Based on the book by Gary Chapman, “The Five Languages of Love”
“The minute I heard my first
love story, I started looking
for you, not knowing how
blind that was.
Lovers don't finally meet
They're in each other all
The Illuminated Rumi
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is no one definition. It is organic, a
process, where just like a garden if nurtured
and looked after it grows into a beautiful
relationship full of intimacy and love.
like a bank account, you have to make
deposits before you make withdrawls. Every
day, multiple times a day, you have to make
a deposit. A kind word, a look, a touch, a
gesture, a call,…
Married life is about
Mawada and Rahma
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“Speak a good word or remain silent”
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good things to your spouse and about
your spouse, eg “ I love you, appreciate
you,…”: Who did the Prophet (SAW) love the
“O Messenger of Allah, who do you love most?” Prophet Muhammad replied
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“When I am with you, we
stay up all night.
When you're not here, I can't
go to sleep.
Praise God for those two
And the difference between
“I can live for two months
on a good compliment.”
- Mark Twain
is amongst other things about being in
When the Prophet (SAW) was at home he focused on the family. Whoever
he met he gave his full and undivided attention. 110%. Togetherness has
to do with focused attention not just physical proximity.
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“Your task is not to
seek for love, but
merely to seek and
find all the barriers
within yourself that
you have built against
giving is universal. It is an expression of
appreciation, love, and more.
The Prophet (SAW) was the most generous and there are many examples
of him both giving and receiving gifts. Gifts may or may not have
monetary value. Make it personal, thoughtful, based on on an occasion or
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“In your light I learn
how to love. In your
beauty, how to make
poems. You dance inside
my chest where no-one
sees you, but sometimes
I do, and that sight
becomes this art.”
Your Love Through Actions.
Find out the likes and dislikes of your spouse. Read his or her body language,
not everything is explicitly said. What can you do around the house to
help? How can you take care of your self, hygiene, beautify yourself,
fitness, and other ways to show your spouse, you care?
The Prophet was described by his wife that ‘he was in the service of his
“I want to see you. Know your voice.
Recognize you when you first come 'round
Sense your scent when I come into a room
you've just left.
Know the lift of your heel, the glide of
Become familiar with the way you purse
then let them part, just the slightest bit,
when I lean in to your space and kiss you.
I want to know the joy of how you
is built on all the senses.
Kissing, flirting, embracing, holding hands, cuddling as well as making love
are all parts of physical intimacy.
The Prophet (SAW) would passionately kiss his wife, and then leave for
prayer without performing wudu accord to Aisha (RA)
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do you appreciate most about your
What makes you feel most loved?
What do they say or do that hurts most?
What do you wish your spouse knew about
what you desire above all else?
How do you express your love to your spouse?
Acts of Service
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