Wed February 3, 10:30am - 2:30pm New England Cohort
Wed February 17, 12:00pm - 2:00pm NY/NJ Metro Cohort
TBD February (video conference) Mid-Atlantic Cohort
• Our Purpose: “ encourage, equip, and multiply church planters
for a sustaining church planting movement”
• Open in Prayer
Coaching | Intro to the Practice of Christian Coaching
Our Working Definition
• “Coaching is an on-going intentional conversation that empowers
a person or group to fully live out God’s calling.” ~ Keith E. Webb
Key Resource (Keith E. Webb, Creator & Author):
• The COACH Model for Christian Leaders: Powerful Leadership Skills
to Solve Problems, Reach Goals, and Develop Others
Four Coaching Assumptions
1. The Holy Spirit speaks directly through many means
2. All people have a holistic calling
3. Coachee-driven results are most relevant
4. Special techniques by coaches improve coachee learning
Contact & Quick Info | links are clickable in blog post and pdf at www.jasoncondon.com
Jason R. Condon
Associate Superintendent & Director of Church Planting,
East Coast Conference of the Evangelical Covenant Church
• (860) 479-2020
(Cohort handouts and resources posted here)
Quick-Start Guide to ECConf Church Planting
• "Understanding Covenant Church Planting" (or
covenant-church-planting.html) - seminar handout
introducing concepts & strategy
• "What Are We Looking For in A Church Planter?"
(or bit.ly/Qfbiue ) - an overview of what we value in a
church planter and his or her ministry
• "Church Planter Identiﬁcation Process"
(or bit.ly/TfnyKr) - an overview of how we assess
church planters and pursue church planting within the
East Coast Conference and the Covenant
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Spiritual Dynamics in Coaching
The Holy Spirit
Christian coaches are not a substitute for the Holy Spirit.
Sometimes coaches forget. Experience, intuition, and
spiritual discernment can tempt coaches to move to
More important than the coach’s perspective is
the Holy Spirit’s perspective and how He’s leading
All believers have the
Holy Spirit, but not all
believers hear His voice
and know how to
respond well. Listening
to the Holy Spirit is key
to understanding God’s
will. The coach’s job is
to provoke reﬂection in
the coachee, toward the
How much do you
trust the Holy Spirit
to “teach and remind”?
The Body of Christ
Every believer has the Holy Spirit and thus a direct link to
God without a human priest mediator. Spiritual
discernment is a social, not individualistic, process.
God created the Body of Christ as a social setting where
His will is made known, interpreted, and applied. A
person outside an active role in the Body of Christ
cannot fully understand and apply God’s will in
his or her life.
The Christian coach plays an important role in helping
the coachees to think through how they are processing
their spiritual discernment with others and how they
might involve the appropriate members of the Body of
Christ in that process. Coachees mature through
their interaction with the Body of Christ.
The Transformational Formula
There are four key elements
that facilitate transformation:
1. Holy Spirit
Each is essential to the transformational formula.
Transformation rarely happens without all four. Just for
fun, let’s write it as a formula:
HS × (D + A + R) = T
The Holy Spirit (HS) multiplies the sum of
Discovery (D), Action (A), & Reinforcement (R),
producing Transformation (T).
The Holy Spirit is the ultimate generator of discovery and
action. It is the Holy Spirit who brings transformation to
the lives of people. The reinforcement of the Holy Spirit
through peace, fulﬁllment, and a lack of panging
conscience encourage a person to further transformation.
The coaching process is focused on discovery. Discovery
comes in the form of new self-awareness, insights, ideas,
learning, attitudes, facts, realizations, etc. The bread and
butter of coaching are discovery and action.
Without action steps coaching is merely a nice
conversation. Although encouraging, without action there
is no change, no translation of any new discoveries into
the life of the coachee. Coaching is about action.
As coachees act on their discoveries they get some kind of
feedback—a result, a reward, or consequence. This
feedback can reinforce or weaken the new behavior of the
coachee. The coach must reinforce all actions taken toward
the coachee’s desired ends, regardless of the actual results.
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“But the Counselor, the Holy Spirit,
whom the Father will send in my name,
will teach you all things and will remind
you of everything I have said to you.”
~ Jesus (John 14:26)
Body of Christ
The C.O.A.C.H. Model
Following a simple coaching model will help you to coach
better. The COACH Model™ has ﬁve steps to guide
you through a coaching conversation.
1. Connect | Engage the Coachee
The ﬁrst step is to connect with the coachee and build
rapport & trust. It’s a human connection between coach
and coachee. And it’s a spiritual connection between the
Holy Spirit and coachee & coach.
