How to find a thai 'good girl' girlfriend or wife in thailand
How to Find a Thai 'Good Girl'
Girlfriend or Wife in
Tens of thousands of Western men come to Thailand every year,
most of them because they're looking for a Thai girlfriend or wife.
The biggest mistake a lot of these men make though is choosing a
'bar girl' or prostitute, simply because these are the girls they can
meet easily and most of them speak English. But, if you wouldn't
date or marry a prostitute in your own country, why would you
want to date or marry one in Thailand? For a lot of men though,
they're not sure how to meet a 'good Thai girl' (this is what the
Thais call them) and, even if they do, what do they talk to her about
and how do they treat her? For those Western men who are looking
for a good Thai girl, here are a few tips to help you find a nice Thai
girlfriend or Thai wife and, once you've found her, how to treat her
1. Good Thai Girls Won't Talk To You First.
If you come to Thailand to meet a girl, and a Thai girl talks to you
before you talk to her, believe me, she's not a good Thai girl. Well
brought up Thai girls from good families are taught never to talk to
men first, and definitely never approach one. So, no matter how
much the girl tries to persuade you otherwise, she's not a good Thai
girl. Good Thai girls are shy and reserved and you will have to
approach them. But where?
2. Where To Meet A Good Thai Girl.
A lot of Thai women like Western men and would love one as
a boyfriend. Thai men often have the reputation of having too
many girlfriends and a lot of them still have a mistress (or mia
noi) even after they get married. Consequently, quite a few
educatedThai girls aren't that interested in marrying a Thai
guy. These girls also think that Western men are better (I'm
not sure if that's true, but who am I to judge!) A great way to
meet Thai women is to hang out in coffee shops or
3. Dinner With The Chaperone.
Once you've met a nice Thai girl and want to see her again,
ask her out for dinner. Thais love to eat more than any other
nationality on the planet and they love going out to dinner.
However, a good Thai girl will always bring a friend, a sister, or
a cousin with her on at least the first two or three dates
(sometimes more) and you will be expected to pay for both of
them. Good Thai girls always have to have a chaperone so, if
the girl you meet immediately agrees to meet you for dinner
alone, chances are she's not a good girl.
4. What to Buy Thai Girls As Gifts.
Thai girls just love getting gifts and that's one thing Thai guys are very
good at. As a potential new boyfriend therefore, you will be expected to
give her a gift or gifts. It doesn't have to be too expensive (expecting very
expensive gifts is another dead giveaway that your girl isn't such a good
one), but it should be cute. Thai girls of any age (even in their 40s) love
soft toys. A teddy bear, rabbit, fluffy cat or stuffed whale will be fawned over
and loved. Chocolates are also adored, as are flowers. You can buy huge
bouquets of flowers at the markets in Thailand, often for less than $5 and
the seller will arrange them in an elaborate bouquet for you. Thai girls love
5. Meeting The Family.
Thais are very connected to their families and their family will be more
important than anything, including you. If your Thai girl starts to get serious
about you, she will expect you to meet her family. And, if you start getting
serious, at least once weekly lunches or dinners will be expected. If, after a
few weeks, you haven't met her family either she doesn't like you enough,
her parents don't approve of Westerners, or she's trying to hide something
about them. None of these are good signs and if, after asking, you still
don't get to meet the family, it might be time to look for another girl.
6. Be Sweet To Her.
One thingThai guys are really good at is being sweet. They sweet talk girls,
they are always kind to them, they buy them gifts, they take them out for
lunch, and they allow the girls to think they're the boss (well, most of the
time, they are!). Consequently, a Thai girl is going to expect you to act the
same. If you are too aggressive, too rude, not polite when you're out with
her, and expect her to have sex with you, she won't stick around for very
long. Think about your long-term goals, and be patient. Thai women
usually make amazing wives, so treat her nicely from the minute you meet
her and you won't be sorry.
7. Try To Find A Girl You Have Something In Common With.
Too many Western men in Thailand marry Thai women they have nothing
in common with. Many of them marry women who don't speak much
English and they don't speak much Thai. A year later, the gild has gone of
the lily and they're bored stiff with their marriage and their wife. There are
many Thai women who would like to have a Western boyfriend or husband
so choose carefully. Try to meet girls you have something in common with
and who speak some English. Especially in Bangkok, there are many
educated girls and most of them will speak some English.
8. Don't Expect A Good Thai Girl To Have Sex With You.
Now, of course this is slowly changing but, overall, most good Thai girls
will not have sex with you until they marry you. At least 60 to 70% of Thai
women are virgins when they get married, so they'll expect you to wait to
have sex too. Of course, there are definitely Thai women who are having
sex before marriage but it's not a subject they will talk about, even with
close friends. So, if you meet a Thai girl, she jumps into bed with you right
away and seems to know what she's doing, there's only a miniscule
chance in heck that she's a good girl.