carpenter, Nathanson, & Kim,
• Though the frequency of sexual activity gradually
declines and bodily responses change, the
majority of both men and women continue to
engage in intercourse and other sexual activities
throughout older age (Schick et al., 2010).
• Men continue to report higher levels of
extramarital sexual activity, and they appear to
think more often about sex, though certainly not
nearly to the degree that is commonly believed
(Fisher, Moore, & Pittenger, 2012).
• While members of both sexes tend to become
more aroused by a new partner, variety in sexual
partners is considered more appealing to men
(Schmitt et al., 2003). Indeed, men consistently
report having had more sexual partners than
• Men also report higher prevalence and
frequency of masturbation at all ages. In
addition, men are more likely to report viewing
• Men tend to be more
permissive with regard to their attitudes toward
sex, and they are more accepting of casual sex.
• Men are also more likely than women to view sex
as an activity that does not have to take place
within the context of a committed relationship.
In general, women are more inclined to report
• negative emotional reactions to sexuality, a trait
known as “erotophobia.”
• The social structural theory states that the
critical cause of sex differences is social
structure. Because men and women tend to have
different social roles, they become
psychologically different to adjust to their social
roles (Eagly & Wood, 1999).
• Social structural theory views sex differences as
built-in tendencies to attempt to accommodate
assignment to social roles (Eagly & Wood, 1999).
• This theory emphasizes that mate selection by
women is not only focused on reproduction of
children but also on power and social status.
Mate selection is women's way to move up the
A. Men as Sexually Aggressive, Women as Sexually
a.1 Female-superior position
-A coital position in which the woman is on top.
a.2 Male-superior position
- A coital position in which the man is on top.
1. The first sign is if a person doesn’t know how to
take no for an answer. They may think they’re
being lead on or teased and it makes them angry to
the point of becoming sexually aggressive. They
feel this person is just playing hard to get and really
doesn’t want them to stop even if they say stop.
2. Masturbation is becoming a daily, often public
activity. Enjoying engaging in this form of sexual
behavior in front of others or out in public and
without care if it offends other people. Many often
do it to see a person’s reaction, but are not
bothered by public exposure.
3. Enjoying watching very explicit and graphic
pornography involving adults, children or even
animals. Getting very turned on by violence in a
4. Sex is not viewed as something that should be
shared by two people that truly care about one
5. Enjoys participating in sexual group activities
such as orgies.
6. Often fantasizes about dominating sexual
acts. Which may involve violence, becoming
sexually aggressive and fantasizing about harming
someone during sexual play.
7. Trying to force someone to perform a sexual act
against their will is sexual aggression.
b. Women as sexually assertive, Man as sexually
15 Reasons Why Emotionally Healthy Men Love
1. He can feel fully present.
2. He can trust you.
3. He yearns for and wants that energy.
4. He doesn’t have to worry about manipulation or
trickery and deceitful behavior with you.
5. He doesn’t have to work as hard.
6. You are so incredibly fun to be with.
7. He doesn’t have to “save you.”
8. You are deeply spiritual, and likely intuitive.
9 .He knows you aren’t interested in “changing
10. He realizes you’re taking a risk on him.
11. You’re not a clueless communicator.
12. You take care of yourself and look good
13. He loves your attitude about life.
14. He loves your inner security.
15. You’re love life is anything but “boring.”
a. Meaning of Aphrodisiac
- something (such as a food, drink, or drug) that
causes or increases sexual desire.
• One of the most
oysters are high in zinc
and have a reputation for
being great for love and
recently found that
oysters contain amino
acids that trigger
production of sex
2. Chili Peppers
• This invigorating spice has an
exotic reputation and a bright
red color, which could be why
it's considered a symbol of
love. But there's scientific
backing, too. Chili peppers
stimulate endorphins (the
brain's feel good
chemicals), speed up heart
rate and make you
sweat, which all mimic how
you feel when you're
aroused, Dr. Meryl S.
Rosofsky told the New York
• It could be the sensuous pear
shape, or the rich flavor of the fruit
that gave avocado its aphrodisiac
reputation as far back as the Aztecs.
And while the jury is still out on just
how lust-ful avocados are, Barbara
Klein, professor of food and
nutrition at the University of
Illinois, told the California Avocado
Commission that the fruit's high
levels of vitamin E could help keep
the spark alive because of its role in
maintaining "youthful vigor and
• Chocolate is sensual,
from its taste to its
aroma, but dark
chocolate has also been
shown to cause a spike in
dopamine, which induces
feelings of pleasure.
• With its phallic shape,
bananas already look like a
feel-good food; but they
also contain bromelain, an
enzyme which Dr. Oz
says triggers testosterone
production, and the fruit's
potassium and vitamin B
elevate energy levels.
• Honey is made through pollination
and is a symbol of procreation.
Birds and bees ring a bell? In fact,
the word 'honeymoon' got its
name from mead, an alcoholic
beverage made from honey given
to the happy new bride and groom.
It also contains boron, which
helps regulate estrogen and
testosterone levels and provides
a natural energy boost.
• The caffeine in coffee is a
stimulant that ups the heart
rate and makes the blood
flow. One study conducted
with female rats and
published in the
Behavior suggested that
coffee could put women in
the mood for sex.
8. Watermelon • According
to sciencedaily.com, this
'lycopene king' may have
a Viagra-like effect on the
body, as it relaxes blood
vessels and improves
9. Pine Nuts
• High in energizing zinc,
which has been linked to
a healthy sex drive, pine
nuts are also considered
aphrodisiacs because of
the effort required to
procure these oily gems
from pine cones.
10. Arugula • According to
peppery plant has been
documented as an
aphrodisiac since the first
century A.D. The minerals and
antioxidants found in dark
leafy greens like arugula have
also been proven to block
that could negatively harm
libido, says Dr. Walt Larimore
MD, a medical journalist,
author and physician.
• Human Sexuality in a world of Diversity (4th edition)
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