The coachee will share a variety of things happening in
his or her life. These topics may or may not become
topics for the conversation. This information provides a
bit of background “color” to the coachee’s state of mind.
• How have you been?
• What’s God been doing in your life lately?
• What insights have you had since our last
A coach will also use this time to follow-up the last
conversation’s action steps.
• What progress did you make on your action steps?
• What did you do on your action steps?
2. Outcome | Determine Convo Goal
Find out what the coachee considers to be a valuable
topic and for the coaching conversation goal. Through
dialogue, the coach and coachee determine how to best
use the coaching conversation. This may mean following
up on previous topics, or engaging in new ones.
• What result would you like to take away from our
• What would you like to work on?
• What would make today’s conversation successful?
3. Awareness | Reflective Dialogue
Ask questions & practice active listening. Listen beyond
coachee’s words. Encourage & give appropriate feedback.
Challenge assumptions appropriately. Encourage
discovery, insights, commitment, and action through a
reﬂective dialogue. Discovery is the key to this stage.
• What are the keys points to understand this situation?
• What is your desired outcome in this situation?
• What other factors are inﬂuencing this situation?
• Let’s look at this from a different perspective…
Practice all the coaching skills, seeking discovery, and
follow up with questions like these:
• What else do you think or feel about this?
• What would help you move forward?
4. Course | Action Steps
This step seeks to capture the insights and put them into
actionable steps. Coach and coachee will continue a
reﬂective dialogue, but this time focused towards a course
of action. The result will be clear action steps the coachee
will do before the next coaching conversation. Try for 2-3
action steps for each coaching topic.
• What actions would you like to do to move forward?
• What options do you have?
• Which of options would you like to do? How? When?
• On a scale of 1-10 (with 10 high) how conﬁdent are
you that you can do this plan?
(If 7 or below go back and work on the plan.)
5. Highlights | Learning & Action Steps
Ask the coachee to review their learning, insights, and
what they found helpful. This review helps the coachee to
deepen their learning, and helps the coach know what the
coachee found valuable. Also, ask the coachee to repeat
their action steps.
• What would you like to remember from this time?
• What parts of discussion were particularly helpful?
• What awareness do you have that you didn’t before?
• What are your action steps?
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Determining the Convo Outcome
The topics in coaching conversations usually come from
the coachee. There are Two parts to the Outcome:
1. understanding the topic
2. measurable goal for topic
Example: two volunteers read aloud…
• Coach: “What result would you like to take
away from our conversation?”
• Coachee: “I want to grow in my relationship with my spouse.”
• C: That’s a big topic! What part would you like
to talk about to move you forward this week?
• “I want the relationship we had when we were ﬁrst married.”
• C: Could you give me a speciﬁc example of
that kind of relationship?
• “Sure. Everything was new and fresh. We had time for each
other and it was exciting to spend time together. It just doesn’t
feel like that anymore. It seems like all we do is focused on the
kids or doing work around the house.”
• C: In a nutshell, what’s the outcome you want?
• “I want time together with my spouse that’s focused on just us.”
• C: How much ‘us’ time would you like?
• “A couple times over the next week would be great.”
• Coach: So, you’d like to think through and
create a couple of ‘us’ times for you and your
spouse over the next week?
• Coachee: “That would be great.”
• In Pairs: Rotate Roles between Coach & Coachee
• 5min each: 4min coaching + 1min debrief
Ask the coachee what they want the outcome of the
conversation to be.
• What result would you like to take away from
Use questions to explore, clarify, and focus the coachee’s
topic/problem/goal. This step can be the source of much
discovery and relief for an overwhelmed coachee.
• What in particular about that is important to you?
• What would achieving that do for you? For others?
• Let’s back up a minute, what’s the bigger issue behind
• What do you mean by ______________ ?
• Could you give an example of ______________ ?
• What would ____ look like if you could become that?
• That’s a big topic, what part of that would you like to
focus on today?
• What aspect of that problem would you like to work
on right now?
• What part of this would be most immediately helpful
to you to address this week?
Test your understanding of the outcome by restating it to
the coachee, or asking the coachee to restate it.
• Just to check my understanding, today you’d like to
work on ______________. Is that right?
• Just so we’re clear, would you please restate what
you’d like to work on today?
• So, is that what you’d like to focus our conversation
Write Your Outcome
My desired conversation outcome:
• What struck you while doing this activity?
• Who had a different experience?
• What conclusions can you draw from this activity?
