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The Butterfly Emerges Self-coaching Session 1


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This is a self guided session on self-awareness and discovering who you are in Christ. It goes hand-in-hand with The Butterfly Emerges Workbook, Finding Your Confidence in Christ that can be purchased at

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The Butterfly Emerges Self-coaching Session 1

  1. 1. THE BUTTERFLY EMERGES SELF-COACHING SESSION Part 1 – Self-awareness Presentation by I M CONFIDENT Niagara Canada Created 2018 by Brenda Silveira
  2. 2. ABOUT THIS PROGRAM This is a self-led coaching session that is based on actual confidence coaching sessions and information contained in The Caterpillar to Butterfly Self-Esteem Workbook. Use them together build your knowledge base and give you the tools that are needed to build your confidence and increase your self-esteem. They will help keep you motivated and encourage you to move forward in life. Please note that our visual presentations and printed information are not intended to replace any professional help you may be receiving. Use them in conjunction with your current services and/or programs. If you are feeling overwhelmed by life situations or feel that this information is not helping you properly, please contact your health professional for assistance. YOUR LIFE IS VALUABLE!
  3. 3. ROME WASN’T BUILT IN A DAY  READ PAGES 2 - 8 People want instant gratification today. We want things to change quickly and we want everything to happen NOW! However, even though some changes are quick, most take time, especially if they are going to be of any benefit to us. If we want good changes to happen, it requires that we open our mind and heart. Change is a process that is ongoing and it requires a commitment and taking action. We all need to make changes in our lives and everyone can change if they really want to. So let’s get started on making some awesome changes.
  4. 4. READ ROMANS 12:2 This verse tells us that we should not let the world tempt us into living a lifestyle that is not good for us. Instead of following the ways of the world, we need to work on change by renewing our minds daily so we can think the way God thinks. This WILL be difficult and you WILL encounter setbacks, but remember that God will always be there to help you, even when you get discouraged or feel depressed. When you are struggling, look up scripture on the topics you need help with and pray daily for God’s help.
  5. 5. Many people don’t really know who they are. We live according to the expectations of others and we put up walls to protect ourselves. We see ourselves through the eyes of the world instead of God’s eyes so we see a distorted image of ourselves. KNOW THYSELF. ~Plato
  6. 6. READ PSALM 139:14 This verse tells us that we should praise God for who we are because we know that He has done a good job. It doesn’t matter what people think, it only matters what God thinks and He thinks we are wonderful and marvellous!
  7. 7. TURN TO PAGE 9 The stages in our lives are similar to those of a caterpillar. Answer the questions on this page to determine what stage you are at now and what stage you want to reach. STAGES OF OUR LIVES
  8. 8. Do you know the difference between confidence and self- esteem? Simply stated – confidence is something that other people see and self-esteem is something that only we can see. The picture of the dog shows confidence – we can see he is happy running. The picture of the cat shows self-esteem. We can see the cat but only the cat can see the strong lion that lives inside. CONFIDENCE AND SELF-ESTEEM
  9. 9. We can do this through: 1. Doing a honest self-evaluation 2. Learning to accept ourselves 3. Changing our self-image Ask God to guide you through this process. Ask Him to show you anything that is hidden deep inside yourself.  Read page 10 and do the self- evaluation exercise. HOW DO WE GAIN THE CONFIDENCE TO BECOME BUTTERFLIES?
  10. 10. • Most people have distorted ideas about who they are • Need to discover God-given abilities, personality traits, expectations 1) SELF-EVALUATION
  11. 11. What do you say when you wake up in the morning? Think about the first words that come out of your mouth. Are they positive words that lift you up and make you feel good or are they negative words that drag you down and make you feel bad?  Read page 11 and do the exercise. Then do the exercise on page 12. Did you learn something new about yourself? POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS
  12. 12.  Read page 13 -14 and do the exercises. It is important that we focus on the abilities that God has given us and work hard to reach our potential. We ALL have unique worth and value. Know that you are God’s child and He loves you just the way you are but He wants you to become the best version of you that you can be and will help you every step of the way. 2) SELF-ACCEPTANCE
  13. 13. READ PSALM 118:8 We should always put our trust in God because He is the only one who has the power to help us. If we trust people, they will always disappoint us and they can’t help us with our problems because they don’t know how to solve their own problems.
