Most of you have heard the expression, ‘A picture is worth a thousand words”. What kind of picture are you showing the public by the way you dress, your style and how you act? (pause) Is it a true picture of who you are, or do you hide behind a mask to cover up your flaws and imperfections? (pause)
Many of us live false lives under the disguise of someone we want to be, and are not really showing our true self to other people. We hide behind masks because we think that people won’t like us, respect us or accept us for who we are. We hide our real feelings and don’t share them with others because they might make fun of us, ignore us or gossip about us. We feel imperfect, unworthy and inferior.
In order to accept ourselves as we really are, we have to develop a strong self-esteem, be confident in our abilities and accept our strengths and weaknesses.
On page 53 what kind of label did you put on these people?
Caterpillar to Butterfly Self-coaching Session 3
CATERPILLAR TO BUTTERFLY
Part 3 – Building Body Confidence
Presentation by I M CONFIDENT Niagara Canada
Re-Created by Brenda Silveira 2018
This is a self-led coaching session that is based on actual confidence coaching sessions and
information contained in The Caterpillar to Butterfly Self-Esteem Workbook. Use them
together build your knowledge base and give you the tools that are needed to build your
confidence and increase your self-esteem. They will help keep you motivated and
encourage you to move forward in life.
Please note that our visual presentations and printed information are not intended to replace
any professional help you may be receiving. Use them in conjunction with your current
services and/or programs.
If you are feeling overwhelmed by life situations or feel that this information is not helping
you properly, please contact your health professional for assistance. YOUR LIFE IS
YOU THINK IS
THE ANSWER IS……BODY IMAGE
Up to 70% of young females don’t participate
fully in life’s activities because they feel bad
about their body image
Up to 45% of young males are unhappy with
the way they look
No matter if you are a female, male, a child,
a teen, an adult or a senior – we all have
some issues with our body image
READ PAGES 41 -42
Look back at page 20. You were
asked to describe yourself. Now
that you have learned a bit
more, has anything changed?
Do you see yourself as a
Do you see your abilities?
Can you see your inner
HOW WOULD YOU DESCRIBE YOUR
How does the young
girl see herself?
How do we see her?
Why doesn’t she see
herself the same way
as we do?
LOOK AT THIS PICTURE
A DISTORTED VIEW
Our beliefs are often distorted because of what people said to us
The media portrays unrealistic images of beauty and body image
We see ourselves through the eyes of the world, not as we really are
Here is what we should believe about ourselves………….
BEAUTY AROUND THE WORLD
Around the world people have different views of what beauty
is. Here is how beauty is portrayed in North
America…..young, tall, skinny.
BEAUTY AROUND THE WORLD
(ancient) China Ethopia
In ancient China, they believed
that tiny feet were beautiful. Foot
bones were broken and bound
which caused lifelong pain and
difficulty in walking. Thankfully
this is no longer practiced!
In Southern Ethiopia, Karo
girls have the skin cut on
their stomachs and other
parts of their bodies so they
will have scars. This helps
them get a husband because
they think scars are beautiful.
BEAUTY AROUND THE WORLD
Thai/Burma New Zealand
The Pa Dong Tribe on the
Thai/Burmese border believed that
long, thin necks were beautiful. At
about age 6, women had rings put
around their necks and more added as
they aged. These were removed on
their wedding night. Wonder what
happened to the women who didn’t
In New Zealand, Maori
women have blue tattoos
placed on their lips and chin
because ultimate beauty is to
have full blue lips.
BEAUTY AROUND THE WORLD
In some African and Amazonian
tribes, they believe a stretched lip is
beautiful. A hole is made, gradually
adding larger plates to increase lip
size. Sometimes teeth even had to be
removed. This may look strange to
us, but these woman are considered
to have status and good social
position. Some of the women have
stretched their lips so far that they
can pull them over their own heads!
In many African countries such as
Mauritania and Nigeria, they pity
skinny women. They believe that
skinny people are poor and
undernourished. Women eat as
much as possible to become fat,
even to the extreme of going to a
SO WHAT IS THE REAL MEANING OF
From the previous slides, you can
see that the world views beauty as an
outward appearance, however this
can be very different depending on
where you come from.
On page 42 it gives the proper
definition of beauty and nowhere
does it state that it means perfect.
Unfortunately the world has twisted
the meaning and leads us to believe
we are lacking in something.
FALSE – REAL – FALSE
HOW DO THESE IMAGES MAKE YOU
Like a failure?
Like you don’t
THE TRUTH ABOUT BEAUTY
We are all different and unique
Beauty can’t be bought so don’t waste money on
The media shows a distorted idea of body image
Beautiful, perfect people in the media are just
ordinary and have flaws and imperfections that
have been carefully concealed
Beauty comes from within and shines right
through for everyone to see
Celebrate the differences in people and enjoy life
EVERYTHING YOU HEAR
Many companies purposely try to make
you feel bad with their advertising. ‘You
need this product.’ ‘You need this service.’
service.’ All they want to do is make
money through your pain.
Beauty cannot be bought, it is something
that comes from within each one of us.
We already have it, we just have to find it
and develop it.
with positive people,
places, things will help
you become more
Avoid or limit negative
people, places, things
READ PAGES 43 – 44 AND DO THE
OUR INNER AND OUTER CIRCLE
On page 43 you made a list of your friends. Which ones
should be in your inner circle and which ones in your
outer circle? Think carefully! You may have some in the
DO YOU FEEL BEAUTIFUL?
The more confidence you have, the
better you will feel about yourself and
the easier it will be to deal with
Feeling confident helps you with
relationships, work, school and
finding your purpose in life.
READ PAGES 45 AND DO THE
A GOOD SELF-IMAGE STARTS
WITH A HEALTHY BODY
It is important that we
take proper care of our
bodies though good
exercising and getting
PAGES 46 – 50 COVER ALL THESE
TOPICS. READ THEM AND DO THE
A proper diet is
for a healthy body.
causes all sorts of
READ PAGES 51 – 52 AND DO
Change eating habits
Create regular, long term plan of action
Combine diet with exercise
DRESS and STYLE
A PICTURE IS WORTH A THOUSAND WORDS.
What kind of picture
are you showing the
public by the way
you dress, your style
and how you act?
Are you hiding
behind a mask?
When we meet someone for the first time, we put a label on
them. This quick judgement is often unfair and unrealistic
because we don’t really know the person at all. Often we share
our distorted opinion with others which becomes their
distorted opinion and so on.
Would it be fair for someone to judge you when they don’t
If we want people to be fair with us, we have to be fair with
them and set a good example.
READ PAGE 53 – 54 AND DO THE
A PERSONAL MAKEOVER
READ PAGE 55 AND DO THE
Do you need a personal makeover?
Most of us would like to change our
appearance, but what about our
thoughts, actions and words. It is
important to look good but what about
the things that go on inside our
minds? These are far more important.
Maybe you could even help someone
else do a personal makeover. Do you
know anyone could use your support?
DEVELOP A NEW SELF-IMAGE
Be positive about how you look
Don’t put yourself down
Accept yourself for who you are
Stop trying to be somebody else
Use your strengths and abilities
Develop your inner beauty
Be a positive role model for others
YOU HAVE COMPLETED
PART 3. ONE MORE
SESSION TO GO!