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Powerful questions are those that reveal information
for the beneﬁt of the coachee. (Not the asker.)
• Asking based on active listening
and the coachee’s agenda.
• Asking forward moving,
not backwards looking questions.
• Asking questions that stimulate clarity,
discovery, insight, and action - not correction.
Towards Powerful Questions
Compare the following questions.
1. Are you happy with your ministry?
2. How do you feel about your ministry?
3. What about your ministry do you ﬁnd most
4. How does your ministry connect to
God’s calling in your life?
5. Why might it be that God directed you
to this ministry?
Techniques that communicate,
• Vocal responses: “Umm hum,”
“Yes,” “I see,” “Continue,” etc.
• Restating what the other person said,
“So, you are saying that…”
• Clarifying the other person’s meaning,
“Would you give an example of…”
• Facing the other person.
• Keeping comfortable eye contact.
• Nodding in agreement.
• Avoiding distracting behaviors such as looking at a
text message and interrupting.
The 80/20 Rule
In coaching, the focus of the conversation is on the
coachee. They set the agenda, they talk the most, and
they create their own action plans. The coachee talks and
the coach listens 80% of the time. Listening is of great
value to the coachee and a wonderful gift to give.
How to Listen Better
Listening is a skill. You can learn how to listen better.
1. Listen with your Mind
• Give the coachee your attention
• Try to enter into their frame of reference, their world
• Focus on what’s behind their words
• Don’t let your mind wander
2. Listen with your Body
“…when there is a discrepancy between verbal and non-
verbal signals, people pay more attention to the latter.”
~ Zeus & Skifﬁngton
• Do you sound interested?
• Do you have the proper amount of eye contact?
• Do your arms, hands, posture say, “I’m interested”?
• Your non-verbal will be “seen” even over the phone
• What are the coachee’s non-verbal signals
communicating to you?
• Check your assumptions about the non-verbal with
3. Listen with your Words
• Paraphrase what the coachee said
• Ask clarifying questions, if needed
• Don’t ﬁnish sentences or provide missing words
• Don’t give advice or solutions while they are talking
• Summarize main points
4. Listen with your Intuition
• Listen for the meaning behind the words, gestures,
and body language
• What is the coachee not saying?
• Test your intuition with clarifying questions
5. Listen with the Holy Spirit
• Use spiritual discernment.
• If you hear from the Holy Spirit, then ask, Should I
share this with the coachee? And When should I
• How can you share this in a way to enable the
Thinking About it…
• Mark the ways of listening that are natural to you
• Mark the ways of listening that you want to work on
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Opening Up Questions
Closed questions can easily be turned into open questions.
Use What, How, When, Where, & Who questions.
• Closed: Are you planning to borrow the $ to do that?
• Open: What are your plans to ﬁnance that?
• you’ll stand up and mingle around the room
• verbally change the closed questions into an open
question and say the open question to someone else
• If other person agrees that it is now an open question,
they’ll initial next to the original closed question
• do one or two with one person, then move on
Asking questions from many different angles can help
broaden the coachee’s perspective and increase insights.
1. Begin with a summary
2. followed by a question from the new angle.
• Explain the situation.
• Step back for a moment, what are underlying issues?
Pick “New Angle” Question (in Any Order):
• What are the relational dynamics in this situation?
• What “people work” needs to be done to move
• What guidance could you receive from the Bible?
• How might you apply that?
• What changes need to be made in you?
• How would you describe yourself with the changes in
• What result would you like to have from this
• What would achieving that do for you?
• From a spiritual perspective, what do you see?
• What spiritual solutions might be helpful?
• In what ways might culture be involved?
• What are normal cultural ways of handling this?
• What other factors are inﬂuencing this situation?
• How can you use these factors to move forward?
• What are the ﬁrst steps to work on this?
• What parts give you energy?
• What was your experience with this exercise?
• How did using angles help?
• What are other angles to coach from?
Questions to Open Up Initials
1. Are you happy about this decision?
2. Does your supervisor agree?
3. Can you think of any other ideas?
4. Do you learn from books
or by talking to people?
5. Is it time for you to make a career move?
6. Is there anything else you’d like to say
about this topic?
7. Would Tuesday be a good time to talk?
8. Are you living out your vision?
9. Does your spouse think the same way?
10. Are you going to ask him?
11. Could someone on your team help?
12. Did you raise your support?
13. Did you have a nice day at school?
14. Is church planting your main thing?
15. Is casting vision next step for the team?
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“After three days they found him in the temple courts,
sitting among the teachers, listening to them and
asking them questions. Everyone who heard him was
amazed at his understanding and his answers.”