  14. 14. We show others how we feel about ourselves through our appearance and actions. Our inner beauty tells others that we value ourselves and it can make a huge impact on the way they see us. It is important that we try to look our best but outer beauty fades and isn’t consistent.  Read page 15 and do the exercise. 3) SELF-IMAGE
  15. 15. There’s a difference between pretty and beautiful. When someone is pretty, they have a good appearance. But when someone is beautiful, they shine on both the inside and outside.
  16. 16. SELF-ESTEEM When we feel good about ourselves and can accept our strengths and weaknesses, we will build confidence and our self-esteem will grow. Read pages 16 - 17 and do the exercise.
  17. 17. Society continually pressures us to become perfect in a world that is imperfect. Think of ways that you are pressured daily to become someone you are not. Write down your thoughts on the notes pages at the end of the workbook. WHY IS IT SO HARD TO BECOME CONFIDENT IN TODAY’S WORLD?
  18. 18. READ PSALM 22:19 When we are in trouble we often turn to other people for advice but many times their advice doesn’t work or it makes things worse. The first thing we should do when we are struggling is ask God for help. He is always near and ready to help.
  19. 19. Most of us play the comparison game in one way or another. However, it is a game we can never win. There will always be someone who is smarter, richer, more popular and better looking. We all want to fit in and be accepted by others but we are looking externally instead of making changes within ourselves. However, our value doesn’t come from what we look like , what we know or what we have. Our value comes from who we are. Look at the next slide and see if you are one of these game players. DO YOU PLAY THE COMPARISON GAME?
  20. 20. I wish I looked like Barb. She is so beautiful. THE COMPARISON GAME
  21. 21. IT’S TIME TO STOP BEATING OURSELVES UP! Life is NOT perfect People are NOT perfect The grass is NOT really greener on the other side of the fence Happiness does NOT come from outside, it comes from inside
  22. 22. Ask God to help us make positive changes in our lives Start believing in ourselves Start loving other people Start being a good example to others Start helping others believe in themselves SO WHAT CAN WE DO?
  23. 23. READ MARK 12:30-31 The most important thing we can do is love God and love others as we love ourselves. Once we are able to do this, we will gain the confidence needed to make positive changes that will help us deal with any difficult situations in our lives and be able to face each day with peace and joy.
  24. 24. Are you experiencing high levels of stress in your life? Stress is accepted as a normal part of life but too much stress is very damaging to our health. How can we control the stress in our lives? Read pages 18 – 19 and do the exercises. S.T.R.E.S.S.
  25. 25. READ JOSHUA 1:8 A powerful tool for developing confidence and relieving stress is reading God’s Word. Scripture can be very uplifting when you are feeling down and depressed. It can bring peace when you are full of anxiety and stress. It can give you answers to all your questions.
  26. 26. Find a mirror and look directly into it. Who do you see? Read pages 20 – 21 and do the exercises. NOW LET’S FIND THE BEAUTIFUL BUTTERFLIES!
  27. 27. …is the ONLY ONE who can make you happy! THE PERSON YOU ARE LOOKING AT...
  28. 28. *You don’t have to let the world stress you out YOU ARE THE BEAUTIFUL BUTTERFLY! *You don’t have to be like anyone else *You are one of a kind *You are unique *YOU ARE SPECIAL!
  29. 29. Read page 22 and do the exercise. Then take a few minutes and do the Positive Shapes Activity. This will help remind you daily what an awesome person you really are!!! WHATDOYOULIKE ABOUTYOURSELF?
  30. 30. READ JOHN 3:16 This is probably the most known verse in the Bible. It tells us that God loved us so much that He sent His only son into the world to die for our sins. WOW! If God who created the universe loves us and created us in His own image, we should love what He created. We are awesome and GOD LOVES US!!
  31. 31.  Read page 23 to discover things that will help you become more positive. …it takes a lot of hard work and patience. BEING POSITIVE DOESN’T COME NATURALLY
  32. 32. Here is a list of some things that will help you become more positive. Decide what you are willing and able to do and write them done. □ Change what I watch on TV □ Read books that inspire me □ Listen to music that uplifts me □ Start exercising regularly □ Eat healthy foods □ Join an interest group □ Volunteer for a local organization □ Visit a local church □ Start a hobby □ Your idea……. A CHECKLIST
  33. 33. physically spirituallymentallyemotionally  Turn to page 24 and circle all the qualities that pertain to you. There should be lots!! BEING POSITIVE HELPS ALL OF US STAY HEALTHY
  34. 34. WE CAN ALL BE BUTTERFLIES!  Turn to page 25 and draw or paste your picture in the space.
  35. 35. READ GENESIS 1:27 This verse tells us that we were created in God’s image and we need to remember this when we are feeling that we don’t measure up to the world’s expectations. Instead we need to try and measure up to God’s expectations. What does God expect of you? Ask Him!