NEW VERSION Teaching your child self esteem


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NEW VERSION Teaching your child self esteem

  1. 1. TEACHING YOUR CHILD SELF-ESTEEM Presented by I M CONFIDENT Niagara Canada Created by Brenda Silveira
  2. 2. WHAT IS SELF-ESTEEM? • Self-esteem is a term in psychology to reflect a person’s overall evaluation or appraisal of her or his own worth. (Wikipedia) • In other words, it is how we see ourselves. It is a collection of our self-beliefs or feelings.
  3. 3. HOW DO WE GET SELF-ESTEEM? • Self-esteem is not something we are born with • It is something that we learn from the environment we grow up in • This includes our parents, peers and everyone we connect with in our community
  4. 4. CONCEPT OF SUCCESS • Children learn this concept at a very young age • Children will try to roll over, fail, try again, fail and keep trying until they are successful • When they finally succeed, they feel good about themselves • If we encourage them, this will help build their self-esteem
  5. 5. A HEALTHY SELF-CONCEPT In order to have a healthy self- concept, children need: • to feel love from parents and peers • encouragement from parents and peers • to interact with others in a positive way to create a positive self- concept
  6. 6. CHILDREN WITH LOW ESTEEM • Are critical of themselves • Become withdrawn • Are disappointed in themselves • Get frustrated • Give up easily • Don’t want to try new things • Use negative self-talk
  7. 7. CHILDREN WITH HIGH ESTEEM • Know their strengths and weaknesses • Enjoy interacting with others • Can deal with challenges • Are optimistic • Enjoy group activities • Use positive self-talk
  8. 8. HOW TO BUILD YOUR CHILD’S SELF-ESTEEM • Be a positive role model • Be loving and supportive • Be encouraging • Be a good communicator • Spend time with them • Discipline with love • Help them to set goals • Allow them to make mistakes
  9. 9. HOW TO BUILD YOUR CHILD’S SELF-ESTEEM Be a positive role model. • Children learn by what they see and hear • Be the person you want your child to be • Watch your words and actions as they may be imitated • Be careful with criticism as it has negative effects
  10. 10. HOW TO BUILD YOUR CHILD’S SELF-ESTEEM Be loving and supportive • Create a secure, loving home environment • Give hugs and show respect • Acknowledge their feelings • Watch for signs of outside problems and immediately deal with them • Give support even if you don’t always agree with their choices
  11. 11. HOW TO BUILD YOUR CHILD’S SELF-ESTEEM Be encouraging • Encourage your child to try new things • When a new skill is learned, praise them for their effort • Help them feel proud of their accomplishments • Be patient when they have problems
  12. 12. HOW TO BUILD YOUR CHILD’S SELF-ESTEEM Be a good communicator • Talk in a positive way with your child, not to your child • Be open to discussion on any topic • Listen attentively and respond wisely • Talk one-on-one • Keep lines of communication open even if they aren’t talking
  13. 13. HOW TO BUILD YOUR CHILD’S SELF-ESTEEM Spend time with them • Spend time with your child and show them how valuable they are • Do things together as a family • Get them involved in positive activities • Teach your child to be nice to others and do acts of kindness
  14. 14. HOW TO BUILD YOUR CHILD’S SELF-ESTEEM Discipline your child. • Discipline with love • Separate the child from the action and punish the action not the child • Set reasonable boundaries and enforce them • Always be fair and open-minded • Don’t judge or be overly critical
  15. 15. HOW TO BUILD YOUR CHILD’S SELF-ESTEEM Help set realistic goals. • Setting goals will help your child build confidence and increase their self-esteem • Goals give purpose to life • Help child to write down goals and follow them • Help to break down larger goals into smaller, achievable goals
  16. 16. HOW TO BUILD YOUR CHILD’S SELF-ESTEEM Allow your child to make mistakes. • Teach your child that life is not perfect and they will fail sometimes • Allow mistakes to be made but encourage them to try again • When your child fails, support them and discuss lessons learned and ways to improve the next time
  17. 17. HOW TO BUILD YOUR CHILD’S SELF-ESTEEM Teach them about self-image • Body image often becomes the main focus of a child’s life, which can be harmful without strong self-esteem • Discuss how society creates an unrealistic image of beauty and help them understand that real beauty is not just how they look • Teach your child to be confident about who they are
  18. 18. REVIEW • Be a positive role model • Be loving and supportive • Be encouraging • Be a good communicator • Spend time with them • Discipline (with love) • Help set goals • Allow mistakes • Teach them about self-image
  19. 19. PLANTING POSITIVE SEEDS It is important that we plant positive seeds in the lives of our children so they will develop a healthy esteem and grow to be responsible, caring adults. On the following page, there is information about a book on positive parenting.
  20. 20. Grandma’s Notes on Parenting This is a book written by a grandmother to help parents learn some simple steps to positive parenting. If you copy and paste this link it will take you to my bookstore grandma-s-notes-on-parenting