~ Luke 2:46-47
Group Practice | Coaching Triads
1. Triads: get into groups of three (3)
2. Rotate Roles:
• 10min each × 3 rounds
(8min coaching + 2min observation feedback)
• Switch between Coach, Coachee, & Observer
3. Coach: is responsible to…
• use good active listening skills
(verbal and non-verbal)
• and ask at least three (3) open questions.
• Start by saying, “What result would you like to
take away from our conversation today?”
• state your simple conversation goal:
• respond to coaches questions and prompts
5. Observer: jot notes below and give one (1)
minute of feedback on these points:
• What verbal active listening behaviors did coach
use? What nonverbal ones?
• How many open questions were used?
• What other question types did the coach use? (make
best guess! - 7 Q Types explained in much longer
training are: 1. closed, 2. open, 3. directive, 4.
emotion, 5. facts, 6. why, & 7. permission, can also
note “New Angle” Questions)
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# of Open
Questions Types of Questions & Angles
Restated a Q.
2 closed questions (but fixed :)
emotion: “how do you feel…”
fact: “how many small group leaders…”
Angles: Spiritual, Culture, Relationships
Group Debrief and Q&A
• What did you do well?
• What could you improve?
• How could you do that differently next time?
• What did you learn from observing?
• What was your experience?
Goals & Work for Next Time:
(this will only be a smaller portion of our gathering)
1. To-Do: Everyone Bring a Conversation Goal
2. Practice: Guided Practice on fuller COACH Model
using real-life conversation outcome goal
3. Trial Triads: during gathering, determine “beta
version” of Coaching Triads for summer trial run
NOW: Schedule Coaching Calls
• visit meetme.so/jasoncondon for 45-60 min
slot in Feb (2 days available or request others)
Pre-COMS (Committee on Ministerial Standing)
• Due March 1: Paperwork Deadline
• (Interview Dates scheduled April 12-13)
Church Planter Training Intensives | Minneapolis
• Wed March 9, 6pm – Mon March 14, 12pm
(Fall: Wed Sept 14, 6pm – Sun Sept 19, 12pm)
• Invitation Only for new Cov. Church Planters
that received “Recommend” at AC, still pre-Launch
Church Planter Cohort Gatherings:
• Mid-Atlantic Cohort (TBD)
• NY/NJ Metro Cohort (usually 3rd Weds)
Wed March 16, 12:00pm-2:00pm
• Greater Boston/New England Cohort
Wed March 30, 10:30am-2:30pm
COMS Interviews | Berlin CT
• Due March 1: Paperwork Deadline
• Tue April 12 – Wed April 13 (with participants only
scheduled on-site for approx. 2 hours)
• Committee on Ministerial Standing (COMS) is
necessary for entering credentialing process, 3 year
check-ins, care issues, & ﬁnal-prep for Ordination
ECConf Annual Meeting | New Rochelle, NY
• All Church Planters expected to attend
• Thu April 28 – Fri Lunch April 29: ECConf
Ministerial Association. Thu: Continuing Ed and
Evening Worship. Fri Morning: Business Meeting
• Fri Afternoon – Sat Lunch April 30:
ECConf Annual Meeting for Delegates & Pastors
Assessment Center | Chicago
• Tue April 12, 11am – Thu April 14, 11am
(Fall: Tue Oct 18, 11am – Thu Oct 20, 11am)
• Invitation Only for Church Planter Candidates
sufﬁciently advancing in assessment process. Should
be engaged in Assessment Process for at least six
months to be considered for an invite
Urban Church Planters Conference | NYC
• Tue May 17, 7:30pm – Thu May 19, 12:30pm
• a 3-day gathering in NYC for urban church planters
and pastors - many of whom will be from the
Covenant (check website for the Cov All-Star lineup!)
• An ECConf & Covenant "Destination Event":
• Full Scholarships for all ECConf Planters
• Mike Brown is bringing a large NWConf group,
with other Covenant Planters likely as well
• REGISTER NOW with Group Rate of $129
(reimbursement details will be emailed)
Church Planter Cohort Gatherings:
• Need to Schedule. Available Dates:
Wed June 3, Thu June 4, Wed June 10, Thu June 11
Covenant Annual Meeting | Phoenix
• Thu June 23 – Sat June 25
JULY & AUGUST
Pilgrim Pines Summer Season | Swanzey NH
• June 29 – Aug 13: Camp Squanto Youth Camp
• July 2 – Aug 19: Mayﬂower Family Camp
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